i am at my wits end!!?

Question

My 3 yr old son has been completely potty trained for the past few months. NOW he says he doesnt want to go on the potty anymore, and every time i turn around he's peed on something! Its mostly his rug and carpet in his room. Now he just peed on our couch and a pillow!! What should I do with him? and how should I clean the couch?? would a steam cleaner work? im going insane!

he does go on the toilet. he has never used a potty seat, he never liked them. and i have been spanking him and making him stand in the bathroom for like 10 minutes. then he just does it again later. i am not letting him by any means, i am trying to stop it! he was potty trained about 3 times before this last time. it seems like he will be potty trained for a few months, then always go back to peeing himself. its like a never ending cycle.

to those who said i shouldnt spank him, YOU COME CLEAN MY HOUSE THEN. it is getting ridiculus and its my last resort! do you think i havent tried everything else?? you are the ones who have probably not been there! my son is the devil when his dad is not home. he screams at me constantly, hits me and his little sister, and thinks he runs the house! TALKING to him DOES NOT WORK!!

also, i WILL spank my child when he is doing something INTENTIONAL. he KNOWS not to pee his pants, he does it on purpose. so yes, i am going to punish my child for it.

Answer 1

Make him wear diapers again and tell him he is a baby and not a big boy. I would get a steam cleaner to clean it and use the pet urine stain removal juice to get it out

Answer 2

I read all of your additional details, but still, spanking your son for peeing is the wrong thing to do. Obviously something is going on with him, and punishing him for having an accident is going to cause damage.
My 3 year old had this same kind of trouble with pooping on the potty... she would try to hold it and dirty her underpants several times a day. It was frustrating, but I never hit or told her she was bad. I told her repeatedly to listen to her body and started forcing her to sit in there several times a day even if she swore she didn't have to go. Then I started bribing her. I'm a big fan of bribery. I made her a sticker chart, bought her a new My Little Pony for $5, stuck it in the bathroom and told her that if she pooped in the potty 3 times she could have the pony. It worked like a charm. Haven't had an accident since, though I did have to buy her a few more small gifts to earn for her to feel really successful.
Bottom line: you need to talk to your son's doctor, stop hitting him and figure out what the real issue is. Is he too busy playing to stop for pee? Then you need to remind him a lot. Is he trying to tell you he needs some more attention? Then give it to him.
He's only three! Relax! Put him back in Pull-Ups if you can't handle the stress.

Answer 3

Something major has changed in his life (whether or not it's major to you is beside the point), causing him to rebel against the potty. Sift through everything that happened right around the time he started avoiding the potty and see if you can find the culprit--then have a gentle conversation with him about it. If he wants to go back to diapers, allow it. He WILL eventually use the potty full-time, barring any mental or physical handicaps. Pushing it or making any kind of big deal about it will slow the process down.

As far as the wet spots--when my son wet his bed, I always used a spray cleaner on the spot, such as Lysol or really anything handy, then generously sprinkle baking soda (I buy it by the bucket at Sam's Club) and let it dry completely. Once it's dry, vacuum it up with the attachment on your vacuum, and there shouldn't be any smell left. No scrubbing, nothing fancy--but it worked. If you hesitate to put any kind of cleaners on your furniture, use a mixture of vinegar and water in a spray bottle, then use the baking soda on that. You can also put a drop of tea tree oil or lavender oil in the water, if you have it.

Answer 4

Maybe you could try using the toilet rather than the potty and getting him to stand up. My little boy bacame too big for the potty. Keep taking him to the toilet or asking him if he wants to go. Even now at 4 years my son still needs reminding as he as accidents.
Good luck

Answer 5

Maybe he forgets, sometimes kids are to busy playing to remember, I know it must be annoying, but remind him and ask him if he needs to go to the bathroom every few minutes. Also, kids learn there actions from somewhere...I strongly believe that he might be hitting you because he doesnt like what you are doing at the time...and when you don't like what he is doing...he gets hit. That doesn't make it right for him to hit you...that is all he knows. When he does something bad (peeing on himself or floor etc...) sit him in a special chair or corner for 1 minute for each year of his age (3 years old...3 minutes). 10 minutes is way to long for a 3 year old!

Answer 6

Sounds like he is doing it to get a rise out of you and its working. He is testing his limits and at that age they start to be defiant. I know its EXTREMELY annoying but remember he is your little child you are a grown adult. Sudden change in behavior like that can be caused by something significant changing in his life. Could be anything but sounds like he is being defiant because he wants more time with dad that's why he pees when you are around and not the dad. The dad needs to have a talk with him and everything needs to calm down. As for cleaning try using pet odor spray. It will soak into the couch and neutralize the smell and when it dries it will disappear.

Answer 7

well first of all u don't spank him and him in the restroom for 10 min. for heaven's sake he is only 3 years old. yoUr only suppose to give him time out for 3 min. it is usually the years he is in min for time out. girl and don't be so cruel on him and Ur self just put him on some pull ups. u have to understand what is bothering him. maybe he got scarred in the restroom or he seen something unusual. maybe u need to talk to him and not spank the poor kid. that is probably why he is acting that way towards you. or maybe he wants ur attention and by u hitting him, punishing, and yelling at him he sees that u jump for him. i don't know but you need to really reward him and not be so harsh on this boy. everything is washable and don't worry about the materialistic stuff that is getting peed worry about his internal feelings and what is wrong with him...

Answer 8

Has he learned to pee in the toilet standing up? He may just be learning how to control the "little fireman" and he enjoys peeing on everything.

I would explain to him why peeing outside of the bathroom is not okay. Then I would put some fruit loops in the potty and ask him to stand and aim for them. And, as bad as it sounds, I would give him the opportunity to pee on trees in your backyard as often as possible. I think it may help to alleviate the fun of peeing on your good rug.

Good luck!

Answer 9

when he does it not on the potty take him and give him a cold shower (not ice cold but cool) tell him that if he pp's or poo's in his pants again he gets another cold shower and tell him it will get even colder each time

when he does go on the potty give him a reward like a sticker

and for the couch let it dry then spray it with antibacterial and clean with warm water

hope i helped

good luck

Answer 10

I know you think spanking is the answer...it isn't. It never is, it'll actually make things worse. To call your child the devil; what is wrong with you. I understand he isn't being "good" to you. Maybe he's learning this behavior from someone *ehem*. Sounds like you need a breather to regroup yourself...maybe I'm wrong, maybe he is the child of satin. Take him to therapy if YOU think he's so bad. Children act out for many reasons, mostly because there is something "off" in thier environment.
I dunno but it just sounds like you are going about this all wrong. Children can act bad but they just aren't bad for no good reason....
Look I'm not judging you, talk to his pediatrician...get outside help. Please stop hitting your precious child, no matter how bad it gets.