My dad has been stressed out lately and has become apathetic. He used to fish, hunt, and enjoy himself but now he isn't. He is diabetic and I have asked him if he is checking his blood sugar, he said once a day, I asked him how much he should, he said four, I asked him if he could check it more often and he said whats the point. What should I do???? Please help me find a way to get out of this stage. Hes been like this for two weeks. Please Help Me!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-08-29 11:01:30 · 19 answers · asked by Nick T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Maybe you should sit down with him and try to get out the real reason that he is acting this way. And explain to him that you really care about him and his health and you would like him to check it more because you care. And why dont you tell him that you wanna go out n have fun w/ him again because you liked the dad he was before better. Sounds like he's really depressed and thinks he has nothing to be here for. (what's the point....) Doesn't sound too gr8. Good luck w/ it and the best thing to do is let him kno you love him and want your DAD back.
2007-08-29 11:08:19 · answer #1 · answered by A to da Izzay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you have a pretty good relationship with him so you should be able to talk to him. What he needs to understand, or the way in which he is thinking incorrectly about this, is that he is focused on HIMSELF, sort of like a small child that can really only deal with pursuing their own tiny goals at that stage of their life. His mindset should be that he should attempt to live as long as possible for the well-being of his family. The Pope probably could have died sooner than he did if he had wanted to give up, but he knew he meant a lot to people and this his very life was an inspiration and he forced himself to live as long as humanly possible and set a great example for so many. Billy Graham could just give up, with his wife now gone and he himself in pretty bad shape, but he doesn't. Chief Justice Rehnquist could have resigned as Chief Justice when he was very sick and taken an easier route to his grave, but he forced himself to continue to work, and he died "in office." Look at Ronald Reagan and Gerald Ford. And these are all recent examples, within a few years. And these are examples of people who were old and near death naturally. I doubt seriously your father is their age or anywhere close. He may need a wake up call, an insult, nicely worded that he is actually being quite selfish.
2007-08-29 18:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by The Scorpion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he a recently diagnosed diabetic? It could be overwhelming for him.You need to have a calm discussion about how you are concerned that he is unhappy and what can you do to help. I know you are worried, but nagging will not help - you can develop depression when you are diabetic. If you cannot seem to get through to him, I would suggest talking to someone regarding getting him some professional help. He needs to see that by taking care of himslef, he is showing how much he loves you and wants to be there for you and stay healthy - maybe offereing to do some of those activites with him, or to cook healthy together and share some time together - good luck
2007-08-29 18:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by s'mores 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its seems as if your dad is going threw a little depression,so why don't you suggest an outing so you can enjoy some time with your dad,go fishing,enjoy the great outdoors, make sure you let him know how much you enjoy the time you've spent together,and how much you love and need him around.if you have a son tell your dad, how you would like to make a special boys family tradition were you can all have 1 day just to be together and enjoy each others company,
2007-08-29 18:16:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a diabetic really sucks , so if he isn't watching his sugar level like he should then do father-n-son things especially exercise go walking make arrangements for both of you to go fishing Exercise is Very Good for diabetics.
2007-08-29 18:07:51 · answer #5 · answered by Dee U 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First I have to say I think it's kewl that you care about your dad. I think you should try to get him to do those things, and do them with him. I'm sure he's glad that if nothing else, he gave life to you, and hopefully in your life you'll do things to make him proud. Tell him that you want him to be okay and that's "the point". Giving up on life is not the way to go. Try to hang out with him and get him a pet and stuff like that. Tell him family is important and he has to be strong for them, because apparently you're being strong for him. Good luck.
2007-08-29 18:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by Liquid Snake 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's checking and its high and he doesn't know what to do to get it down. Can you check and see what kind of numbers might be recorded on the meter?
Research on web what those kind of numbers might mean. Fasting ideally is below 100, and no number should be above 200.
Then talk to him about going to the Doctor.
Is your mother around can you talk to her?
Does he have a sibling that you can get involved?
High Blood glucose can easily lead to depression and in activity.
2007-08-29 18:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by keezy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and tell him that you've noticed that he seems very stressed out and depressed. Ask if there is anything you can do to help. Invite him to go fishing with you or out to dinner, etc. If he refuses everything, talk to him about seeing his doctor and getting something for depression. Most of all, don't just walk away. A depressed person needs someone to force them to get out there and do something.
2007-08-29 18:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by Rahrah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is going to sound strange, but just tell him that life is like a river; it has its ebbs and it has its flows...
if that sounds too proverb-ish, just tell him that life is about change. change can be good or bad. it is how you deal with those changes that makes you who you are...and ask him if the way he has been acting lately is the way that he wants to define himself in the face of a problem...
remind himself of his self-worth as a human being and a father...if his life was so fulfilling...is it really worth it to waste whatever time he has left by being depressed?
it's easier to run away from a problem than it is to confront it. but there's a difference between what is easy and what is morally correct.
we all have our bad days, but doting on whatever caused us to have a bad day is pointless. bitching and crying don't do anything to solve the problem itself. it's better to actually get up and do something about it if you want to fix it... and who better to fix it than yourself?
a person has to confront their problems and move on...i know it's a cliche, but remind him that "whatever does not kill me only makes me stronger"
it's possible that he could ask you what you know about it on account of the fact that you're not him and therefore do not know exactly what he is experiencing. he could say that you're young and not diabetic...that you don't know how it feels like. just reply that wisdom is not determined by age but rather by understanding...and that at least you have the courage to face your problems and move on (well at least i hope you do) as opposed to simply whining about a given problem and moping about it...
2007-08-29 18:25:27 · answer #9 · answered by Bored... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you love him very much and you are worried. Say the things you said here and maybe he will see what he is doing to his family. It all comes down to him though you cannot make him do something he does not want to do.
2007-08-29 18:08:01 · answer #10 · answered by shiverz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋