ive been talking to this guy for 2 months and according to other people he was soppose to ask me out but didnt so i asked him to be my boyfriend and he said he wanted to take it slower but we have already had sex couple of times and i spend the night at his house every weekend...thats def. not taking it slow. im really confused. and after i asked him out and he said no he asked if i wanted to come over and hang out for the night...guys i would really like to hear from you all the most...and if it helps im only 17
2007-08-29 10:45:06 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry but it sounds like he is using you for sex. If you really like him, stop sleeping with him. Maybe he'll come around
2007-08-29 10:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by Alissa 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are a booty call to him. Guys don't call their girlfriends late at night to come over the house and hang out for the night...they call their girlfriends to go to the movies or dinner.
Sorry to say but sounds to me this guy is stringing you along so that when he has nothing better to do can call you and feel wanted.
This is by no means a knock on you. He trusts you, but at the same time believe he can manipulate you into fullfilling his desires. You should move on and up, don't allow yourself to be talked into anything else with this guy because he doesn't respect you.
2007-08-29 10:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by billy m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your being used. He's just says "Taking it slow" b/c he's leading you to think that in the future there will be a boyfriend/ girlfriend thing. He's just using to get what he wants (sex) and then later tell you it's not working out the way he had thought. Leave him! Trust me!!
P.S. Sleeping over his house and your only 17?! Thats just crazy! Your tooooo young
2007-08-29 10:53:40 · answer #3 · answered by michellev519 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is definitely not interested in a relationship. Guys like that who keep saying to take it slow and have already gone that far with you just wanna keep you around and keep having sex with you and to have fun with you every once in a while without being in a relationship. Cos in a relationship they have to be sort of responsible and maintain and actually be monogamous.
2007-08-29 10:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by Triathlete88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He only wants you for sex. And your only 17, stop trying to "play house" by sleeping over at a guys apartment, you should only do that when your older and in a serious and mature relationship.
2007-08-29 10:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just using you for sex, honey!! He has no intention of ever being your boyfriend. When guys say they want to "take it slow," yet have no problem having sex with you occasionally, that means they don't want to be with you long-term. Get out now before he gets you pregnant and bails.
2007-08-29 10:51:42 · answer #6 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are seriously being taken advantage of! If you're having sex, he is NOT taking it slow. If he wont be your boyfriend, stop hanging out with him and definitely stop having sex with him. He just wants to have his cake and eat it too (as the old saying goes).
2007-08-29 10:51:21 · answer #7 · answered by Rahrah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you have had sex with him and are having sex with him he is getting what he needs without the commitment. I can't be sure this is his thought on it all, but many men are like this. I would tell him that if he wants to continue acting like you're together then you would prefer he made a commitment to you (be your bf).
Good luck!
2007-08-29 10:52:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop having sex with him. He's not ready for a relationship, that's why he told you he wants to take things slow... He's just enjoying the sex right now... Move on. Seriously... If he's not willing to be your boyfriend, you need to stop allowing him to use you for sex...
2007-08-29 10:51:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no... he doesn't want to take it SLOW, he wants to get it while he can. Forget him. He's a jerk. He wants to sleep with you with no commitment.
No more sleeping with people outside a relationship! And how about YOU take it slow? You're not even 18 yet, and you're having non-committed relations, and with a person that you clearly don't know very well (because you are completely misreading his intentions!)
Good luck...
2007-08-29 10:51:34 · answer #10 · answered by a-mac 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he doesn't want to be tied down to one girl. If it was me I'd give him an ultimatum and say "Look, either we're boyfriend and girlfriend or no more sex. Think it over." If he wants you that bad he'll be willing to compromise.
2007-08-29 10:51:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋