He came clean or so I think I can only go off of what he tells me. The woman even wrote me and said nothing is going on and to please forgive her and she knows he made a mistake and to trust him again. And yes I know it was her who wrote me.
2007-08-29 10:18:58 · 79 answers · asked by charmaustin05 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you two are perfect for eachother
2007-08-29 10:21:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 1⤋
Wow, well, do you believe in Karma? What happens goes around. At least he was honest with you about it which is good sign. Trust may be broken, but it can be repaired with time. Make sure you two have a calm converstation about what happened. If you argue, it'll make it worst. You both were doing something wrong (dont' matter how long ago it was), it's important that both of you understand that neither one of you will do it again. Talk to each other about why you did it in the first place. Dont get into details, but there's has to be a reason why it even happen. So, once you talked things out, make it a rule that you two will never bring it up, nor will you forget. Forgive each other and move on. Lack of trust can destroy a relationship. Maybe not right away, but eventually it can. If you love each other that much, you wil work at it. It takes two to tango....
2007-08-29 10:27:28 · answer #2 · answered by Pwincess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Preach it, Bill W. You're right on the money, bro. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You need to understand something about people who cheat. This isn't just a one time "oops" I slipped and landed in bed with someone else type of thing. Being that untrustworthy is a character flaw. A relationship is something built on TRUST, and once you convince yourself it is OK to violate that once it shows that you have a major flaw. If you wanted to bang someone else why didn't you just leave your boyfriend to begin with? Neither of you are ready for a relationship it seems, you should both take some time apart, and have a good time. If it was "meant to be" you'll end up with each other some day.
2007-08-29 10:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by The Ball Coach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a clear example of Karma coming back to bit you in the butt. I'm sorry to hear about your man cheating but you can't really fault him cause you did it to him first. It seems to me that both of you have issues with each other and ya'll may be better off not together cause "two wrongs don't make right". Both of you failed to be the bigger person in this relationship by cheating on each other. Ya'll should really have a heart to heart and put all ya'll dirty laundry on the table...and if you all can both accept each other mistakes and forgive each other enough to work at the relationship again I say stick with it. But if ya'll can't get pass each other mistakes it may be best ya'll move on so ya'll don't continue to go back and forward with the cheating on each other.
2007-08-29 10:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by Sexysass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you and your boyfriend have both cheated sets alarm bells ringing. What is it in the relationship that makes the two of you find someone else (even for one night) to make them feel special and wanted. I think you should forgive him because holding grudges helps no-one but perhaps take a small break of maybe 3 months with only minimum contact. Live that single single life again and see if you truly want the relationship, or whether its fear of being alone that makes you stay. good luck!!
2007-08-29 10:26:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in a tough spot. If you leave him then you are a hypocrite, if you stay you are most likely extending a unhealthy relationship as trust is in short supply.
This ends up being a personal choice that only you can decide. Do you think that you can forgive and move on without continued trust issues? If not you will be in a relationship that will continue to cause both of you pain.
2007-08-29 10:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by billy m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your relationship is built on a shaking foundation. you both need to re examine your selves and your priorities.
Cheating happens yes but not on poeple you care about. I am sure there is regret involved but where was that emotion (for both of you) when you had the hard choice to make?
If you do the same thing over and over again expecting a different result you will be in for a very long and unfullfilling life.
Move on gracefully and learn from this.
2007-08-29 10:24:41 · answer #7 · answered by T W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the only one that knows what to do is you. If you are going to be miserable about it and keep resentment inside of you then it would be my suggestion that you guys move on. If you can forgive and forget like he did then do so. But, you both have some issues you need to work out or else you will both be un happy and Why be with someone when you are unhappy?
2007-08-29 10:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by sd_mex_chic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you are just made for each other. Why do you people go to all the trouble to have a relationship with someone. Then you turn around and cheat on them. I don't understand. Or are relationships no longer relationships anymore? I am not trying to be judgemental because I don't know all the fact. I just don't understand it. Is it a generational thing?
2007-08-29 10:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by SgtMoto 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you either want to be with a cheater or you dont. Your decision... sorry girl. Some decisions are very hard to make and a big lifee change, but, in the long run will be better and healthier for you. Just think about you being happy and not having to worry if he goes out, etc..... If you have to go, deal with the pain and think about how much better off you'll be...... and how much pain you could save yourself down the road..... Also, you have many more journeys to go through and ya never know know whats in store for you next! GL
2007-08-29 10:24:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not completely sure. He should not have cheated on you though. You obviosly hurt him when you cheated on him. so why do the same. He knows it was wrong. But at least he came clean. I'm sorry you might have to break up with him you never know he could do it again. You dont want to keep finding out hes cheating on you. you cant say well I did it its okay cause its not.
2007-08-29 10:27:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋