i have this problem, i am a teenager and for some reason i get gealous when some other girl is in a relationship or she hooks up.. i think that the more guys u get with the better it is.. like when someone breaks up in my mind i go like.. hey now they are going to have one more guy, while i have been with this one for 6 months..
i know it wrong in any aspect, and i do have a boyfriend who is amazing ( i love him, his fam, his friends, and they all love me back) i know its selfish of me but i can't help it..
also.. in middle school there was a certain friend of mine who got all guy attention... maybe i didn't get over it yet.. i want to.. idon't want to be like this anymore... it shouldn't matter who is with howmany people
2007-08-29 10:07:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This isn't Monopoly. Time to grow up. AND, I have news for you....the older you get and the more guys you "hook up" with, the more likely that you're going to develope a reputation for being a ho. I'M not saying you ARE, but the IMAGE you'll create with your current mentality, will only cause you stress later on in life.
You want an opinion? If you really DO love your b/f and his family, then work hard at keeping him, and stop worrying about other people. They're none of your business. And what they're involved in should have zero meaning to YOUR relationship.
2007-08-29 10:20:57 · answer #1 · answered by imrt70 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's really not a big deal hun. Those same girls that get "all the guys" probably want what you have. Ever heard the saying "the grass is always greener on the other side"? It's pretty much the same thing. If you're used to doing something, you're going to wonder what it's like doing something else. It's normal, and EVERYONE goes through it once in their lives. It will pass, and if not, maybe you should try dating around instead of being with that one person.
2007-08-29 17:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by Shawnne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try porn. I mean seriously, if you can't get enough you've got issues. You have a boyfriend, but all you can think about is getting on your back for some other dude. Freakin sick. I bet you're really popular at school, does anyone else know this? You shouldn't want to get down with tons of guys, miss. For god's sake you're too young to be used up like that, get yourself straightened out! I know that I would never touch any girl that has double digits of guys she's been with. Have a little respect for yourself!
2007-08-29 17:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by The Ball Coach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try altering your thoughts. instead of seeing a break up as getting another guy, think of it as getting another break up and weeks of depression and wonder. if you already have a boyfriend, should you not have the need to feel jealousy since you've already found someone and have no need to break up and find another guy?
And you're right- your life is your life to live and shouldn't be any others. I guess the only way to get over it is to look at getting another guy differenlty, and looking at your boyfriend and being thankful for not brekaing up with him?
2007-08-29 17:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that you have an opportunity that most of the girls you are referring to do not have. You have a guy that loves you and is good to you. Those girls date around and don't know the meaning of a good relationship. Be proud of your relationship and life. Good luck.
2007-08-29 17:16:09 · answer #5 · answered by Bubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your with your boyfriend for 6 months now while other girls have a boyfriend every other week. you have to tell yourself that the number of boys you "get" is no where near having one amazing boyfriend. those other girls are giving themselves away. you have to think reverse and put yourself in their shoes. the other girls are probably getting jealous of you and thinking "wow i wish one guy would really love me for me and i wouldn't have to get a guy every other day, she is so lucky to have one amazing guy, to know that her man wouldn't cheat on her". The reason that those other girls get so many guys is because they are being used. trust me, its not real love like you have.
2007-08-29 17:21:57 · answer #6 · answered by magnolia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who jump from relationship to relationship have not found what you have found. While you may be jealous, they may be jealous of you and your stability.
If someone jumps around a lot, they may be confused or just after sex. Having a bunch of history isn't necessarily a good thing. I would start viewing it as your advantage, not your disadvantage.
2007-08-29 17:13:51 · answer #7 · answered by Corvus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you have a curiosity. That is normal. But you just have to trust that you don't want to be like the other girls that are with many guys. Do what you know is right, and you will have respect for yourself, and others will respect you more.
2007-08-29 17:13:09 · answer #8 · answered by Nathan W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For most girls it a competition to see how can get the most guys, and almost everytine its those same girls who end up with none or someone who doesn't care about them, and end up getting the reputition as a h*e. So dont compete just be happy with who you have.
2007-08-29 17:17:06 · answer #9 · answered by daynerampersad 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wooooow..u kno i had that feeling b4 but didnt kno how to describe it! but its gone now, u prolly see somebody who is a little more attractive then who u are with but thats not the reason ur datin that guy if ur meant to be with the guy ur lookin at it happenes naturaly!
2007-08-29 17:13:48 · answer #10 · answered by Earth☮Studies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋