i have a friend I met six months ago and we became best buddies but then I developed a major crush and fell for him. We are both gay so he wasn't taken aback (much).
He didn't mind but then I went overboard and sent him loads of emails and texts, some of them over-the-top romantic and some completely mean. I was a basket case for a few weeks.
He is really annoyed and hurt as I have made some quite serious comments and criticisms about him and his lifestyle.
Went to Doc and he says I have been suffering from depression and hypo-mania and has prescribed me a short course of tranquillizers. (No opinions on diagnosis or prescribed meds please!)
Is there any way I can apologize and make amends to my friend? The idea of losing his friendship is heartbreaking. As it stands, I have lost the friendship but does anyone know of a good way to resurrect it and make peace with him?
(I am getting over the crush. I knew it would be temporary so a friendship would not be a problem on that score)
2007-08-29 10:00:06 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I like the idea of waiting about a month and then sending him a really nice gift and a card with a note of sincere apology and an explanation
What does everyone think of that?
2007-08-29 11:10:55 · update #1
I think upfront and honest is the best. Tell him his friendship means alot and you have realized that your recent behavior was extreme. Let him know you have even gone to a doctor to get the problem under control and you would like to apologize and rebuild the friendship.
It'll be up to him in the end whether you can rebuild, but if he's as great a guy as you say, he should understand, especially since you're seeking help for the problem, and give you another chance.
Good luck!
2007-08-29 10:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by rose1077 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't send him too nice a gift (due to earlier infatuation) maybe flowers and some chocolates, but the hand written card is a great idea. I wouldn't hold anything back honesty wise but avoid words like "heartbreaking" maybe explain about the doctor and how you confused loving your friend with being in love with him. Maybe ask him if you can start again as friends, if not don't let it get you depressed again, just try not to make the same mistake again, and well done on getting help! Thats the hardest partx
2007-08-29 18:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by Ruby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it might be too late to save the friendship at all. I can tell that you truly feel bad for the way you acted. Try telling him everything, minus all the doctor parts (that might really freak him out). If he'll listen to you and give you the time to explain and apologize, that's all you can hope for at this point. I think it's very big of you to want to stand up and admit your wrong and try to make things right. It's very hard to admit to anyone that you made a mistake and you are truly sorry for your actions, especially if you hurt their feelings.
2007-08-29 17:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by Not quite perfect 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Bob,
I just wanted to say I've been acting like a real @ss these past few weeks. I'm really sorry about that and I hope I haven't permanently hurt our friendship.
2007-08-29 17:50:37 · answer #4 · answered by LX V 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No Gifts! Just send a sincere apology - No execues!
Leave the ball in his court - If he accepts know that it has boundries - If he doesn't except learn from the mistake and move on
2007-08-30 00:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by Dallas Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you were having mental-health issues then, but you're on some meds to help with that. If you have a medical reason for your behavior, he'll have to forgive you.
2007-08-29 17:11:04 · answer #6 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so tired of people getting on here asking how to apologize for something stupid. Did your parents not teach you anything? Just say your sorry, fruit.
2007-08-29 19:09:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋