Im fat(not the point) why are people being nicer to me?

Question

i have had one best friend and she has been my best friend for a few years.she left the school and really right now i only have a few ok friends. no best friends at all.But all the people im my class treated me really bad like last year cuz im fat.they would call me rude names.im still pretty big this yearbut i got alot taller so i thinned out a tiny bit but everyone is nicer to me. i talk to all the guys alot more and they dont look at me in disgust. and last year when someone was assigned to sit by me they would groan. this year they seem to be happy with it. Even this year the guys let me hug them. THIS HAS NEVER HAPPENED BEFORE do they let me hug them cuz they like me nowlike as a friend or do they think its fun cuz im fat?and then the girls they used to ignore me and they all ask me Hey how are you how was your summer or they will sit by me on intention.During class we read in the book outloud and we can pick who reads next and they pick me alot more often.why are they doing this?

i dont have a problem with it its just a weirder change. email me if you have a question

Answer 1

Maybe you were never really fat to begin with, and you mistook other people's actions before.

If things are looking better socially, keep doing what you are doing. Get some exercise.

Answer 2

Ok, first of all, I read a little bit your questions. It really seems you are obsessed with being “fat”. I suggest you calm down a little bit and don’t think about it that much.

Now, you said in this question that you have grown up a little bit taller, so you look better now. I guess that is true. But you also have to think that you are not a fully grown woman yet, so you have to give it a little more time before you can really say “I’m fat” or not.

Still, your best solution is to watch your diet and try to do more exercise. I don’t mean to go into a lettuce diet only. No, that is not healthy. You need to talk to your parents or whoever you live with and let them know you want to eat healthier and the right portions. To do so, you can ask your doctor, or look online for some calories to age ratio tables. You can also look online for a height to weight to age ratio so you know where you should be at.

For what you have said before, it seems that you are just a little bit overweight. You might want to loose some pounds. Again, don’t do it on a diet, but exercising. You need to eat all your food, just make sure is healthy. Avoid fats and make sure you don’t eat cholesterol as it is very bad for your health.

To do exercise, you should try joining any teams at your school. Running is the best one as it is cardio and you are looking to do lots of cardio, not just to loose weight, but to keep in shape and be healthy.

At your age, there is no such a thing as “too much exercise”. As long you keep a good and healthy diet, you can stay working out for over two hours. Just make sure not to over do it, and if you can, stay with a coach that can guide you.

About what is happening to you now, that people treat you better, that has to do with many factors. Is not just that you look better (am I sure you do), is also you all are growing up, and those stupid comments are now less necessary. People start looking more to personalities, and trying to make new friends. You will see it will be fine.

Just be confident, believe in yourself, be healthy, and always smile. The right people will become your friends, and the next thing you know, you will be admired by many. And don’t forget, if you are confident, and take care of yourself, then you are a sexy girl. Sexy is not just “looking good”, is feeling good with yourself. You will have guys after you in no time. Trust me.

Good luck and have fun!

Answer 3

Teenagers are not know for being nice to people they pity, that isn't it.

I think when you had a best friend, you clung too closly together. Now that she is gone, that has freed you up a bit.

I travel alone a lot. When I do, I talk to strangers all the time. If I travel with a friend, I only talk to my friend. That's just the way people are.

You are right to not worry too much about being a little overweight. People will judge you more on your attitude than your clothing size. Sure, some people will hassle you (I know, I'm fat) but that doesn't mean you have to listen. Ignore the buttholes. They are just waiting to get jobs at the IRS and the DMV.

People will reflect back at you what you shine on them. Be sure of who you are, be confident, and keep making new friends. Talk to a new person every week. Even if it's just a "Hey, how you doing?" in the hall.

You want to cast as wide a social net as you can.

Answer 4

It's obvious that you have a problem with your size - you think you're fat. And it's true that people, particularly school contemporaries, do tend to make fun of anyone who doesn't quite fit their very restricted view of "normal". In today's society, it's considered a very bad thing to be "fat", partly because if anyone is very overweight, they don't look particularly attractive, and probably find it difficult to wear the trendy clothes most girls wear.

It's a very ill-mannered way to treat anybody for whatever reason, and in the case of overweight people, it's usually completely counterproductive, because they then tend to eat all the more to make themselves feel better, and put on yet more weight.

But I do wonder if you are really as "fat" as you think. I ask this because you admit that you've got "a lot taller" since last year, and quite often when that happens, the weight is distributed more evenly and in reality you don't appear overweight any more. For example, my daughter who is four inches taller than I am can afford to carry more weight.than I can and not look too heavy simply because of those extra 4 inches of height.

Whatever the case with you, evidently your school friends no longer look at you and think "fat" - they are seeing the person you are and always were underneath. So maybe you should consider taking that "fat" label off, and telling yourself that you're a real person, who shouldn't be identifying herself primarily with a negative attribute, but with the interesting and talented person she really is.

It's also true that you're all a year older. Maybe you and your school friends have both done a bit of growing up? You've added inches to your physical height, and they have grown out of persecuting somebody because she doesn't fit the model slim category. I should think that's the reason.

Whatever it is, I'm happy for you, and hope you can now enjoy the rest of your time at school making friends, and being treated properly and with consideration by others.

wimsey

Answer 5

Hiya sweeto :-X

It's like I told you before, the older you get, the less being a BBW matters. Some guys prefer a woman with a healthy figure. The people in your class are older and becoming more mature.

It's sad, but kids can be really cruel to each other. I'm glad to see that your peer group is growing up and accepting you for who you are.

If a guy asks you out, please take it slow. Give them a chance but make sure they're sincere before you get too involved.

I'm glad this year is going better for you.

Trust me, skinny girls suck, and not in the good way either...lol.

Big girls are nicer, more sincere, love you for who you are, have nice T&A and make better partners both intelectually, emotionally and intimately.

Hugs :-)

Answer 6

The marble that rolled around in their skull last summer might have actually been replaced by a REAL brain. Just don't get too comfortable with the popularity because people can change like the wind (just like they seemed to have done). Be social, but don't trust them with everything you are, and don't concentrate so much on the "Temporary Attention" as they can use it against you.

They were mean to you before, so what's stopping them from doing it again?

Good Luck.

Answer 7

Girl Stop worrying!!! Your friends should always treat you right but if you have an attitude or ego or yes a problem with your weight alot of people can pick up on that...You need more confidence...If they dont like being close to a PHAT DIVA tell them to move on....You got better things to do....Anyway congradulations on the change whatever it was...to cause a chain reation..lol..lol ....You have to love yourself and not worry what others think of you...need to be strong... I am PHat tooo...never had a problem with guys, friends or people telling me anything..they pick on you when you let them....Maybe too they have grown up and want to be treated with respect and kindness......

Answer 8

Maybe now you carry yourself a little different than last year. You are 1 year older and maybe matured over the summer. Maybe something changed about you. But for whatever reason maybe you just need to take it for what's its worth. Or just maybe they were intimated by you and now they see that you and them are all the same.

Answer 9

Maybe they are a little more mature and realize that as long as you're a cool person then thats what matters most. Also, they might think you're more attractive since your body evened out a little more with you getting taller. Who knows? Either way its a positive change.

Answer 10

I think they are growing up and are getting over petty stuff like that. And it could be also that you are exuding more confidence and people can feel that radiate through your personality when you approach a situation. Just keep being nice and putting yourself out there. You can still be overweight but take great care of yourself. And to me that's beautiful. Good luck to you! Hope you have more brushes of good experiences!

Answer 11

maybe they found someone else to pick on.

maybe they matured a bit.

maybe you won them over with your attitude.

maybe it is all part of a really big prank.

if you analyze everything too much you will always find the negative side of things. Who knows why, but it is better for you this year. Enjoy it! Don't ask why.