i am going to move out of my hometown in a couple of months, but to be honest i am a little scared. i am very shy and dont know how to go about meeting new people . i dont know where to go or what to say. plus i feel a little weird going places on my own (bars, clubs...)i dont want to look or come off desperate, but i just dont know how to come out of my shell. any suggestions...
2007-08-29 09:18:48 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I personally find it fascinating that any woman, especially if she's beautiful has a problem in dating...try approaching men, we won't bite (most of us won't!), and you won't look desperate, unless sex is your ONLY concern...I seriously doubt any man will turn you down, unless he's gay, committed to a relationship or a total TARD'...men risk and face rejection regularly, women rarely if ever need face it...not even if the woman is hidiously butt-ugly will she really have a problem facing rejection...so how much more of a chance does a cute 21 year old girl have...problem with you is probably that you in your own head too much & giving yourself an unnecessary self esteem complex...talk to a man, be an adult, lay your cards on the table & always deal straight! You can't go wrong! Oh, & once you do come out of your shell, remember where you came from & the troubles you had when you were shy, don't let it go to your head-guys are often more shy than you! Good luck & happy hunting!
2007-08-29 10:03:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you going to be going to school where ever you move to? If you are then you have no problem. You will definitely meet people at school. If your not planning on going to school then you should maybe consider taking 1 class because that is honestly the best way to make friends. Other wise try to find a job somewhere like a club or a bar. Then you will definitely meet people that way. Or even if you get a job at a clothing store, you will meet people through work. I'm the same way, i wont go to a club or bar alone either. I moved to California with my boyfriend and we are still trying to make more friends. We have some from Florida(that where were from) that had moved out here too and we have some friends that we have met out here, but not a whole lot. It is really hard but you will do it. My boyfriend and aren't the type that will walk up to people at a bar and club and be like hey whats your name., because we are both pretty shy too. Just stay positive and remember it will be really hard at first, but you will do just fine.
2007-08-29 09:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by California Kush 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are some ideas:
1) Move to an area where the young and single crowd live!
2) Make friends with neighbors in that area that are similar to you. Young single men and women.
3) Join a church singles group.
4) Make friends at work
5) Join a club for people with interests you already have or develop a new interest. For example, start playing Tennis and join a tennis club.
2007-08-29 09:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and Foremost..u r not alone..most of us r like that when we first move away from hometowns/familiar sorroundings
As u r a woman....here r a few tips in the new world...be always firm and polite with men who show interest in u..and there will be plenty for ur age..learn to laugh off ne unwanted attention
with rogues..be firm..and assertive and aggressive if need be..but generally accpet boys will be boys..
have a close circle of 1 or 2 gfs who u think u feel comfortable with..u can spend ur off time with them
speak less..listen more..work diligently ..be a good employee
never talk abt others behind their back..thats immature.
enjoy life..believe me ITS BEAUTIFUL.
have a mate when u find sumone u love..but no hurry
and last but no way least..KEEP learning new skills or things every year.
God Bless and Good Luck
2007-08-29 09:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to places you feel comfortable. If you don't like bars and clubs, you're probably not going to be very compatible with the people there. What do YOU like? Go to places that cater to your likes. Find a group in your local area that does that, and talk to them about joining. You've just got to realize that nobody really cares whether you exist one way or another until you impact their lives. And that happens just by saying 'hello.' Until then, they are not judging you. And if you're yourself, you're friendly, and you're a nice person, they will be open to meeting you. Chill out and have a good time. Do things that make you feel good, and the rest will follow.
2007-08-29 09:24:06 · answer #5 · answered by gilgamesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The great thing about moving to a new area is you get to start fresh and do the things you really want to do. Get yourself involved in volunteer activities, sports, arts and craft groups. Things that interest you. If you are starting school or are interested in things like language or cooking, those are great places to meet people. Make friends with your neighbors and if you're planning on getting a job, you'll certainly meet people there. Take advantage of your new environment and all it has to offer.
2007-08-29 09:29:33 · answer #6 · answered by funsillyathlete 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i have been around the world, i was in the army and i did a lot of things and met alot of different people, the main thing is to treat other people how you would want to be treated, help others when you can, because it will come back, i promise you that!! talk to people how you want the to talk to you, with respect, ask questions politely, if you need something don't beafraid to ask , cause no one can read your mind. by the way where are you from and are you free, do you have a boy friend, just curious, don't mean to be rude by asking, email me at reddawg19732002@yahoo.com if you want to talk to me, i am a very nice old fashion type guy just looking for that special someone, i am just glad that i could help you if i did, hope to hear from you bye,bye
2007-08-29 09:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by write him a letter and explain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i do everything by myself and its a bunch of fun. Ok the way you go out alone is you dress up really hot and go to a cool club by one drink and stand by the bar with the drink and guys are sure to come up tp you make eye contact. What i do is i might even see a guy drinking a dringk and i might you know like hit the cup while they have it to there mouth. just something to get the conversation going. Go to local resturants and sit at the bar and talk to those folks most of them know alot of regulars that come and and will introduce you to them. You just go to the bar abd introduce yourself and tell em your going to hang out for a while and your new to the area. they will introduce you to people i promise. If your cute believe me people will talk to you dont worry. i do this alll the time and i never pay for more than one drink. just be friendly. talk about sports, fashion, tv shows. girl its so easy i really cant believe when i read its hard for people to meet others...
2007-08-29 09:27:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes be yourself. i was the same way but you hae to learn who you are as a person and how are you going to do that unless you test your waters so to speak. You will meet people wherever you move and then you won't have to go places alone. You are just letting fear get in your way of doing things that you want to do. take a chance there is always home if it does not work out.
2007-08-29 09:23:56 · answer #9 · answered by Lady L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to coffee shops and cafes and just smile and say hi to other people.... one day someone will come out and make friends with you and you might find you have a lot in common with them. It's better and more classy than the "Bar scene". Not having to worry about those "brave drunks", only to find they are much different sober.
2007-08-29 09:25:15 · answer #10 · answered by foundry_falls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋