Some would think that the answer to this question is obvious. But to me it's not, cause if you meet this person in the flesh and they have misrepresented themselves, the other person is subject to running and screaming in the opposite direction. I know, cause it's happened to me before.
Whether it's a false picture on a profile, chat room photo space, MySpace, or someone sends you a picture of what they looked like 20 years ago, this practice is ridiculous and just wastes time.
2007-08-29 08:58:02 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe tht person is very insecure about the way they look, they think tht you will innitially b attracted to thm b cuz of tht photo... once you talk to thm for a while they most likely think it wont matter if they're ugly or fat... they'll rely on the fact tht u liked their personality
2007-08-29 09:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by bellabrendalis26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My experience is that women tend to do this more than men do. Why, you ask? Well, some people might not like my idea, but here goes.
Many people feel that they looked much better many years ago...and they tend to send a picture that reflects them 20 years younger (and 250 lbs lighter). Their reasoning is that once you get to know them, you will be so enthralled by their personality that you will not care that they arrive to meet you in a motorized cart whose little front basket is filled with Ho-Ho's and Twinkies. Oh, goodness, no!
You will only see that charming, witty person that you have been communicating with online for so long. You will have gotten to know them so well....that beautiful INNER person...that it does not matter that they are.....can we say....FAT?
Unfortunately, for them, human nature does not work that way. What you see is someone who has lied and misrepresented themselves for probably a very long time. Then you wonder if they have lied about anything else. Do they really have that Masters Degree and a $100K a year job? Perhaps they really flip burgers at McDonaldland. Perhaps the real person is nothing like the person they tried to make you think they were.
And so we run. Understandably. The image we had of that person has just been crushed. What they failed to realize is that they would have done much better being truthful and honest about who they were and what they looked like. Maybe we would not have been interested in them, but most likely they would have found another person who WOULD have been anxious to meet them.
2007-08-29 16:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by Sally G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are insecure and assume others won't accept them for how the look now...they pretend to appear differently and hope that the person they are chatting with will come to like them and then their appearance may not be so much of an issue.
I've had plenty of people in the past IM me and ask straight away if I had a photo...they wouldn't chat with anyone unless they liked how that person looked. It's those kind of people that cause some to put up misrepresenting photos. Not saying it's right, but that's one of the reasons...
2007-08-29 16:05:56 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of people today have poor self image. So they'll put only glamor photos on their profiles, or photos of other people.
Their hope it that when they meet someone that person will be more interested in who they are, than what they look like.
Also, for some, even just chatting with the person online is a huge thrill, far more than they get in real life. So misrepresenting themselves is the only way for they to get personal contact.
2007-08-29 16:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by saberhilt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wel... I have to admit I have photoshopped a couple of my online pictures (I'm a graphic designer) But not to the extent that I don't look like myself. I just edit out hair if it's across my face, or weird things that don't look right. Everyone who knows me has no idea that they are edited photos. I think everyone just wants the world to think the best of them. I think sometimes people use a fake picture so that they can live in a fantasy world. Maybe they are too shy in real life to talk to many people, and online (pretending to be someone they are not) they can be whoever they want. It's part of the appeal of chat rooms and friend sites, and one of the reasons the internet is such a huge thing in today's society.
2007-08-29 16:04:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anastasia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does... it's crazy if you ask me.... if we meet and your not my type, it really won't matter how your personality was because I'll be like, "why did he have to put an old pic or a pic that isn't him up?" That's weird to me, and therefore that person is weird to me too... I have a myspace profile and I'm on there all the time for fun and have all kinds of pics up... sexy, flirty, chill, just got home from work, chillin with my kids, just woke up in the morning... me goofin around... so that if by chance I did meet someoen, he already knows exactly who he's meeting... best to know u like me off the top than us wasting our damn time...
2007-08-29 16:04:11 · answer #6 · answered by Buttafli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GOOD QUESTION! I've done online dating for a year now (how I met the most incredible man in the world!) and several of the men I went out with said the same thing! I always posted a picture of me that was totally current. Women are players unfortunately, and the men told me most of them just wanted someone to take them out for a free dinner, so they posted attractive pics so the guys would bite. Sad, isn't it?
2007-08-29 16:02:29 · answer #7 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they think if they get to know you, you will look past what they look like?
The only reason i would post a fake picture is to play a joke or to be silly. I would never take it to the point where i would meet the person so i really dont know.
2007-08-29 16:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by mable3691214 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer is because they can. So, maybe you ought to not pursue people on-line. Obviously looks are important to you and you will always be let down. Stick to the real world and out of cyber space...
2007-08-29 16:03:23 · answer #9 · answered by Brain 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can understand if they sent a fake pic and didnt meet in person. But if you send a fake pic then meet them in person um.. they are gonna figure it out..lol
2007-08-29 16:03:02 · answer #10 · answered by pph24013 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋