What's the best way to stop a bully?

Answer 1

First of all, do not overreact...

It's understandable to be upset, but try not to let your child see that, because he or she might interpret it as you are being upset with him or her.

Listen to and assure your child that he or she did the right thing by telling you about the incident

Next, talk to your child about how to handle future confrontations with the bully.

Tell him or her that getting angry won't solve the problem because it gives the bully exactly what he or she wants.

If the bully is physically harming your child, he or she should inform a teacher. . .

If the situation seems serious, you should work with the school to establish a plan to protect your child from future bullying incidents.

You should talk the parents of the child who bullies (hopefully the parents will provide a solution on how to deal with their own child) or hopefully they will get involved and the bullying will cease

Finally, encourage your child to continue talking with you about all bullying incidents.


Bullies often target socially awkward children, so you should encourage your child to develop more friendships.

Suggest your child join social organizations, clubs or teams.

Being in a group can sometimes keep a child from being victimized.

Keeping money or expensive toys at home can help your child avoid becoming a target, because bullies often want things that other kids have and will use force to take them.

You can also work with your child's school to establish bullying prevention programs and policies

Helping Kids...

Again focus on offering comfort and support, no matter how upset you are.

Kids are often reluctant to tell adults about bullying...

They feel embarrassed and ashamed that it's happening. They worry that their parents will be disappointed.

Sometimes kids feel like it's their own fault, that if they looked or acted differently it wouldn't be happening.

Sometimes they're scared that if the bully finds out that they told, it will get worse.

Others are worried that their parents won't believe them or do anything about it.

Or kids worry that their parents will urge them to fight back when they're scared too.

Again praise your child for being brave enough to talk about it.

Remind your child that he or she isn't alone a lot of people get bullied at some point.

Emphasize that it's the bully who is behaving badly not your child.

Reassure your child that you will figure out what to do about it together.

Sometimes an older sibling or friend can help deal with the situation.

It may help your daughter/son to hear how the older sister/brother he/she idolizes was teased about his/her braces and how she/he dealt with it.

An older sibling or friend may also be able to give you some perspective on what's happening at school, or wherever the bullying is happening, and help you figure out the best solution.

Take it seriously if your hear that the bullying will get worse if the bully finds out that your child told.

Again it may be useful to approach the bully's parents.

But teachers or counselors are the best ones to contact first.

If you've tried those methods and still want to speak to the bullying child's parents, it's best to do so in a context where a school official, such as a counselor, can mediate.

Many states have bullying laws and policies...

Find out about the laws in your community. In certain cases, if you have serious concerns about your child's safety, you may need to contact legal authorities.

Parents...

@ home you can lessen the impact of the bullying.

Encourage your kids to get together with friends that help build their confidence.

Again...help them meet other kids by joining clubs or sports programs.

And find activities that can help a child feel confident and strong.

Maybe it's a self-defense class like karate or a movement or other gym class.


Advice for Kids..

The key to helping kids is providing strategies that deal with bullying on an everyday basis and also help restore their self-esteem and regain a sense of dignity.

It may be tempting to tell a kid to fight back. After all, you're angry that your child is suffering and maybe you were told to "stand up for yourself" when you were young. And you may worry that your child will continue to suffer at the hands of the bully.

But it's important to advise kids not to respond to bullying by fighting or bullying back. It can quickly escalate into violence, trouble, and someone getting injured. Instead, it's best to walk away from the situation, hang out with others, and tell an adult.

Here are some other strategies to discuss with kids that can help improve the situation and make them feel better:

Avoid the bully and use the buddy system.

Use a different bathroom if a bully is nearby and don't go to your locker when there is nobody around.

Make sure you have someone with you so that you're not alone with the bully.

Buddy up with a friend on the bus, in the hallways, or at recess wherever the bully is. Offer to do the same for a friend.

Hold the anger. It's natural to get upset by the bully, but that's what bullies thrive on. It makes them feel more powerful.

Practice not reacting by crying or looking red or upset. It takes a lot of practice, but it's a useful skill for keeping off of a bully's radar.

Sometimes kids find it useful to practice "cool down" strategies such as counting to 10, writing down their angry words, taking deep breaths or walking away.

Sometimes the best thing to do is to teach kids to wear a "poker face" until they are clear of any danger (smiling or laughing may provoke the bully).

Act brave... Firmly and clearly tell the bully to stop, then walk away.

Tell an adult like...

Teachers, principals, parents, and lunchroom personnel at school can all help stop bullying.

Talk about it...

Talk to someone you trust, such as a guidance counselor, teacher, sibling, or friend. They may offer some helpful suggestions, and even if they can't fix the situation, it may help you feel a little less alone.

Remove the incentives. If the bully is demanding your lunch money, start bringing your lunch. If he's trying to get your music player, don't bring it to school.

Hope this helps :)

Answer 2

This Is How I Got Rid Of A Bully. Ignore Him If You Act like You Don't Care What He Says He Goes Away.(Remember He Only Picks On You Because He Thinks It's Funny How U Get Mad)

Answer 3

It depends on where the bullying is taking place. If it's happening in school then make it the schools problem/business as well. They have interventions against bullying. Then have them get the parents of that child/teen involved 2 because in the end they are also responsible or will become responsible for their childs actions if it gets ugly. Now, if this isn't happening in school then u still need to meet w/the parents. Let them know what's going on and that u don't appreciate nor will u further tolerate the bullying. And if it gets physical then get physical back and I'd file a complaint w/the police.

Now me personally i'd do all that but i'd let my child know that if someone touches u then u need to defend urself. I'm not the type of parent to let an issue like that go unmentioned to the parents or school. I have a teen and a 10 yr old and i have no problem whipping some A$$$ to get my point across that i ain't having it.

Ur child has a right to live life w/out conflict such *** that one.

Answer 4

In my experience, bullying or harassment rarely occurs in isolation. It is often to simplistic to say that "that student is a bully." More often than not, a "bully" is simply the result of a school community in which safety and responsibility have not been made a priority. Here are some ways to make the school community (parents, teachers, administration and parents) safer:

- start with the leaders of the school (principals, school board members, PTA, student council etc) and come up with a common definition of bullying. Remember that bullying can take many forms including exclusion, sexual harassment or violence.

- begin a campaign with the hopes of starting dialog between students, parents and teachers.

- bring in an expert who can moderate a forum in which victims and perpetrators have a chance to explain how they have been affected buy the actions of the bully(ies). Give everyone a chance to apologize for what they have done, and together work on a plan for change.

- teachers should document any worrisome behaviors and pass these along to parents, psychologist, and any relevant agencies

- explain to students what help is available if they feel that they have either been a victim or guilty of bullying, and how to seek help.

Bullying is a child problem that often requires a community solution. Proactive leadership is crucial since by the time bullying occurs, the damage is probably already done.

Answer 5

Try and be friends with them; most of the time that's why the bully. Because they have no friends or they don't get attention at home and that's the only way the know how to get attention!

Answer 6

The best way to stop a bully is provided by Jesus Christ. Jesus tells us, " If someone strikes you on the right cheek, give him your left cheek, as well". This DOES NOT mean to become a human punching bag. In Jesus day a slap on the cheek was an insult. To turn the other cheek means, do not trade insults with such a person. By remaining confident, and not retaliating tit-for-tat, the bully is confronted with his own actions. Remember when Jesus was struck by a soldier? Jesus did not strike back, but rather, asked, "Why do you strike me?" and in so doing highlighted the injustice that was just done to him. A bully is always a coward, and when the light of truth is shone on him, he will usually disappear like roaches under a flashlight. Even better than just turning the other cheek, however, is to remain KIND to the bully. This creates even greater contrast between your actions and his, and provides the bully to see himself as he is, with the possibility of rethinking his behavior. I am not so sure that the same technique is best when dealing with a mob of bullies, however. If there are multiple bullies, get out of there....but walk confidently and deliberately, don't run. Everyone knows that a mean dog will chase anything that is running....

Answer 7

Preventing a run-in with a bully:

Don't give the bully a chance. As much as you can, avoid the bully. You can't go into hiding or skip class, of course. But if you can take a different route and avoid him or her, do so.

Stand tall and be brave. When you're scared of another person, you're probably not feeling your bravest. But sometimes just acting brave is enough to stop a bully. How does a brave person look and act? Stand tall and you'll send the message: "Don't mess with me." It's easier to feel brave when you feel good about yourself. See the next tip!

Feel good about you. Nobody's perfect, but what can you do to look and feel your best? Maybe you'd like to be more fit. If so, maybe you'll decide to get more exercise, watch less TV, and eat healthier snacks. Or maybe you feel you look best when you shower in the morning before school. If so, you could decide to get up a little earlier so you can be clean and refreshed for the school day.

Get a buddy (and be a buddy). Two is better than one if you're trying to avoid being bullied. Make a plan to walk with a friend or two on the way to school or recess or lunch or wherever you think you might meet the bully. Offer to do the same if a friend is having bully trouble. Get involved if you see bullying going on in your school — tell an adult, stick up for the kid being bullied, and tell the bully to stop.

If the bully says or does something to you:

Ignore the bully. If you can, try your best to ignore the bully's threats. Pretend you don't hear them and walk away quickly to a place of safety. Bullies want a big reaction to their teasing and meanness. Acting as if you don't notice and don't care is like giving no reaction at all, and this just might stop a bully's behavior.

Stand up for yourself. Pretend to feel really brave and confident. Tell the bully "No! Stop it!" in a loud voice. Then walk away, or run if you have to. Kids also can stand up for each other by telling a bully to stop teasing or scaring someone else, and then walk away together. If a bully wants you to do something that you don't want to do — say "no!" and walk away. If you do what a bully says to do, they will likely keep bullying you. Bullies tend to bully kids who don't stick up for themselves.

Don't bully back. Don't hit, kick, or push back to deal with someone bullying you or your friends. Fighting back just satisfies a bully and it's dangerous, too, because someone could get hurt. You're also likely to get in trouble. It's best to stay with others, stay safe, and get help from an adult.

Don't show your feelings. Plan ahead. How can you stop yourself from getting angry or showing you're upset? Try distracting yourself (counting backwards from 100, spelling the word 'turtle' backwards, etc.) to keep your mind occupied until you are out of the situation and somewhere safe where you can show your feelings.

Tell an adult. If you are being bullied, it's very important to tell an adult. Find someone you trust and go and tell them what is happening to you. Teachers, principals, parents, and lunchroom helpers at school can all help to stop bullying. Sometimes bullies stop as soon as a teacher finds out because they're afraid that they will be punished by parents. This is not tattling on someone who has done something small — bullying is wrong and it helps if everyone who gets bullied or sees someone being bullied speaks up.

Answer 8

There a lot of web sites to support this.

Depends on what kind or bully you are talking about. Is it a kid beating up your kid or is it work place harassment? The answer to this topic could go on forever but this is a outline to start you off.

It's always best to let the victim try first. The victim must be firm and stand up and state to the bully what they are doing and how it make them feel. Identfy that it is bulllying and identify what actions you will take if the bully is not stopped. Follow through the actions. Be assertive.

Answer 9

Well the advice i got when i was in grade school from my dad seem to work well. His advice was that usually bullies always have other "freeloader: he call them, that the bully has to impress by picking on someone. So what he said to do was next time he did it, since you going to get into it with him, hit him in mouth as hard as you can, this will set him back thinking, and then go at him with all you have. First you show him you not going to take it any more and will fight back. Second at least you got the best first punch in, and hi will think about if its worth it or not. I grade school, the 60's this worked very well for me, the bully's freeloaders did nothing to help him out and i did a pretty good job, kicking **** out of him. So i never had a problem again, and then when he went to pick on friends of mine, i just let him know i'm on the other side and it seem to back him away. Going to the parents did nothing in this family, the dad was dead and poor mom could only do so much, he had alot of older brothers who were the same way, because my older brothers had to deal with them before i even got in school. So in long run Dad's advice work out to be the best, and after that i had a better respect for my Dads advice and listen till the day he pasted away to it.

Answer 10

this is funny since my 8 year old daughter has been dealing with a situation at daycare. A younger bully was torturing my kid, I mean she would just say the ugliest things. We tried a number of things over a period of two months and nothing seemed to help. Come to find out, the kids parents were having separation issues so the kid was acting out. The first day of school came along and my daughter noticed the bully sitting alone in the hall looking sad. Being the sweet child she is my daughter approached the bully and asked what was wrong, she replied she was scared so my daughter asked her to join her for breakfast that she would show her around. They've been buddies ever since. She tamed the beast!!!

Answer 11

The only peaceful way to get through the head of a "temporary" bully (many turn out to be big sissies later in life) is to have a parent to parent talk and convince the bully's parents that he is terrorizing your child. Sometimes, the parents don't take action or won;t do anything.

So, the only alternative is to bring in a cousin or friend of the child who is older and bigger than the bully. This kid won't have to cause trouble, but like the big dog in the front yard, it will keep the bully away.

You must insist that the enforcer threaten the bully with "twice" as much harm if they ever touch your kid again. this is the only threat that a bully understands. Peace, psychology and ignoring is a lazy option that will never work!!!
I know because I was bullied all my life. The only langauge a bully understands is a bigger bully, only he never has to touch him...just an eye to eye threat will get him out of the way.