Me and boyfriend have just started having sex, i was a virgin and he's been with 2 other girls before me. We use condoms and i'm on the pill but the thing is i really really wanna give him oral, he hasn't asked me to or anything, i just wanna, he hasn't offered me any eitha ( :( so any advise on hinting this please also). I'm just worried about STD's and stuff because i can understand guys not wanting to use condoms for oral (again he hasn't asked me so he isn't pressuring me) but isn't this a bit unsafe?? We've been doing stuff for a while and i haven't come up with any simptoms for herpes so i guess he doesn't have that, will it be ok if i don't use a condom?
Should i ask him to get tested first or not worry?
What do other girls do with this situation cos none of my friends use condoms for oral but do for sex? I would prefer not to use condoms for oral!
p.s. we're 18 if this makes any difference
2007-08-29 08:40:27 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have the right to be concerned about using or not using condomn. You never know what's really going on. Only you can decide whether you want him to get tested or not. But remember disease can also be passed to the mouth as well. So, it's probably best to use a condomn.
2007-08-29 08:44:44 · answer #1 · answered by elhart1977 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before doing anything more sexual with your boyfriend, you definitely need to make sure that he hasn't any STD's. Just because there are no symptoms, doesn't mean he does not have one. Some STD's can appear without symptoms or outbreaks at all. And on top of the fact that he has already had 2 other sexual partners, you should really make sure, and he should get tested before you two go any further.
I wouldn't suggest you perform oral on him with or without a condom until you are positive that he is STD free.
Talk to him about it, he may not even know if he has one or not. So don't trust what he says. Rather, be 100% sure and get tested.
After getting tested, make sure you guys are protected when having sex, and make sure he is not sleeping around, and neither you. You don't necessarily need to use a condom while performing oral.
Just be safe, ok? :)
2007-08-29 08:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by Loves It<3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
(1) There are diseases you can get from oral sex, like herpes. Most of the "nastiest" (like HIV) are not transmittable that way unless there are open sores on your mouth and open sores on his penis.
(Note that even condoms aren't really great protection from herpes as the sores can be on guys' genitaila besides the penis that the condom may not cover, or girls may have breakouts outside their labia.)
(2) The common practice (not that it's safe) is not to use condoms for oral.
(3) Sure, ask him to get tested. Go together. You're 18 and adults.. it can be a fun trip!
(4) For "going down" on you, I can't believe he hasn't yet... that's like think no. 1 for a guy to do, since it's usually the easiest way to get a girl off. You can be cute and hint at it, you can push him down there, you can say things like "warm me up with your mouth" or "kiss my other lips first" or be domineering and just demand it. Or, you can give him oral and then say "your turn..."
Good luck, and have safe fun.
2007-08-29 09:45:44 · answer #3 · answered by Perdendosi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not Bruce. Jesus requires Obedience to his Commandments. The Commandments are a transcript of God's character. God is the Author of his Holy Law(Exodus 31:18). His Law is a Revelation of God's will to mankind. To alter the Law would be akin to Changing God. The Bible says "I am the Lord thy God, I change not." God Holy Law is immutable. Man does not have the power to alter God's words in any way. We are obligated by God to keep his Commandments. The Law of God is Holy, Just and Good(Romans 7:12). The Law of God is both Eternal and Universal and it has been established forever(Romans 3:31). Jesus said that he did not come to destroy the Law(Matthew 5:17-18). Jesus magnified the Law. He raised the High Moral Standard of the Law when he lived among men. Those who receive Christ into their Heart and keep his Commandments will live forever when Christ returns the Second time. Special Note: 1 John 2:4 1 John 5:3 Revelation 12:17 Revelation 14:12 Revelation 22:14
2016-05-21 01:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something you can put in you mouth for oral. It's called a dental dam. You can ask the local planned parenthood. It may be difficult to find. You can also use saran wrap. It may or may not kill the mood, but better to be safe than sorry. Communicate with your partner and if it is early on in the relatioship, stick to condoms!!!
2007-08-29 08:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off oral is safe from every kind of STD short of AIDS which i doubt he has but just to be on the safe side ask him to get a STD panel done it takes no time at all, secondly you dont need nor want a condom for oral that takes away from everything all you'll taste is plastic and he'll feel virtually nothing so no condom when it comes to giving head, and thirdly just start taking his pants off and get down there belive me he wont object no guy ever does lol.
2007-08-29 08:46:33 · answer #6 · answered by specialistics 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They make flavored condoms for this type of thing. I think, however, that the risk of STD transmission through oral is significantly less than through other forms of intercourse. If you're really worried, gargling the semen before you swallow it agitates the microbes so that they die.
Just kidding about that last part. If you're really worried, go for the facial instead of fueling up directly from the yogurt truck.
2007-08-29 08:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are really really uncomfortable about doing it with out a condom, then you guys should go down to planned parenthood together and get tested for std's. That way your mind will be at ease.
2007-08-29 08:46:28 · answer #8 · answered by California Kush 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have him wear one anyway, just to be on the safe side, but what you can do is put one on him or have him put one on like you guys were getting ready to have sex as you normally do, and give him oral first. He won't even hardly be able to tell the difference and would love it. You would get to do what you've been wanting to do and you'll feel confident that you're protecting yourself, so everyone wins.
2007-08-29 08:47:39 · answer #9 · answered by Jeff 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is nothing wrong with worrying about your health as well as showing your man a good time. Just sit down with him and say that you want to try different things but first, for peace of mind, can he have an STD check.. explain to him that its not that you don't trust him but many STD's don't show symptoms and you just want to protect you both..
If he loves you he wont have a problem with it at all.
Good luck
2007-08-29 08:46:20 · answer #10 · answered by Angel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋