Ok so this is how it is. I'm a senior in high school and have NEVER had a girlfriend. I don't know what's wrong with me. I'm 6'2, in good shape, I have a job at Hollister, I'm pretty popular and I know a lot of people. I'm not cocky at all, as a matter of fact, friends tell me I'm too reserved. But for some reason, I have no idea of being able to tell if a girl is showing interest in me. I used to be fat and kind of a nerd so I'll admit I have some insecurity left and I'm shy when I first meet people. Everyone tells me I have it all: looks, popularity, parents with money, and brains (4.2 GPA). I just feel like everything would be perfect if i could at least fins a girlfriend. Even though I have all these people on me, i feel lonely because i don't have a girlfriend. I know it sounds lame, but it's true. I am bad at picking up signals and even worse at asking a girl out, HELP!!
2007-08-29 08:29:20 · 30 answers · asked by JM 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
finish ur education with good grades..get a good payiing job..then worry about girls..girls arent going to be ther forever..but ur life will be! make the best of ur life..then add the additions on!
2007-08-29 08:33:27 · answer #1 · answered by pugglelover1207 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you, just keep being patient. You just haven't met the girl you are supposed to be with. You are actually kind of lucky, you don't have any baggage or any past mistakes with girls that you wish you could take back. I will also let you know that once you go to college, even a junior college, things change a lot. You meet SO MANY new people, and people are so much nicer and cooler in college than in high school. everybody is really their own person and you don't have to deal with all the stupid high school stuff. Just hang in there. You never know, it's a new school year...it could happen sooner than you think. good luck. :)
2007-08-29 15:49:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey man, first off ... are you sure you want one .. its just adds to the complexity of things especially with school and sounds like college soon, ect. .. second off .. not to be rude but your gonna need to grow a backbone ... It sounds like because of your past (looks and personality) you never learned to pick up signals because i am sure you doubted they were there ... anyway .. if your all that and a bag of chips .. as you describe .. then you are gonna have to make the first move .. girls in highschool, in my opinion, are less likely to ask you out. This leaves all the work to get the ball rolling up to you. My advice: dont wait for a signal if you feel you would make a good couple start pursuing it. And no, do not just walk up and say will you go out with me ... start by trying to schedule something for both of you to do to get a feel for it, wether its a 5 min convo with eachother or going for some ice cream as 'friends' .. if you hit it off then ask for a date .. either way .. my opinion is you say your shy .. well imagine being a girl coming up to a 6'2 guy with the intention of asking them out .. a lot more scary .. remember.. even if the answer is NO its better than wondering if it would have ever happened ...
2007-08-29 15:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you are, I think, worrying about this too much. I know lots of people, attractive people, who did not date much in high school.
Second, you are worrying way too much about "signals." Signals my ***. Find a girl you like, and ask her out. It's not rocket science, and it doesn't require mental telepathy. The only way you will get good at it is by doing it. Of course, she might turn you down. But this is the great conundrum of dating: if you never risk being turned down, then you spend an awful lot of your time alone.
If you are afraid of looking dumb, then consider this: there is NO-ONE who has EVER dated ANYONE who has not looked *extremely stupid* at some point. Comes with the territory, so you might as well get used to it.
2007-08-29 15:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there. i had the same problem: i'm 18, senior year in high school and never had a bf. i used to feel insecure about it, but if you don't think about it, you will be more relaxed and confidence will grow. some tips about girls, well.. let's see: usually girls are direct nowadays and they don't fear of making the first move anymore. they even like shy guys and they'll ask you out. and you can tell if a girl's into you only by observing her: if she looks at you in a certain way, if she does that frequently etc.
and don't be nervous... play it cool! ;)
edit: by the way, you made me curious... do you have a picture? lol
2007-08-29 15:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by somebody somewhere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firts of all, seems that we are having here some lack of self-esteem you have to learn to appreciate you above all those things u said u have to have a girl. money wont bring someone to love u, to care about u and so on...and i can tell you, I'm having the same situations right now... is been more than 6 months alone and my friends said i got everything but for me right now is more important to be ok and happy with myself...love will come by itself...good luck
2007-08-29 15:38:10 · answer #6 · answered by Shalom R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about it. worrying will just make you more nervous!
you sound like a nice guy so im sure you'll find someone soon. i know plenty of people your age who havent had a boyfriend/girlfriend so it isn't something you should worry about. Relax and let it happen. Make friends with girl and then take it from there, that way things will be more comfortable. If your worried your missing signals that girls like you (which they probably do) then ask a trusted mate on their oppinion.
Most importantly don't let it worry you. Just be yourself and don't panick.
Good Luck! xxx
2007-08-29 15:43:06 · answer #7 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh your weird. I can already tell.
Don't place so much emphasis on getting a girl friend. it will happen when it happens. That's what makes guys attractive, if they don't act desperate to just get a girlfriend to fill a spot. We're not belts, you don't get one because its the thing to do, Mr. Hollister.
Just back off the subject and let it happen.
2007-08-29 15:33:48 · answer #8 · answered by CleverGrethell99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a senior in high school an i've never had a bf inless u include this 13 yr old guy who said i was his gf
anway just go on dates there fun u dont hav to be bf and gf
and if u wait things could happen
2007-08-29 15:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man grow some balls. Just ask some random hot chick out with DD.(if you dont know what DD are they are her boob size). What is the worst she can say???? it is no. Plus in high school it all drama and crap man dont worry, you just want to find a gril that is nice to look at.
2007-08-29 15:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by Brian W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least you're tall. Im a year older than you, and Im only 5'6. Ive never had a girlfriend either...but the only way to do it..is to just grab your balls and ask someone..thats the only way..My only date ever was to the senior prom..and thats what i did. Just colse your eyes and hope for the best
2007-08-29 15:34:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋