Disliking Oral....?

Question

I just recently turned 20 and I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. We are both virgins because we prefer to wait to have sex when the time is right.
Instead of sex, he wants oral... but I'm definitely not a fan of that. I hate the taste and liquids... that might sound immature, but it just doesn't cut it for me. He gets mad at me because I don't want to do it. Even if I tell him that a lot of girls don't like giving oral, he doesn't listen.
Plus, I don't like "receiving" anything. Because of this, he thinks I don't find him attractive. That's not the case. I just don't want to do anything.

Any tips?

Answer 1

If you don’t want to do something, nobody can force you to do so. That is for sure.

But let me ask you something, have you actually tried oral before?

You said you both are virgins, and you didn’t really say you have actually tried to do anything, give or receive.

If you have, and you don’t like it, then for sure, he must stop asking for it. Otherwise, he better start looking for someone else because he can not force you to do so.

But on the other hand, if you haven’t tried oral, and you think you won’t like it, then I think you should give it a try before coming up with conclusions.

It is true, we guys love oral (most of us), and more when the girl allow us to finish in her mouth. But it s also true that not all girls like the taste. Still, most girls that don’t like the taste still enjoy giving head because it pleases their man and is fun anyways.

Now, on the receiving side, I really can’t believe that you don’t like it. If you have tried and you don’t like it, I bet your b/f doesn’t know yet what to do. I would suggest for him to look at some “instructional” videos and for you to let him try again.

And if you haven’t tried, I think you should always give it one try. You don’t know what you are missing, and I am sure you will like it after.

If you think being dirty down there is the main problem , you both can always take a shower before trying it. My wife and I usually do that, is better, cleaner , and we enjoy taking the shower together knowing what comes after it 

Again, if you don’t really want to do it, don’t. But if you haven’t tried yet, I suggest to give it a try. And if you both don’t have a clue on what to do, watch some videos, look for them online too, there are tons of information here on the net. Oral sex is not complicated, but it has to be done right in order for both of you to enjoy it.

If you decide to try, make sure to take out of your brain the idea of being dirty or wrong. Concentrate on the act, let your inhibitions go away, and just think of enjoying the moment. You might want to talk to your b/f and ask him to gove you oral first instead of you doing it to him, and let him know you might not want to do him anyways after. If he really loves you, and is willing to please you, he should be fine with it.

Same, he should be fine with it if you decide not to do anything. Real love is about that, the sacrifices you make without asking anything in return.

Good luck, and if you decide to, have lots of oral fun!

Answer 2

I so commend you on your decision to wait to have sex until the time is right. I wish I did that. And I respect that you don't want to go down on your boyfriend. Sometimes I don't mind it, and sometimes I'm completely doing it for him. I do it because I feel I should. I'm not trying to sound a certain way here, because I understand, but I have plenty of close guy friends and apparently, a bl*w job is sometimes better than sex. All guys LOVE getting it. Along with respecting yourself, and keeping to your values and morals, we need to please our men too. He doesn't have to "go" in your mouth, I don't go for that either, but other than that, I'm not sure what "taste" you are talking about. There really is no taste...And girl, you don't know what you are missing when you say you don't like to recieve either. Maybe you could keep an open mind ?

Answer 3

Well, you mentioned that you've talked to him about it and he gets angry? That's pretty selfish, but what is a girl to do these days. Guys can be so crude.

I didn't know that with performing oral, comes taste? What taste are we talking about here? The taste of the liquid? If that's the case, you don't necessarily have to continue performing until he ejaculates. He can do up until, and then back away and have him do so in a towel or something. That way you don't have to taste it.

It's perfectly OK not to like performing oral. It doesn't sound immature at all. If you really don't want to, say no & that's that. Don't let his getting angry influence you in anyway to do it.

Explain to him that it's just not your thing. Let him know that you are extremely attracted to him, and maybe you guys can find other sensual ways to connect. Like full body massages with oils, etc.

Hope this helped :)

Answer 4

I agree with those who said to give oral another chance. I didn't like it at first but I knew it made my boyfriend happy so I did it anyway. Eventually you will probably come to like it. And like the others said, you don't have to let him finish in your mouth. Make him tell you when he is nearing orgasm and then you can finish with your hand. And you should DEFINITELY receive. I was scared at first, but it feels awesome. You can look up instructional sites on the internet about how to do it (give and receive), and I suggest that.

I don't believe those he say he doesn't really love you. He just wants this mutual pleasure for you both! He feels insecure that you don't like going down on him.

Answer 5

Tell him that you don't like the taste. Suggest that he washes it beforehand... or even try some cream or something. It might feel silly at first but it'd sort out the taste of his actual penis.

Also, if you don't like the taste, or the sensation, of his *** in your mouth, ask him not to. Finish him off with your hand instead.

If you REALLY don't want to then he shouldn't pressure you into it or get mad at you for it, if he does then he doesn't love you as much as you think. Tell him that, and if he still tries to make you, he isn't worth your time, or your mouth ;)

Answer 6

I used to be the same way. At that time a guy I was talking to who happened to be a lil older, told me I would see it differently as I got older. You may never like the thought of goin down but just remember satisfying your man is such a turn on. But don't do anything until you are ready.

Answer 7

Other than telling him what you told us?? Not really..you need to reassure him that it is NOT him. That the whole idea of oral anything is a turn off to you should do it. There are other ways to satisfy him though. I'm not sure of your limitations but, a handjob may do it or, maybe mutual masterbation or something along those lines.

Good Luck... I hope this helps

Answer 8

If you go to adult stores there are a variety of creams/gels that will make it so you do not taste it and also eliminate your gag reflex. You will enjoy the taste of mint that is in your mouth much more than what he makes. Seriously, go t othe store and talk to the people there and they will be happy to help you out. That is what they are there for. If you are not mature enough to handle doing this and being able to talk abuot it, you should not be doing it.

Answer 9

Be by yoUrself. Maybe its becoming more like an obligation then gratification that why ur not enjoying it. I don't understand how people find it okay to have oral but not intercourse. Anyways, if you don't want to that Ur right. Put Ur foot down and stick to it. Or do other four play stuff . Get books.

Answer 10

Just explain to him, that it's something that your not comfortable doing. That you don't feel right. He has waited for you to give yourself to each other so why can he wait till you come more in tune with it. It's really not that bad, NO ONE likes to do it, we do it cause we want to please our partners. But if your never going to do it, and his complaining now. Later will not be any better. Maybe your not on the same page anymore and want different things in life. Just remember no matter what his a man, it's in his blood.