How would you go about trying to get a woman who is an unbeliever not to have an abortion considering she feels it is her choice and not the fathers? Would praying be the only method?
2007-08-29 08:02:36 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I feel bad for any woman who is considering abortion. It's not an easy choice, if they believe it is their right as a woman. I know many, many women who have had abortions only to regret it later. The sad thing is that the so called counselors at the clinics are trained to counsel people into getting them, saying things like "You are right, now is not a good time." etc. "No you can't determine the sex yet." There's really nothing you can do. except love the person, and pray for her. Or pray that God would give you words that would help her make the right decision.
2007-08-29 08:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by ♫O Praise Him♫ 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Pray for her since she is obviously having a tough choice to make. But you cant pray that God make her make a good choice because you would basically be praying that God take away her free will.
I would go with her to a Christian place that talks to unwed mothers or anyone considering abortion. Usually they have an ultrasound machine and can show the mother the heart beating. Usually that helps them reconsider abortion.
As for the father, pray for him also because he probably feels powerless. The government has really screwed fathers over by taking away all say-so in most cases.
2007-08-29 08:12:03 · answer #2 · answered by MrMyers 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no. You have to pray but that's not your only answer. You have to talk to her and use words that won't make her feel as though you were forcing her to keep the child or accusing her of being a bad woman.
Use statements like ," I feel that you are a strong woman and I know you can handle your career and motherhood."
or
" I feel that it would perhaps be a better choice to keep the child. After you have your baby and if you still feel the same way I'm sure one of your family members would adopt. You can even bless a family that is unable to have children with yours."
or
" Bottom line is - This is your choice- however you weren't the only one involved in creating this child and I feel that you should consider his feelings in this situation."
2007-08-29 08:13:04 · answer #3 · answered by s.o.s. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am christian and have never believed in abortion. I had a friend (we no longer talk) who kept having unprotected sex and ending up pregnant. Time and time again she would have yet another abortion. Every time I would try and talk her out of it to no avail. In the end she has had 6 abortions that I know of. I tried everything in my power to change her mind but eventually just cut ties with her because I couldn't associate with someone so self absorbed. I heard later that she ended up falling in love and conceived a child she actually wanted only to end up having a miscarriage. I believe it's from all the trauma she caused her body. So my theory goes-you can preach to her and you can pray for her but I don't know if it is okay to ask God to take away her ignorance. And in the end if she does it, we both know who she'll have to answer to.
2007-08-29 08:17:02 · answer #4 · answered by *~mama mari~* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would gently ask her to reconsider. Remind her that that baby is her flesh and blood and has no say in the matter. The father definately has a choice as that baby is his as well. I would pray before you spoke to her so God will give you his holy words and that you would able to talk some sense into her.
I really can't understand why anyone would think that abortion is OK. Killing an innocent baby because of inconvenience is not OK. (Just my opinion)
2007-08-29 08:14:23 · answer #5 · answered by Kaliko 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I've had to go the prayer route a time or two.... In the cases of my friends they'd had abortions on the past so I reminded them of the guilt they admitted to me they felt. I also encouraged them to contact a crisis pregnancy center so they could get a rational explanation of their options, rather than just go to planned parenthood where they can't wait to abort. Finally, after talking with my parents, we offered to take the babies if they wanted. In the end, thank God, they both kept their babies.
2007-08-29 08:08:42 · answer #6 · answered by Rossonero NorCal SFECU 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
praying can only help. give her all the other options you can think of instead of abortion. if she goes through with the abortion, pray for her even more.
2007-08-29 08:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by irish398 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, prayer... fervent prayer. And if that doesn't work, just tap your heels 3 times and repeat, "There's no place like an abortion clinic... there's no place like an abortion clinic... there's no place like an abortion clinic".
If I told YOU when you can pee, stand, sit, breath, speak and exist.... what would you do?
Don't. Just don't go there.
2007-08-29 08:15:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Prayer is always the anwser, it may not be the only one though. The Bible says you should be in constant prayer. I think in that situation you should pray for knowledge and ask God what you should do.
2007-08-29 08:08:50 · answer #9 · answered by jesusfreakjav 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
My believing wife has convinced unbelieving women to not have abortions, so it is worth telling women not to have abortions.
And those women today are thankful beyond anything you can fathom that they didn't kill their children and decided to have them alive and not murdered.
2007-08-29 08:07:58 · answer #10 · answered by CJ 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋