When is the right age to...?

Question

Tell your kids personal stuff? I mean like what age would you concider old enough to tell your kids the truth when they ask you where babies come from? I never asked my mom and so I didn't know for a long time. Obviously I do now, but you know. Like I have this friend and she said that she asked her mom when she was eight and her mom told her everything about sex.

Answer 1

It all starts when children begin learning body parts; they have an arm, a knee, girls have a vulva and vagina, boys have a penis and testicles, women have breasts.
Usually around 6, a child starts asking where babies come from. Parents should answer honestly, at the level the child can understand, according to their family values. Usually parents leave themselves open to more questions as the child thinks of them, and add to the child's knowledge as s/he matures.
These days, there are girls getting their periods at even 9, so they have to know everything by that time. Boys need to know it all, too - both, because it's much better for the parents to give the information, instead of the myths kids learn on the playground.

Answer 2

Its different with all kids, because they all have different maturity levels. Some kids could handle that information at an earlier age then others.

How old are your children? Have they been asking questions about these type of things? I wouldn't really press the issue until they start to ask questions, especially if they are still young. I do however want to say that I think its great that your preparing yourself.

What my mom did, she waited until I would have learned about it in school, and talked to me about it at home a few days before. That way, I heard it from her and not the school. Then I could ask her questions, and whatever else. Just a suggestion.

Best of Luck! It really can be an uncomfortable conversation to have. Hope I have helped.

Answer 3

Tell them when they ask. You don't have to go into great detail. Just tell them the basics.

I knew where babies came from at 3 because that's when my brother was born. I was told about periods at 9. I was told about sex starting at 10. I have a great mom. :) My first period was at 13.

Telling them during their teens is too late because by then, many kids are already having sex; not realizing what they're doing nor the consequences of their actions.

Answer 4

My son is 9 and he doesn't have an idea about sex, but he does know the difference about boys and girls and where babies come from. I just explained it so he could understand, like, "where girls go to the bathroom" or "the doctor took him out". I think I will have the sex talk with him around teenage years because I would like to have a sense that I at least tried to inform him before everyone else does.

Answer 5

I did it the cop-out way.
I bought some children's easy to read books age related. I read the easiest to all of my children then read the harder ones to the older ones. Those who could read, I let them read themselves. I told them right from the beginning that my parents never told me and I was feeling embarrassed to tell them and that all parents are ( at least most I knew were). Then I told the children that if they had any questions after that they can ask me and I would try to answer as best I could and if I couldn't answer then I could look up the answers. The emphasis was they should come to me and I would be there for them.

Answer 6

well if ur not telling thm....there not older nuf ;) and prob u asked ur mom as well lol but u mother did the best thing........seen wot kids no 2 day about every thing with sex , they*d tell u a thing or 2 about it......well ur kid up 2 u id say if there young, say the old thing, well if there oldunf well they will have a good idear........didnt u lol well dont mean tht in a bad way but dont think u should tell kids everything no matter wot te ppl are saying chat 2 thm on there level.....good luck.....chat 2 th on there level they will never stop asking right out.....like dont no u and dad was u ok lastnite i heard......ok its up 2 u have fun

Answer 7

I will tell my daughter when she asks. There's no need to dump information on her. And all of my answers will be age-appropriate. I asked how babies were made when I was 4 and my mother told me. She bought me a book about reproduction that included everything from a flower to a dog to a chicken to a human. It was purely factual, and I was satisfied with the info. No extra questions needed.

Answer 8

I would probably say 12 or 13 depending on how mature the kid seems. Although you might be suprised to find out how much they already know by that age. My parents had "the Talk" with me around 12 and I already knew most of what they were telling me.

Answer 9

my mom told me little clues.i think maybe starting middle school you could drop more and more hints since they probably would be starting health class anyway.they might as well hear it from u first.i say middle school is the best time.there is a twist though.schools nowadays kids talk about anything.it is likely that ur kid will find out in elemantary in like grade 2 or 3.i actually learned about it in grade 1.i reccomend you put parental control.kids find out that way and then they tell friends.keep your kid to always to be honest so that when they do find out they come to u first and u can clear it out.

Answer 10

When a kid starts asking those types of questions is when you should start telling them about it, in age appropriate language, of course.
You can always have age-related conversations about sex, because it is so prevalent on TV and movies. When your child sees people making out or *whatever* on TV, you can also use that opportunity to convey your own values on sex and relationships.