Should I stop cooking food for my boyfriend everyday after school?

Question

Im 17, and hes 19, weve been going out for4 years and 3 months. Everyday, I ve been cooking for him at his apartment. He comes and picks me up from school. I dont mind cooking for him because I love cooking and one day i hope to have my own resturant, Its just that he cant cook, and sometimes I have to stufy for tests and final exams. He isint in school anymore but I am, and in my last year of highschool. Should I stop cooking for him or should I minimize the amount of cooking I do for him?

Answer 1

Sweety, what are you doing? Ok listen to me carefully. If you take my advice you will be saved from misery which is coming your way.
You are a young woman. You have a whole life in front of you. This is the time for you to make something of your self. There is nothing wrong with cooking for someone you love, but if it is interfering with your school, there is something wrong. He should be understanding and give importance to what you value.
You both have different goals in life. he is out of school and you have a dream of becoming something. You need someone who encourages you to be somebody. And not only you need someone who encourages you, but also he should be willing to make something of themselves as well.
You are only 17. Pretty soon you will enter college or university and see a whole new world. Don't get your self trap in emotional bonds at this time. Enjoy your life. It only comes once. There is so much to experience in this world. You will meet new people and learn new things in college. Don't take this opportunity from your self.
If your boyfriend truly loves you, he shouldn't be picking you up every day from school. He should be helping you to become someone better.
Think about this...
If he is not doing that, you should get out now. A whole new world is waiting for you.... Don't let these young years slip you by like that

Answer 2

To be cooking and then suddenly stop? You have this guy spoiled no doubt.

Explain to him that you can't cook for him everyday anymore because of your studies. He should be able to cook somewhat for himself ..after all it really isn't rocket science and there are so many good frozen dinners. He can learn to use a crock pot and season and put a roast in to eat on for a few days. He can add veggies, potatoes, noodles the next day, make sandwiches. Show him what he can do to make it work.
Of course he may use that he cannot pick you up from school everyday and that should be fine with you as well.

Answer 3

If it is putting a strain on your school work, then I would say you should limit the time you spend cooking for him.

I think it's nice that you enjoy cooking and that you like to take care of him that way. But right now you also have to focus on completing your last year of high school with good grades.

Maybe you should only cook him dinner a couple of times a week, or make him simple meals instead of more complicates ones.

The key is to find a balance so you can cook for him but still do the things that you need to get done.

Answer 4

If You want to cook for him, then by all means go ahead. But if you are feeling like it is becoming too much of a chore for you to do it daily, then teach him some basic cooking skills. Which you should probably do anyway. Let him know it's not that you don't want to cook (if that is the case), but that you have to prioritize your life right now. You could also cook him a bunch of stuff on a Sat or Sun and have him put it in the freezer for the days that you can't help. Remember YOU are ONLY 17. Not to make it sound like you are too young or anything, but you have an entire life ahead of you! It sounds like he lives on his own. You are not his wife and you are not his mother. He needs to learn some self reliance. That doesn't mean you can't or should stop cooking for him, it means he needs to learn to be able to do it for himself, so You don't HAVE to!

Answer 5

Well on one hand you say you don't mind, but on the other hand you say it (the cooking for him) is interfering with your own goals, meaning your studies.

So which is it?

In the meantime, you make it seem like it's an either/or situation. Either you cook for him every day, or you don't.
An alternative to this would be that you cook for him when you can, because you love to do it, & that would make the time you do even more special. On the times you can't cook for him (like when you need to study) then you don't. That will make him appreciate the times when you do cook for him even more because now he won't run the risk of taking you, & your cooking for granted.

Besides, if he's going to live on his own he had better get used to his own cooking, & YES HE CAN COOK. Every guy can if I can. Yes my wife is a far better cook than I am, but I don't starve when she isn't there to cook me a meal, & he won't either.

Answer 6

Minimize the amount you cook for him and do some creative things that can be frozen and he will be able to warm up for himself. Also, teach him so basic things, grill cheese, boil water and put spaghetti in it. Who knows that after you complete school, pursue your dreams, open your restaurant, that he will be the same person you want to spend the rest of your life with? If he is then you need to help him be more self-sufficient or you will be a slave to the stove at work and at home.

Answer 7

You should buy him some cooking books and have some of the cooking done for you.

If you have been studying hard he should help your efforts of gaining good achievements by doing things like this to allow you more free time.

Hopefully your bf is working!! If he is working then to a certain extent the cooking should be a shared activity.

If he is not working then he should have plenty of time to learn how to cook.

Answer 8

You can give a fish to a poor man and he'll have a meal for a day or you can teach a poor man how to catch his own fish and he'll eat for a lifetime.

I'm sure I butchered that quote but, you get the point. Don't cook for him every single day... Cook for him once in a while so that it's a treat. Take a few days and teach him how to cook himself... Then maybe one day, he'll do something cooking for you.

Answer 9

U need to make ur studies ur # one priority, and u need to talk to him about getting back in to school...community college. u dont want to be a grown man's play wife. u're only 17 i would be pissed if my daughter was cooking for some guy. start cooking less and let him know that u have to concentrate on school, he should understand. he can always try to cook, order a pizza, or heat up something. good luck!

Answer 10

Many married women cook on the weekend. They might make spaghetti, pot roast, and a chicken casserole. Then they freeze part of that or refrigerate it, so after a hard day at work, they can already have a meal prepared. Try it. It might make it easier on you, and you only mess up the kitchen once.