She lived across from me in my building for 10 yrs., we were just aquaintances, talking in the hallway only. She moved two years ago. She started calling me alot, bragging about how much better the area she moved in is. Very annoying,
Then she started dropping by my apartment unexpected and staying for 5 hours.
When she lived here i never saw her once with a guy, now she brags about some guy whos her boyfriend.
After talking to her for 2 years, not once has she mentioned her job, where she works, etc. I know shes a waitress but she never talks about her job at all, its weird.
How do i get rid of this woman?
2007-08-29 07:08:36 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
She acts like were best of friends, i mean for 10 years we never did anything together or even sat in each others apt, what does she want from me?
2007-08-29 07:10:37 · update #1
She probably doesn't have friends where she moved to. Just tell her she needs to call before coming by.
2007-08-29 07:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think that she is lonely and misses the good neighbors that she had before (which was you). i think that if she calls ( and you see her number on the caller id don't pick up or if she stops by because she sees your car don't answer the door tell her you were sleep or some friends of yours went out and they picked you up. After a while she will get the hint. But, call her every once in a while or stop by just to say hello and let her know that you care - I guess. If you call her tell her you are on the way somewhere that way you don't have to stay on the phone for a long time AND/OR if you stop by tell her you have an appointment at a certain time- that way you can leave when needed.
2007-08-29 07:14:25 · answer #2 · answered by BeLiZe Gyal 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
You can go the nice route
When she comes over unexpected. Have something else to do even if you have to leave. And don't take her with you and don't leave her in your apartment.
Use your peep hole if you see her at the door. Don't answer the door. If she ask why you didn't answer. You were in the shower, not home (many people leave the TV, radio etc on when they are away) busy etc.
When she starts bragging go along and ask when is the wedding.
Invest in caller ID and don't answer the phone when she calls. And don't answer anonymous, blocked or any unidentified calls.
She will get the hint.
OR you can go the mean route
Tell her your not friends and to get lost.
2007-08-29 07:27:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
She is looking to date you. By now you should have got the hint. You have 2 choices. 1. Be up front with her and say your glad things are going well for her but are not interested in socializing and you don't understand why she is calling and would rather her not drop by unannounced. or Do what most men do. If she comes over unexpected don't answer the door or just say now is not a good time your getting ready to go out. Don't take her calls or return them. She will get the hint.
2007-08-29 08:58:24 · answer #4 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She must be actually VERY lonely to want to call and visit you. She's lying to you about having a bf etc. If she has a bf, she shouldn't be having much time calling you or dropping by. When she drops by, don't let her in. Tell her it's inconvenient for you to have her. Have caller ID to screen her calls to ignore them. Worse come to worse, change your phone number.
2007-08-29 20:09:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
shes lonely, can you tell that. Suddenly shes reaching out and bragging about how much better her life is....if her life was better she wouldnt need to reassure herself by bragging.
You can always not answer her phone call (get caller ID). If she pops by act like your on your out or dont answer the door. I would just tell her that your extremely busy and when you get a moment you'll call her.
2007-08-29 07:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by divers_godeeper 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Politely explain the next time she calls that you do not enjoy her company. Be polite but firm. If she drops by unexpectedly, you are under no obligation to invite her in your home. Simply, but politely, explain you do not have time for a visit with her, and ask that she phone ahead of time if she intends to drop by your home again.
There is no need to lie or to be rude. The simple truth, said in a polite manner, works best.
2007-08-29 07:34:41 · answer #7 · answered by Carol D 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Be straight forward, & demand that she leaves you and stay away for good. If that doesn't work, consider getting a restraining order for her. Other tips: when you see her, don't make her feel @ home by providing attention, services, etc. Finally if you're engaged to somebody else, that's it. Case closed, good luck, & good riddance to your unwanted person.
2007-08-29 07:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your former neighbor has created a fantasy life, and she wants to keep you up to date on it.
Please let her know that you've started a 'new project' and it will keep you too busy for casual visits, so she should definitely NOT 'drop by' any more.
If she drops by ANYWAY, tell her that you're busy and must prepare for your 'project' so she must GO, immediately! If she says she has to tell you about her new activities, tell her that you DON'T CARE enough to interrupt your 'project' to hear it, or that your project is too important to delay to listen to her talk.
This way, she won't have to 'take hints' that you won't cooperate in her fantasy; she'll have direct input that you're not available to her at all.
2007-08-29 07:36:32 · answer #9 · answered by nora22000 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You need to get busy. Tell her you work from home, you have to be going now. Don't let her walk all over you. As they say, she sounds a few bricks shy of a load; her elevator doesn't go all the way to the top; the bus isn't making all the stops (you get the idea?)
2007-08-29 07:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by marie 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋