We all do stupid things when we are young and sometimes remember these things later in life. I'm a straight guy and I'm actually engaged to be married in a year or two. Recently I remembered back to a time when I was around twelvish. I was playing with a fourish year old boy cousin. I can't remember all the details but I remember he was on top of me and was humping me or something, I put my hands on his but cheeks. All clothes were on, I never kissed him or anything, I didnt even touch his you know. I look at it in disgust now but am I wrong to resent myself for this? I mean I was young and I can't remember what I was thinking back then. I just feel so guilty and I like to think of it as a bad dream because I know I wouldn't do anything like that now.
2007-08-29 06:40:05 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think as long as you did not force your cousin to do anything, and you did not do it with mal-intent, you should not feel guilty, or beat yourself up for it. It is normal for young children to experiment sexually. However, it is easier to say to "just let it go" than it is to do, and you may find that you can't. I would suggest that you talk to the cousin, and hint around, trying to see if he remembers anyhting about it. If he does not, then leave it alone, and know that there is nothing more to do but accept it for young experimentation, and forgive yourself (and him if needed). If it does seem that he remembers it, then I would tell him that you feel bad about it, and want to apologize if you hurt him in any way. Whatever you do, you need to get some closure, and that won't come unless you talk to your cousin. But if he doesn't remember, you don't want to traumatize him by bringing it up, so you will need to find another way to get resolution, perhaps by opening up to a priest, minister, or counselor.
2007-08-29 06:53:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were both kids that did not know what you were doing also childhood memories can be very different from what we remember because facts are replaced by knew stereotype patterns as we grow older so what you describe might not even have happened no matter how vivid you think it is.
PS in the end all that matters is that you don't blame your self. try looking into the future rather then the past
2007-08-29 13:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by mountz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You were kids! When my bro and I were that age we played "Adam ad Eve" and you can imagine what that looked like. He had been 4 and I was 2 and we didn't know there was such this as 'private areas'
You didn't know any better, we all do stupid stuff when we were toddlers! If you truely love your wife and you don't have urges towards men don't worry about it!
2007-08-29 20:08:14 · answer #3 · answered by DallasStar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
learn from your mistakes and tell that 4yr old that you are a straight man now and you can no longer be with him!!
2007-08-29 13:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were kids, things happen, I once made out with my best freinds's sister, and now I can forgive myself, you will learn to live with it.
2007-08-29 14:04:04 · answer #5 · answered by pukeypie89 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps,you really enjoyed this and may still have an urge to be w/men...only you can decide,BEFORE you marry
2007-08-29 13:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by Steve B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT BE SO HARD ON YOURSELF,EVERYONE MAKES MISTAKES.
2007-08-29 13:53:10 · answer #7 · answered by TABBYKAT34 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all u can do is try to forget about it
2007-08-29 13:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by shady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋