I am scared to tell my dad that I am dating a white guy, my boyfriend told his parents that he was dating me and I was black they made a big thing about it, I just dont know how to tell my dad and I know he well disown me and everything Its like I am saying I am gay or something. HELP anyone
2007-08-29 06:38:48 · 19 answers · asked by suga mama 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
n ur head......
2007-09-06 06:25:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i know where you are coming form, i would be scared to tell my dad something like that 2..! firstly how old are you? because if you are old enough you can make the descion all by yourself! you already know the outcome so you might as well do it, because keeping a secret in the end will only make it worse... again i ask how old are you? if you are young you may wanna keep this secret 4 a little while longer because are you sure you are willing to lose your family over this guy? how long have you been dating? i think you need to be sure about your relationship first! if you are positive about it and nothing can sway your decision then tell them, just talk to your dad about it all mature and all and if you have always been that girl that your dad can trust then i see no reason why he will not take your word this time. just tell him and show him that you know what you are doing and that it would make you more than happy if he would just support you.
ok i hope what i said is not in a jingle... basically you should base your descion on your age, how long you guys hve been datin and the relationship you have with your dad.
you know your dad beta that we do so at the end of the day you know what will be what if you tell him or dont tell him. just make the right descion ok..
good luck. i know what you are going through thou. my dad would not walk me down the ilse if i ever told him i was marrying a white guy, but i think thats unfair on me, and at the end of the day its my happiness! right?
2007-09-06 11:12:01 · answer #2 · answered by badgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're dad is no better than all the white people that he probably calls a racist. All the times we ( white people) are called racist because of America's history but people like your dad are just as racist as people make us out to be.
The way I feel about the whole color thing is color doesn't matter. If you are happy than that's what's important. If you are old enough to make your own decisions than this should be a no brainer.
The United States was intergrated years ago and I thought that was the way it is supposed to be so date who you want. If your dad can't see that you're happy then he should grow up and figure out what is more important to him, your happiness or color.
If you feel more comfortable try telling your dad that you are just friends at first try that and see how he reacts.
But really the choice is up to you. Do what makes you happy. That is the best advice I can give you.
2007-09-06 11:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by jgantz07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Besides the white/black of this. Is this man worth losing your family over? I'm a Daddy's girl & I would just lose it if my Dad disowned me...horrible. Is there any talking to your father? This is a horrible, hurtful situation. However, I have to say, my Dad loves me & wants me to be happy, whomever that is with. Both his & your family need to take that stand. Is there another reason this relationship is being pu pooood?
2007-08-29 13:44:53 · answer #4 · answered by Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK...I told my daddy that I was dating a Mexican and he went crazy. He disowned me and told me that I wasn't his little girl anymore. But I had the support from my boyfriend to keep me from going crazy. I tried to tell my daddy how I really was in love with him and how he made me happy, but he didn't want to hear it. My daddy made me choose between him and my boyfriend and of course i chose my boyfriend, at now he was come to the point where is getting to like my boyfriend after he really saw how much i cared about that boy and how much he really made me happy he was OK with it. It took time but it was all worth it in the end.
I'm not telling you to go tell your daddy but if your boyfriend is gonna tell his parents then you should do the same. He is taking a big step in the relationship and you should do the same. He loves you and he is trying to show you that.
Good Luck and let me know how everything goes.
2007-09-06 10:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Best ting that I Can say is let them find out for them self's.
If you are in school and living at home it will be very difficult on you. If your Dad relay loves you he will under stand. If the boy Friend is a good man your dad will like him. If your father though he had different in intentions then he will hate him. Don't fight with you dad over this. Your dad must be a great father to you and love you very deep. I was face with this at one time. But I'm white. My doughtier thought the world of this man. but I ask her what was his real intention.were. Was he looking for a white girl to keep him in the white world. Love is hard no mater what. if you two are ment to be it will be. both of your familys love you both and donot what you two to make a mistake. bless you both
2007-08-29 13:58:36 · answer #6 · answered by tadm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation. I am Jewish and I married a Catholic Girl. I mean we were not that strict with our religion but my parents went ballistic. I sat them down and I told them I was in Love and I was going to marry this girl. They threatened to disown me but I didnt care. I was in my early 20's and I did what I wanted. Believe me your father will not disown You. You have to sit him down and have a talk to him, tell him how you feel. I am now a father of a 21 year old daughter and when she gets married I dont care if he is Jewish, catholic, White or Black as long as my daughter is happy that is all I care about. Good Luck!!!!
2007-09-06 02:08:51 · answer #7 · answered by paul s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg oh girl you are in a big situation. im so sorry that his parents made a big deal out of it. how do you know that your father will disown you? the only thing i can tell you is to sit down and talk to him about it.
2007-08-29 14:29:25 · answer #8 · answered by Bore sum 1 else w/ ur question! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is my opinion that the guy is supposed to introduce himself BEFORE you start dating!
Let him tell your dad. If your dad loves you then he will not disown you! It is only a date!
2007-09-06 11:05:00 · answer #9 · answered by Catholictothemaxtradition 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be a tough one. Remember that our parents grew up in different times and that its hard for them to accept their child dating a different race. I would first talk about his good points. Talk him up so to speak. This is hard for me to answer without sounding racist. I won't date black men. Personal preference because I have seen too many of my black girlfriends get dumped or cheated on by their man because he wanted a white woman. I don't get it? Its like some taboo thing from long ago. Like a white woman is a trophy to be shown off for friends. I think that black women are strong and beautiful. I think thats probably what he sees in you! If your family loves you, they will eventually accept him as long as he is good to you. Make sure that he is, your worth it!!!
2007-09-06 10:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess Who's Coming To Dinner
2007-09-06 10:33:48 · answer #11 · answered by Veritas 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋