How come when someone close to me dies, I do not cry or feel saddness? even if I love them?

Answer 1

because ur a cold hearted mother ******

Answer 2

I carry the tough persona of being afraid of nothing and no one. Still, when watching "A walk to remember" or "I am Sam", I cried endlessly. The point of this anecdote would be to illustrate the point that every person reacts differently to certain things in life. The love you had for a person who passed away is not subject to question simply because you cannot cry. However, I have to question if you loved them if you are not sad. Whether you show your saddness or are compelled to cry is another thing. Also, if you are going through the stages of grief, you may be dealing with anger or denial. Still, if after you have accepted that your loved one is gone and you are completely indifferent, then it is your task to delve within yourself and examine your lack of feeling. If you truly loved them, then how you're feeling, or lack thereof, appears to others is inconsequential. Just be sure you truly are okay and can move on to have a happy, productive life.

Answer 3

Hey...

Well for starters I think that the people who are abusing you should keep their opinions to themselves. Is it really helpful to call her names?

To answer (maybe) your question... I'm not fully certain, but some people I know who've had people close to them die have gone numb for quite a while, simply because they are not ready to believe that that person has gone. When this happens, they don't feel anything for a while and then something will make them realise. When that happened, the people that I know experienced a great rush of grief and with time, moved on. I think this happens to quite a few people, so if this sounds like you, then you're not the only one! (Also, crying is not the only way that people express grief)

I hope that helps, xxx

Answer 4

first of all, don't consider your reaction abnormal. everyone reacts differently with grief. some people take a while and go through the denial phase for a long time. for others, they don't feel sadness because it's their mind's way of sheltering them from such a traumatic incident. many people say it's not healthy to keep emotions in, but sometimes that's the natural reaction. if you want, see a counselor so you can at least talk about what you're going through.

Answer 5

it sounds like you are blocking out the pain. it is not good to do that though! there is going to come a time when you really have a mental breakdown. i have went through that before. i use to do the same thing. and then there would be days when all of the sudden everything would hit me all at once. it is very uncontrollable. so i think that you need to just let it out. its not that you are not sad or empathic, its that you are not fully accepting the pain! cry and let it out. you will feel so much better!

Answer 6

It could be shock or denial. I know when someone dies who is on hospice, they stay with the family for 13 months after the person passes, because it is common not to react until the anniversary of a death.

Answer 7

We cope different ways. I usually just shut down and go numb when a loved one dies. Other people I know go into a total rage.

Answer 8

I Felt the same wen my grandfather passed out!

i loved him lots!!

but i didnt seem too cry!!

i think its coz some people are more sensative then others..
but i guarantee you wen ur mum dies u will cry!!

And ... dont qorry about it!

it happenes to lotsa ppl!

X

Answer 9

ppl are different it could be shock...wen my nan died de first thing i done was started laughing hysterically which is terrible but then i found out that its another way of releasing grief...maybe it hasnt hit u yet..or maybe u are quite smart and realise they hav gone 2 a better place!

xXx

Answer 10

crying is not the only way people show emotions. You don't have to cry to express your grief. This happens to alot of people

Answer 11

just in shock that one moment your loved one is there and the next theyre not. you probabyl just feel numb huh. crying might not be a type an emotion you express.