...and i dont know what to do.
They hooked up a month after we broke up, and it wasnt a bad break up. She knows better because she knew that i still loved him, but still hooked up with him. she told me herself, but i still have a hard time accepting it, and now that i'm away, i heard that they're living together... I was willing to forgive her then, but now i dont know how to handle it. i still care about her, but i have a hard time trusting her. as for him, i couldnt care less now.
help please.
2007-08-29 06:19:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she didnt even like him at the very beginning and he's not her type. if anyone, i'm the one who can see how wrong they are for each other...and they are. i and know it wont last...
2007-08-29 06:45:30 · update #1
Give them your blessings and move on.......She is no longer a trusted best friend.
2007-08-29 06:26:49 · answer #1 · answered by stef 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look ok there are some rules of friends where you dont touch your mates ex's but they were split and you and her aren't friends over other things that have happened so to be honest really you shouldnt be worried about it just put it to the back of your head write it down as a experience and move on with your life thats the best thing to do it seems that some people who have wrote answers here seem to have forgotten that it takes 2 to tango and the blame should not be put all on you!!! he shouldn't have put you in that situation just as much as if you felt it was wrong then you should have said no but you didnt and i wouldnt let it get to you way to much stress in life anyway and when you look back at this situation when your older you will wonder why you ever worried about it in the first place cause there will be bigger things to worry about.
2016-04-02 05:30:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he is your ex, and likely her current. And she probably has feelings for him, and wants him to train her. Break ups are break ups, wether they're bad or not. But most break ups are. If you still loved him when you broke up with him, why'd you break up with him? Just forget about the whole matter, there's nothing to forgive, because you and the guy are exs, now and have been since a month, before the two of them hooked up. If they're living together, it's their choice.
2007-08-29 06:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, she should not have done that, but she did, and she thinks enough of your friendship to tell you about it herself. If they are living together, then it appears they are pretty serious about each other, and you need to accept that. You can still be close to both of them as friends, and maybe even laugh with them about the past at some point in your life. Trust her, she did a bad thing, but was honest to you about it.
2007-08-29 06:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by nurse ratchet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were still paired with this guy when your friend hooked up with him I could see your point in being upset.
BUT Here's the thing.
HE is your EX. He wasn't your boyfriend when she hooked up with him. And at least she waited a while after the breakup. Admirable of her if you ask me.
So quit being so territorial - especially over someone you're no longer paired up with.
Shame on you. Be happy for her and wish her well.
That way you get to keep both of them as friends.
2007-08-29 06:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up him! At least they didn't 'hook' up until you'd broken up. You still care about her, so, just talk to her. Time will take the edge off the feelings your having.
2007-08-29 06:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by Oppna to tal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When this happened to me the last time, I dumped both and completely alienated myself from them! They don't deserve my trust nor attention anymore! My life is happier without them now. I hope you can be like me too.
2007-08-29 06:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by Spinaround 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, obviously this wasn't a GREAT friend, so I would move on and find other friends. If you dont see them on a daily basis, I wouldnt worry about it.
Trust me I've had friends screw me over time and time again, no matter how good of friends we are and it's just best to move on and forget both. Cut them both out of your life and you'll be fine.
2007-08-29 06:27:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lucky Colette 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Who initiated the break-up? If you broke up with him you have little justification for complaining about either of them. If he broke up with you you are justified in leaving your friend.
2007-08-29 06:43:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to forget about your ex. Your friend made a mistake too but maybe she doesn't realize how it hurt your feelings. You should talk to her about it.
2007-08-29 06:26:59 · answer #10 · answered by SmileyFace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋