how do you handle rejection from girls when youve been yourself with them, and they ignore you,stop talking?

Question

to you? how do you deal with the hurt when youve tried to be yourself with them?
plus you already have low self esteem, so this will dent it even more

Answer 1

the sad part is that not everyone is compatible with everyone else. While you are yourself (which is the best thing to be), not every girl is going to think "wow, this is the guy for me." It's hard not to get bitter about it, or to get your self esteem hurt by it, but the truth is that the girl you like may be your type, but you may not be hers.

Best advice, continue to be yourself. Realize that it's not you that's the problem. It's finding the girl that is a match for you. Discover what are your interests. Find girls that have similar interests. Then you have a basis for compatibility. Go from there.

Answer 2

I wouldn't stop talking but I wouldn't try to be someone else either. Girls find something in certain guys and they do not see that in someone else, it is natural. I'd continue to talk and be friendly and be myself. Now, as far as that low self esteem is concerned I would spend a lot of my time trying to correct that. Do you think the girls might just percieve this self opinion and perhaps prefer not to deal with it? Not only that but you might not be the same "self" if you see yourself differently.
Why do you have low esteem is the first question.
Looks or appearence as far as how you see yourself? Change them. try different styles of clothes, comb your hair differently, excersize and build up. Do whatever it takes.
Nervous around people...shy?
Get involved in drama and do a play. It will be hard at first but once you give a performance and people applaud you'll start overcoming that shyness. If you don't want to go that far then try public speaking, also hard at first but it gets easier the more you do it. There are groups you can join to learn to do these things and people to help and encourage you who understand the fears you will have.
Basically what you see in yourself that you don't like can be changed for the better if you try. In other words: Are you really being rejected or just not allowing yourself to be noticed?

Answer 3

Just leave them alone. I think almost everyone has been rejected before sometime in their lives. It's just something you have to deal with. When you are rejected just don't talk to that person again and ignore them back. You must bring up your self esteem before you start trying to get with any girl. You must have courage and be man enough to take on pressure from anything. Even if you try to talk to a girl you must have confidence. Granted I don't know much in this area because I've never been rejected, (mostly because I've never tried talking to people voluntarily) But my brothers have, and they knew what it's like to be rejected and they deal with it in a manly way.

Answer 4

Start talking to other girls. Don't try to talk to a group of girls. Just start with one at a time. It might be more predictable this way. If you talk to a group, there is no telling how they will react. They will take cues from each other because they may be nervous and react inappropriately..

Answer 5

Don't let there childish games get to you, After all they are the ones with problems that do that. What I do is move on to another and you meet up with someone when you least expect it. And guess what you will find better that really do want you now that is a moral boost

Answer 6

You realize that you can't hang your sense of self on other people and move on. You are who you are and you can only change so much and there are people who will appreciate that. Find someone who likes you for you - she's out there and don't go looking. You have to be happy alone before you can be happy with someone else.

Good luck.

Answer 7

You have to learn how not to take it so personal...it isn't always something that you did...she might not be meant for you, or she is lying and just want's to play with your heart...time is a great healer, but I always say, nothing ventured, nothing gained...you can always send a little yahoo greetings card to her, and just to say hi...if she is interested, and if you catch her at the right time,..nothing heavy...she might just have been wanting to talk to you too,, but was afraid too....Hey, it just might not have been the right time...sometimes, down the road,..people change, and you just never know