How could he not care?

Question

I have/had a crush on a guy at work. The thing is we used be close friends and I started liking him as more than a friend and I told hm . I got the since that he liked me too since he always flirted with me and cracked jokes, etc. But, he has a gf in the Phillipines whom he is engaged 2 since I helped him get the ring for her. He only gets to go back there once every 2 years and I think we started experiencing sexual tension since we had a convo about doing it. I called him a dog since I thought he was comin on to me but then he denied he was serious bout it and said he was kidding. Iwrote a letter apologizing to him but then he started ignoring me. He said I should focus on someone else and it's best that we no longer be friends since I was 2 weird & obsessive bout him. I emailed him saying that we were both wrong for talking about sex, he blamed me for being weird. i got mad and told him not to b my friend. He said not email/talk 2 him unless work relatd. we're ignoring each other.

Answer 1

Honestly... GOOD! Thats a bad relationship to reach for, no compassion on yours or his side. One he's got a woman in the philippines that he is SUPPOSE to be serious about and you still flirt with him? Nice, very sweet of you. Second he gets all bent out of shape when he is the one who really lays it down on the line for you..... ooo what a nice guy! Ether way a classic example of what happens when people start getting close, we fall in love, which is to say, we feel for each other. BUt it would seem he wants it all or nothing, and since you were more or less after a little something, he couldn't chance it on you, so he pulled out. Classic senerio, but please try and have more respect for yourself, then this, also keep your professonial and personal life seperate. I'm no pimp, nor do I pretend to be, but its not a hard thing to do and its a better way to treat your career, livlyhood, and love life. Sad thou, could of been all for the good if you both could of been more honest with each other.... might not be to late, for the friendship. But I stay away from any romantic notions with him, lol or physical.....