Sister as Bridesmaid or maid of honor?

Question

Is it wrong to have your best friend as the maid of honor when you and your sister are kind of close as well. Well,not that I feel bad or she does, but what do you think would be better.
FYI: She is having me be her maid of honor in her wedding.

Answer 1

If you are equally close to both women, then it comes down to who can handle the job description. That sounds businessy, but it's the truth. Maid of Honor carries a ton of responsibility.
For me, I am equally close to my sister and my best girlfriend. Thing is, my sister is 18, and my best girlfriend is 23 (like me). So, I went to my sister first and asked her if she wanted to be my maid of honor, and she told me with all honesty that she didn't think she could handle all the arrangements.
The concept of asking someone to be a role simply because you were asked to be a role in theirs isn't necessary. It comes down to who you genuinely want in the role.

Answer 2

Hi. This is, indeed, a hard choice. Is your sister getting married BEFORE you? If so, then you could have her as your Matron of Honor and still have your best friend as your Maid of Honor. I have seen this done.

If she is getting married AFTER you, then I think I would still pick her (your sister) as your maid of honor. Family is family, they will never go away.....your friendship with your best friend may, (or may not) be different as the years go on, but your sister will still be your sister.

Another option....have 2 maids of honor. It has been done. I work in a church office and print up many wedding programs. Sometimes it is just too hard for someone to pick one person over the other, so there is no saying you can't have both. Good luck!

Answer 3

If u and your sister is very close then she should most definitely have her as your maid of honor but if you really dont want her to be your maid of honor then pick her as a bridesmaid, I sure she will understand!

Answer 4

My sister had me as a bridesmaid in her wedding and regrets it. She told me she wished I was her maid of honor. I had her as my maid of honor in my wedding. It's ultimately your decision. Talk to your sister about it and she how she feels. If she's okay with being a bridesmaid and not the moh, then have your best friend be your moh and have your sister as the head bridesmaid.

Answer 5

Don't make your sister your maid of honor just because she's your sister. Also, don't make the friend your maid of honor just because she plans on having you be hers. Out of the two which one are you closer to? That is who should be your maid of honor. (Have two maids of honor...it's your wedding do whatever you want! :)) Just because one is the maid of honor and the other isn't doesn't mean that you can't involve her in some of the wedding plans and such.

*I had a friend that had her sister be her maid of honor because she was her sister (and her mom wanted her too) and she regretted it the whole time (they weren't close). I know you said that you are your sister are kind of close, but are you closer than you and the friend?

Answer 6

I'm getting married this weekend and I only have one younger sister (age 22). I chose to have my closest female friend be my MOH and asked my sister to be a bridesmaid. My sister has never been in a wedding, lives out of state, and is far too busy to handle the responsibility of planning a shower, planning a bachelorette party, and making sure the bridesmaids order their dresses and all accessories (just a short list of her duties). My sister was actually relieved that she was not my MOH. It gave her the opportunity to do things she preferred such as making my toss bouquet and helping with the shower and bachelorette party without having to handle being in charge of it all. It's not an insult nor is it wrong if you choose to include your sister in a different way. Just being your sister and being happy together as you plans this big day is exactly what you both need!

Answer 7

I'm having my sister my bridesmaid and my friend be my maid of honor because 1. she wanted to be a bridesmaid and 2. she's in the navy and will be wearing her uniform and will be walking down the aisle with my brother who is also in the navy wearing his uniform as well....so it will all work out in the end....make sure your sister and bestfriend is fine with the decision you make and they will support you either way so don't worry too much....

Answer 8

Personally, I'm planning on having my mom as my matron of honor.
But you should sit your sister and your best friend down together and discuss this.
Tell your sister why you want your best friend more than her, and she'll understand.
Or, if you decide to have your sister as your maid of honor, tell your best friend why you want you sister more that her.
And remember, you don't actually have to have a maid of honor, or you can have two.

Answer 9

I will be in your dilemma when I get married too. And actually I have known my best friend longer than my sister. (She technically is my stepsister, but I would never call her that besides for explanation purposes). What I plan on doing is having one be the maid of honor, and one be the matron of honor. That way they are both still the two most important people to me in my bridal party.

I don't know if this helps, but good luck! :)

Answer 10

I think you should have your best friend as maid of honour, at least since your sister has no problem, especially because you will be maid of honour at her wedding. It will be rather lacking imagination to be each other's maid of honour. It is all right , no problem that your best friend will be maid of honour, it will not look at all like your sister is not at the first role. She is your sister, that is enough to make her one of the most important persons in your life and your wedding anyway!