I've known from a very young age that I wanted to be childfree since I'm very intolerant of children and feel like having one of my own would ruin my life.I've always been a dog lover and don't think there's a living creature on this earth more deserving of love,affection and attention.I'm 29,have been married for 3 years and together my husband and I have adopted 3 dogs as well as having one each from before the marriage.Adopting these little angels has been the best decision I've ever made.Why are so many people desperate for something that will do nothing ruin your appearance,your social life,your finances and take away your freedom when you can adopt a dog who will love you for life for a hell of a lot less than a child requires.Before anyone tells me I have no idea what I'm talking about since I never had a child,I did have a son at 21 whom I gave up for adoption and never looked back.What is wrong with people today?
2007-08-29 04:49:38 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
My kids have not ruined my appearance or my social life or my finances. They have taken away no more of my freedom than your dogs do.
My kids are being raised to do good in this world. Your dogs aren't going to do anything but make you happy, while my kids are learning to feed the hungry, clothe the naked, minister to the sick and dying, fight social injustices, take care of the planet, create art that inspires people to goodness, etc., etc., etc.
I like dogs, but it's people who make the world a better place, when they have a mind to do so.
2007-08-29 04:55:07 · answer #1 · answered by sparki777 7 · 9⤊ 4⤋
You can think however YOU want but most people don't see children the way you do. And for your info my hubby prefers the way I look now (after having two kids), there is nothing wrong with my social life (I still go out with friends), true they cost a lot but the return is great, and what freedom are you talking about? I find having a husband takes away more of my "freedom" then my kids do. And before you say anything I have always had dogs and they are like kids to me but they could NEVER replace my kids. And you gave birth that is not the same as having and rasing a child. And I thank God you didn't keep your son because no doubt he has a much better mother then you would have been.
2016-05-21 00:31:45 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is what is wrong with you? just because you blame your mother for giving you such a miserable life doesn't mean that everyone should stop having children. What is next if everyone was sicko like you and start adopting dogs instead of giving birth? will the world be full of dogs or what? Use your mind (and what is left in you). I don't hate animals but I love more giving chances to humans than animals, it you know what I mean. Also not every child is a ruin to their families. They are very proud parents out there. You can't take one case and make it general. I am glad you give up your child. I am sure he is having the best of life possible right now and is sure the proud and joy of his loving and caring parents( I pray ) and one more thing, he is very lucky not to know you and have to listen to such comments( like the one you just posted) Good luck with you dogs, and once they die in about 17 years maximum, keep up the good work by adopting other dogs.Ewww you just spoil my eveving and make me want to vomit
2007-08-30 14:56:55 · answer #3 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I cant relate with you because Im 19 and a mom. Yes I have a few stretch marks and a couple extra pounds, but I'm still beautiful. I have a great social life and her grammy watches her if I want to go out on the weekensds once and a while. Babies do so much more then what you think. Those are just the downfalls. But, if you dont want children, there is no wrong in that. And bravo to you for giving your child up instead of aborting him but how could you not miss him? I wouldn't necessarily say theres something wrong with people today but I myself know that the greatest love there is, is the one for my daughter. Were getting a dog when shes bigger because you are right. They are loving loyal, friendly and protective, but they can never love you like your child can. And I hope for you if your son comes asking why you gave him up, you have a better answer than "why would I want you when I could have a dog"
2007-08-29 04:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by Samantha 4 · 10⤊ 2⤋
I think it's a matter of personal opinion and what you're looking for in life.
I agree that dogs are wonderful creatures. I love my dog so much. He's my first born.
But there's a whole different experience that comes from having a child of your own. I haven't had my daughter yet. She's due in a couple of days. But having something growing and living inside you... the finances, the physical appearance, the social life - those things all pale in comparison to me.
That being said. Babies aren't right for everyone. And certainly dogs aren't right for everyone. You really need to look at what you can handle, and what you want out of life.
I'm pretty sure that I'll be able to juggle what I want to do with having one child. (My husband and I have decided this will be our one and only.) You take on what you can... and others will do as they see fit.
Hope that explains a bit more?
2007-08-29 04:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by Arneb 3 · 7⤊ 2⤋
SInce you believe having one of your own would ruin your life, then it's best you don't have children. It's good that you realize that you are self-centered. I'm not saying this in a bad way. There are many people who have children who are self-centered and the children suffer for it by being a burden to that person (my step-grandfather was like that). Do what you can to help others and live your life the way you choose. Realize that you lack some sort of nurturing element, which many others have. The fact that you don't want children is no reason to assume there is something wrong with others.
I have relatives who are intolerant of children as well and fortunately, chose not to have children. They are also pet lovers.
2007-08-29 06:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
you listen here missy, just because you are not maternal and you don't want any kids, does not mean everyone should do what you do. I have adopted 2 dogs, but that is not the same as adopting a human baby. sometimes animals cant fill the great void a person has wanting to build there families and are unable to do it naturally. children need as much love if not more then any animal on this earth, and don't get me wrong i love my dogs very much, but a baby means allot more to me.
2007-08-30 05:15:22 · answer #7 · answered by Rowan Red Tail Hawk 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
To each their own. Everyone vaules different things. I have some friends who have dogs and no children and love it that way. I also have some friends like me who love having children. Only you know what is best for you and what you are willing to take on. It you feel children are nothing but stress and dog' are easier than do what works for you.
2007-08-30 02:59:30 · answer #8 · answered by Americka S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A child is much different than a dog, I love my dogs ALOT there like my children but unlike you it dosnt help me urning and the thing deep inside me who wants a child more than life. I think that this whole question is absurd. I think you just need to realize people are different and you shouldn't try to preach or even question peoples reasons for wanting a baby instead of a dog.
2007-08-29 23:07:04 · answer #9 · answered by hollya707 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm assuming you are probably a kid trying to stir up trouble, and you did a good job, lol. If not, you are cold and callous, which is your perrogative, but why make disparraging remarks about people who love their children? Your statements are argumentative and you wanted to create a stir. Hope you had fun doing it. There are plenty of animals who need loving homes, so they are lucky to have you. Let's just hope that when you and your husband are old and unable to take care of yourselves that someone "adopts" you guys and takes care of you.......which at this point, isn't likely if you talk to people in real life the way you type on here. I think I kind of feel sorry for you. But, it takes all kinds to make the world turn round. At least you can say you have helped and contributed in some way by adopting and caring for the animals that you have. That's one saving grace for you, and thank you for that.
2007-08-29 06:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by MrsCrabs 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
WOW, if people didn't adopt children than what would have happened to your son that you had at 21? Think about that for a second.
By the way, I have a dog that I love and three cats as well. That does not take away my desire to be a parent. If you want to be childless, so be it. That is your choice, not mine. If I want to adopt a child, that is my choice. Why can't people adopt children and dogs. Does it have to be either/or?
2007-08-29 08:08:46 · answer #11 · answered by Richelle78 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋