How can i get justice?

Question

Oh i got some really bad news, it's upsetting to say it but maybe you could help me? I was sexually assualted, i don't want to go into too much detail, but its left me scared of my own shadow, i can't sleep at night, and I don't eat much anymore. He was arrested the night it happened, but then released, i can't beleive it he's denying everything, why would I lie about something so sick? He's due back at the police station on 13th october, whilst they collect evidence, they took my clothes, so maybe then i will get justice, but what if i bump into him during that time? im so scared, i feel like a piece of dirt, and i want to die! Any ideas? im so scared,

Answer 1

What feelings you are having are absolutely normal and understandable.

I wish to make it very clear to you that this was NOT your fault for what was done by someone else.

Even the bad guys get their day in court (although often times we wish we could just bury them alive) where the evidence against them is presented.

Once this piece of dirt is found guilty you will have your justice but with it the unfortunate memories that sometimes takes a long time to heal.

You need to seek the comfort of friends and families and also counseling from a professional to help you through this difficult time.

Know in your heart that good people are standing with you to guide you through this!

Best wishes!

Answer 2

I am so sorry to hear that you have been so victimized.

You need professional help in several ways, since no one should be expected to handle this themselves.

There are mental medical professionals who can help you take back your life. It is a horrible thing to say about our society, but this has happened to so many people that the medical profession knows what to do to help the victims.

You also need help from the police with respect to beefing up your own security, so that there is less risk of someone violating your home, you are better able to cope if there is a future crisis, where you need to escape, or defend yourself.

I hope the police not only took your clothes, but also DNA swabs of any residue the attacker may have left on your body. Ultimately there may be a trial where you will be called to testify, and his lawyer will be a pain in the butt. Reliving the ordeal through the court will be horrible, but it is essential that the justice system get every opportunity to convict him.

Answer 3

You need to talk to someone. A counselor, a minister, a close friend or family member that you trust. The police department should have provided you with victims rights information and phone numbers of agencies that deal with victims of rape. Make use of them. It is important to talk about it and not hold it inside. As for the suspect, it would be unwise for him to attempt to contact you. He could pick up additional charges. I would recommend that you get a personal protection order (restraining order) against this individual. I have worked many rape cases in my carreer and several are still locked up in the state prison. Depending on the evidence and circumstances this can be a difficult case to prove. You stated that he was arrested, but did not indicate if he was charged by the prosecutor. You indicated that he is going back to the police station. I can only assume that this case is still being investigated and that he may still be charged.

Answer 4

Check your community for rape crisis centers or counselors. All that you are feeling is completely normal under the circumstances. Be aware that it might take quite some time for the justice system to go through the normal channels to process your case and it might not turn out exactly the way you want it too. You need an ally throughout the process. Most police departments now have victim/witness liaisons whose job it is to help you negotiate the process and keep you informed of any procedures that are happening with your case. Check with the department that arrested the perp in your case. Most of all, get support from anyone you trust and can confide in; do NOT be afraid to ask for help and support.

Answer 5

First of all, this isn't your fault. It's normal to be scared.
Not being able to eat or sleep are signs of post traumatic stress disorder, and you need to talk to someone professional about that.

Of course he is going to deny everything, most rapists do.

You didn't make him do what he did. If you bump into him, get away from him as quickly as possible. It's OK to show your disgust and anger, as well.

Just remember that you are not a piece of dirt, just because some piece of **** chose to get some on you. There are people out there who care about you. Let them help you, tell them how you are feeling.

Answer 6

first off let me say how sorry i am that you ran into this horror show of a person----these type of assults is all about POWER---whatever happened remember it is not your fault and he is the sick one---yes i know you are scared to run into him and you may but you have to stand tall and not be affraid of him or his actions----please think of forgiving the act so you can get your power back----he is banking that you will stay quiet and scared-----if you are, don't show it till you feel strong emotionally. if i were you i would want to see him so i can tell him the type of pig he is---but you will have a day in court but better than that this pig of a person will meet his maker and will have to explain his actions. in the meantime you may want to talk to a doctor to help you get thru this----sometimes talking to someone or a little medication may help.

Answer 7

if you feel threatened, get an order of protection right away.

i will be praying for you.

hope that dirt bag gets caught and put in prison for a long, long time.

Answer 8

Well, um I wouldn't kill yourself or anything. You should explain your situation to the station and ask for some form of protection...who know's with someone like that free...what he might attempt in revenge.

Answer 9

I always find it so interesting that women will come on here and say they dont want to talk about what happened but then openly admit what did happen.

There is nothing you can do about the past.