my dad hit me !! help me??

Question

im 14 years old and me and my mom got in a fight. my dad comes in and grabs me around my neck and pushes me against the counter in the kitchen then he slapped me so i started fighting back a little but hes so much stronger then me then he grabs me harder around the neck and he started scratching me and hitting me then he finally let go a little and i got loose but he JUMPED OVER THE TABLE and grabbed my wrists and left bruises and scratches then i ran to the front door and he grabbed me then pushed me into the door now i have bruises on my stomach and leg and a few scratches on my legs. ugh it hurts so bad. this happened like 10 minutes ago, he also said he hated me and hes gunna kill me and im a b*tch.. im scared too death of him..my mom is saying its mom fault when he hit me first.. i kept kicking after he had his hand around my throat .. i have finger/hand marks on my throat,wrists,legs etc... what can i do?? im scared to death..!!!

Answer 1

What is wrong wit some of you people who answered? She doesn't have to endure this!! Miguel, the time she wait for god to save her, her dad can kill her next time. omg....girl, you should go tell the police right away. the fresh your wounds are the better so you have proof of what he did. My dad loves me and he never lay a finger to me maybe a spank when I was bad but he never beat me up like that, call me names, or say that he will kill me. Call the police as soon as possible..like now ><

Answer 2

Wow....I feel so bad for you right now. I am 35 but went through the same thing when I was your age. My dad did terrible things to my mom and when I tried to stop him he attacked me. I also have been in an abusive marriage so I know how helpless you must feel.

First, take photos of all the marks he's left on you. If you are afraid he'll find the pictures, just upload them to the internet (Walgreens, Kodak, etc.) You will need these later, I promise. And if you don't take the photos now, the marks may be gone when someone asks to see them.

Second, do you have family you can go to outside of your mom and dad? Be prepared for your mom to take your dad's side, because if he did it to you and didn't immediately feel sorry, he's probably done it to her as well. She will make excuses for him, but do not accept them. There is no excuse for what he did to you. Call a family member immediately. If you do not have a family member to call, call a friend you can trust. Once you are out of harms way, call an abuse hotline in your area. If you can't easily find the number, call 911 and tell them you need information for the nearest "safe place" for kids. Counselors there will go over options with you.

Most importantly, you should know that no matter what happened between you and your mom (you didn't give much detail about that), it is never appropriate or necessary for a man to physically attack a woman or child.

I was over 30 before I was strong enough to omit all the abusive men from my life. And while the physical injuries healed long ago, the emotional ones may be around forever. In fact, my children witnessed some of the abuse I suffered at the hands of their father and they still talk about it. The lasting effects of abuse are more far reaching than I can ever explain to you and I encourage you to take control now so your fate is not the same as mine.

If you proceed, charges may be filed against your dad. You should know that this is extremely difficult to do, but it may be the only option to protect yourself from an abuser.

Call a family member or friend to pick you up and remove you from immediate danger. Take photos of the marks while they are still there. Call an abuse hotline.

Good luck. My thoughts are with you.

Answer 3

It sounds like your dad was over-reacting. Has this ever happened before? Is there a way you, your mom and dad can talk this out? If so- give it a little time to settle down and then talk. If you can not talk it out, and if this isnt the first time this happened, you have the option to call child protective services. But calling them has a lof of long lasting repercussions. You will be taken out of the home, in all probability you will be put in a shelter, your parents will be ordered to go to counseling, take classes, have to go to court, etc. Or is there a relative or family of a friend you can go to till things settle down? Its up to you what to do.

Answer 4

I don't know if your father beats on your mother or what the whole story is but if my 14yr old child ever in their life try to fight me, God knows what I would do. No child wether 1yr old to 28yrs old would ever in their life think about fighting me. Are you crazy? I would dare any one of my 4 sons raise a hand to me. They wouldn't have a hand to call 911. You need to behave youself. You're not grow you're a child and you need ot act like one. If you're truly being abused by your parents you need to call the cops but if your mom is trying to guide you in the right way and you want to fight her you need some licks.

Answer 5

You should not have to endure this. As for the moment, stay out of his way. Tomorrow, speak with the student counselor at your school (if any) or perhaps you can find a telephone hotline for abused children.

Answer 6

Go to the hospital. They will take pictures and report it to the police. The reason I suggested the hospital is so they can take care of your wounds.

Answer 7

my dad hits me too, as "punishment" take picture now! call the cops report it, go to a teacher and show her the pictures!! Get out, I wish I had as much proof as you do and I could get out of my home...

Answer 8

Why are you on answers? First things first. Now get in touch with your local authorities.

Answer 9

And yet you are able to type. My guess is that you got on your dad's last nerve. You can call the cops and they can put you in foster care with a family that isn't going to put up with your crap either. Or you can apologize to both of your parents and stop getting into fights with your mother.

Answer 10

call the police or 911