I am a bridesmaid in a friend's wedding and I have taken on half the planning of the Bridal Shower to help out the Maid of Honor. She has kids and didn't have the time or money to host the event solo. I am (fairly) recently out of college and make just enough money to get by. My question is: Do I need to buy the bride a shower present if I am already spending a lot on the shower itself? It's not that I don't want to get her anything, but I will be paying for so many things that I'm worried about my finances. I have to pay for a bridesmaid dress, shoes, wedding present, and will have to take off work and travel for the wedding itself. Should I get her something anyway, or consider the party her present?
2007-08-29 03:55:05 · 8 answers · asked by Amanda 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Have you discussed the gift thing with the Maid of honor? As you said she has kids and doesn't have a lot of money either. Maybe you two could go in on a gift together too. Something like
Tina or Flipper mentioned would be a nice memento. After all the two of you are giving the shower. Also, for the wedding gift, you can frame one of her wedding invitations. A frame larger than the invitation works best. Then you can place decorative things in the frame with it. ie: a lace doilie, a couple of flowers in the her wedding colors, or some cute scrapbook items etc/ You cut the front off the invitation and display both the front and inside. Craft stores are really good for inspiration; It doesn't cost much, and is a great momento.
2007-08-29 04:23:53 · answer #1 · answered by onedrin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were the bride I would NOT expect a gift from you AT ALL.
You are the bridesmaid, so you are paying for your dress and accessories, travel arrangements (hotel, airfare, if needed), bridal shower, bachelorette party, as well as the most important: standing up beside me on my wedding day!
Spend what you can for the shower and everything. If you cannot afford a gift, but want to buy something for them later, get them a nice card and thank them for asking you to be in the bridal party and then let them know due to finances you will be sending a gift later on.
If they are your friends they will understand and not be upset at all!
2007-08-29 04:08:57 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you should tell the bride that with the money spent for the shower and your bridesmaids dress, shoes, etc, that you were able to only get her something small for the shower, you could get something that's inexpensive, but meaningful to her. If your good at crafts you could make something for her!
2007-08-29 06:31:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your friend will not expect you to buy her a gift, especially after all that you will be doing for her. If you would like to get her something you could take pictures at the bridal shower, print them out, and give them to her in a photo album. That is something that she would cherish forever and wouldn't cost that much.
2007-08-29 04:03:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tina 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think that the shower could be considered a shower present, and a very nice one!
As long as she doesn't turn into a Bridzilla.
2007-08-29 04:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by stenobrachius 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Consider the party her present. If you really feel the need to "give" her something, have someone video/record the party, and give her that as a momento. She'll love it!
2007-08-29 04:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get her something small but meaningful. Things Remembered has a family tree picture frame for $20.
2007-08-29 05:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you can make shower together!
2007-08-29 05:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋