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Question

When I was growing up I was always told that if you are a nice person that people would respect and like you. I was told always to be on time for work, school, and any other function. There is this woman at work and she is rude. I mean horrible. She never shows up for work on time and she punches some of the staff in the back like she was playing. Everyone seems to like her though. What the $%$%? Her and the boss get along good. The boss always seems to overlook it when this woman doesn't do her work right or in most cases not at all. Am I looking to much into something or is this just a case of where I work being *** backwards? This woman accused me of trying to be perfect the other day because I do my work right. Any advice?

Answer 1

I suggest ignoring her. You can't control other people, you can only control yourself. It's a frustrating situation to be in. You are doing all the right things and you feel like no disciplinary action is being taken against the person that deserves it. However, you don't know what goes on behind closed doors. She could get bad annual reviews due to her lax work ethic. She may not be a happy person generally in life. That's the thing, you don't really know her b/c you only work with her. Instead of getting yourself all worked up over someone that really doesn't matter to you, just ignore her and her childish ways. She will get what's coming to her someday. Just continue to keep your head up and keep doing all the right things.

Answer 2

You are finding that as you contact more and more people that there are many more kinds of people than you could ever imagined.

I would guess you are seeing the good old boy network. It is not confined to males but revolves around people who look at things the same way. Bosses are just workers who have been at it a long time or are part of the old boy network with their bosses. It would be nice it the best and the hardest workers were the ones moving up, but that's not aways the case.

Your less competent or lazy co-worker is an example of someone who justifies their failures by accusing you of being "too perfect". Trying to be liked by those you don't respect would be a bad move. You can't change others except by you own actions. If they don't care to come up to your standards and your boss does not recognize your work you need to decide if the situation is so bad that you should seek work elsewhere. If you enjoy the work and the personalities are just an aggravation, perhaps time will cure the problem.

Answer 3

Some people just have the personality to get away with this kind if behavior. I have been around people I thought were extremely obnoxious, but my friends loved them. Her personality just may clash with yours. You may also be biased because you think she gets special treatment because her behavior is not disciplined. There are several reasons some people like someone and others do not. Is she attractive? Not to sound sexist, but bad traits in attractive people sometimes get overlooked, especially in the work place.

Answer 4

keep up what you are doing ,don;t lower you standards just because she has lowered her.Do the best you can and just blow her off.Good Luck