How can I get him to stop? He knows I hate it. I dont want my kids raised to hear that crap.
2007-08-29 03:29:07 · 32 answers · asked by baby_rost 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Actually I don't have kids yet.
When he and I get married and have kids, I dont want OUR kids/my kids to hear that.
2007-08-29 03:46:00 · update #1
This is a classic example of why (in the Bible) we are told NOT to be unequally yoked.
2007-08-29 05:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by Tink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand this: he will not change. This is who he is. If you marry him, he will continue to say GD even when you have children.
If you don't want this, and you really ARE Christian, then you should not marry him. You need to leave him, and find someone who is more in tune with your philosophy of life.
Reasons why you should leave him:
1) you will be a miserable person living in this way
2) your children will grow up, and the likelihood that they will emulate their father (if he is the stronger character) is high
3) this man may be great in every other aspect, but if you don't like this YOU"RE going to make HIM miserable.
4) you both may be so unhappy at some point, that you will divorce over it. If you have made children with this man at that point, it is unfair to them to break up their family just because you didn't have enough sense from the beginning to turn tail and run. If you choose to marry this man and create children, you need to choke down your pride, be polite to him, and stay with him to raise the children until they are out of the house.
Worst of all - If you marry him, knowing what you know and cannot stand about him, YOU will be the one at fault for all the problems that will ensue from this type of marriage.
Be grateful to God you know this about him now. Tell him you know that this will not work out (be kind, because in truth it is YOUR problem with his language that is the reason for the split) and then find another man who is more like you & your Christian beliefs.
Why the heck didn't you do that in the first place, anyway!
2007-08-29 06:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by Mama's on the half tip 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go with the breaking up with him thing. To be honest I would rather that my children weren't raised around the word crap but that's just me I guess. If that is his only fault though I think that you are aiming a little high with your standards. The bible says not to take the lords name in vain but it also tells how you should forgive and try not to judge. As I said though. I would split up with the guy as it will give him a chance to find someone a little less anal and a little more forgiving about his faults. You, however, maybe single a while if you are looking for a guy who doesn't use disagreeable words at times.
2007-08-29 03:41:29 · answer #3 · answered by SR13 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
People who have thier own religous opinions should not have anwsered your ?, this is not about thier personal beliefs its about yours. From a male aspect sit him down and just let him know how you feel. If he blows it off, or hasnt the time, how much does he love you anyways. How much does he care? With that in mind think of the old saying "When you love something, let it go, if it loves you it will come back." Raising your children with 2 differant beliiefs can be tragic.
2007-08-29 03:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband used to say that all the time. He finally started watching his language when I started telling him that God doesn't need a dam because he can walk on water. I say it in a way that sounds cute and funny so that it doesn't start an argument, but it gets the point across that I don't like him talking like that. Good luck...and also you might want to explain to kids that it's not ok to repeat everything they hear.
2007-08-29 03:45:12 · answer #5 · answered by precious1too 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It will be tough because its probably a habit of his. Whatever you do dont nag him about it because he will just get defensive about it and its quite possible that he doesnt even realize it most of the time when he says it. When he says it just say something like "you mean, gosh." lol, I dont know how to MAKE him stop, all you can do is tell him how bad it annoys you and it would really mean alot to you if he could at least TRY and watch what he says...good luck!
2007-08-29 03:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by sweet girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with your disaproval of his swearing. I'm not a serious Christian but I have a problem with it anyway. I think it is just in really bad taste. Men with good manners are more conscious with their words. If he cares about doing well professionally as well as socially, he may want to reconsider his language. It is just lousy manners to talk that way, as well as offensive to any Christians within ear shot.
2007-08-29 07:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by I39 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with him and let him know what the deal is. That is a really ugly word and nobody should use it; and what makes it bad is that you're a christian, and if he can't learn to tame his tongue then that is when you leave him for a minute.
2007-08-29 03:32:02 · answer #8 · answered by Swag On 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question! Say "I hate it when you do that, I am a Christian and do not approve of it. I don't want my kids raised to hear that."
2007-08-29 03:31:57 · answer #9 · answered by ♫ Sweet Honesty ♫ 5 · 9⤊ 0⤋
I got my boyfriend-now husband to stop by interrupting him and telling him that it wasn't a nice word and then giving him a kiss. It worked and I don't have to hear that anymore. I also got one of his friends to stop saying it by telling him I didn't want to hear anything that came out of his mouth until he cleaned up his language that worked and my husband backed me up on it.
2007-08-29 03:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by Mom of three A.R.T. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋