or does the double standard still apply, even now in assumed modern times?
2007-08-29 03:01:15 · 19 answers · asked by maryamalizmarie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey you're married not dead!!! My ex told me once that I could look at the menu all I wanted to, just to not order.
Everyone looks its human nature and if anyone says they dont they are a liar.
2007-08-29 03:05:19 · answer #1 · answered by shirley e 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
married women can absolutely check out other men. it is unrealistic to think that a marriage license would render you unable to recognize attractiveness in the opposite sex. all people, married or single, still find others attractive. the important thing is not to act on the attraction.
flirting can be dangerous, though, because you may begin to develop a crush and read more into the "relationship" than is really there. this could cause you to doubt the strength of your marriage and consider cheating. if you can keep flirting to an innocent, non-threatening level that is fine. consider how you would feel about your husband flirting with another woman. also, analyze what you consider flirting. don't do anything that you wouldn't want your spouse to do.
2007-08-29 03:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. Yes it's ok to check out other guys. As a happily married woman I admitt that I still look but I also know that my husband also looks at other women so there's no crime there. It's only human nature to do so. Still, it's very wrong to flirt with the opposite sex. I mean you have your partner and that should be enough if you love that person as much as you say you do. Like the old saying goes "you can look, but you can't touch". I firmly believe in that.
2007-08-29 03:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by skyicedragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a standard that can only be answered by the 2 people in a relationship.
Each relationship has different wants, needs and expectations.
What you may or may not find acceptable could be completely out of line for the next couple.
You are in control of these aspects of your relationship.
2007-08-29 03:07:50 · answer #4 · answered by Mr realistic...believer in truth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is acceptable in my marriage. What is even more fun is that we both like to check out girls and flirt with them. Hey what's better than having a wife that can honestly appreciate another hot woman.
Don't have to worry about getting caught looking because when I'm looking she usually is too.
2007-08-29 03:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the point? Flirting with other men insinuates that you are interested and available, i cant imagine any man that would be impressed by the idea of being turned on and then finding out that that person was married/pregnant, etc unless you were interested in cheating..... and if thats the case... why be married??
2007-08-29 03:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
flirting is actually healthy for relationships, but today's men and women have a hard time remembering they are married when the person they flirt with gets attached. If you can stay faithful (no kissing,etc.) and not hurt the person you are flirting with, then I think it could help spice up a relationship, when the day is done, leave your flirtiness at the door and you got all that sexual energy for the one you really love!
2007-08-29 03:06:09 · answer #7 · answered by ccstangfan2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
double standard? its never been alright for men to do that, and the same should go for women. If you feel the need to flirt and check out other people, you aren't being true to the person you took vows with.
2007-08-29 03:09:00 · answer #8 · answered by ♫jmann♫ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, well flirting is basically harmless, for some guys. but there are those jealous and insecure males that won't stand for their woman to give another man besides them attention. But i aint one of them guys. as long as you come home with me at the end of the night, thats all that really matters....but it's the "etc." part that concerns me, lol. As long as you don't act on your thoughts or what not, then you should be fine...=)
2007-08-29 03:07:45 · answer #9 · answered by but_it_was_funny_huh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's perfectly normal and healthy for ANYONE, married, single, man or woman, to look at those they are attracted to. I think the less we pay attention to these things, the less likely we are to hold in feelings that could potentially ruin a relationship.
2007-08-29 03:04:57 · answer #10 · answered by celestial316 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We're not blind... but she should be faithful. My husband looks at women when we go out and eat dinner. If he did not look at them (the menu) he would not know how fantastic what he has at home is. I look at the menu, but I NEVER order. It's ok to look, smile, giggle, flirt, as long as it's all harmless and does not lead to infidelity. If she is overcome by her emotions or desires then she is not devoted enough to her spouse and vice versa for him!
2007-08-29 03:06:10 · answer #11 · answered by Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋