I only met this guy once on a business trip and he either could never maintain eye contact with me or seem to look right through me. He took the initiative to email me and we exchanged a couple of friendly emails. Found out later from his relative that whenever they prodded him to chase a woman, he gets so intensely shy he doesn't dare to chase. Am assuming he has very little dating experience. I asked him out over email for a coffee date, and he has not replied me. Wondering if perhaps he really wants to say yes but is afraid to do so. What do you think?
2007-08-29 02:56:03 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've done everything you can to let the guy know you'd be willing to go out with him, so there's nothing else you can do. If he's so painfully shy (or scared) it's his issue to deal with. You can't fix it and you can't do any more than you've already done. The truth is, most guys get nervous before they ask a girl out, but they do it anyway because it's worth it if she says yes. This guy has to just figure that out on his own.
2007-08-29 03:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by Dating Diva 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think every straight man craves intimacy with a woman. As long as you truly want to pursue this guy, it'll be worth your time. If you feel that he likes you but you're wondering why he can't man up enough to accept your offer. Well, the harsh reality is that it will still take a while for him to build confidence and you will be the reason why he will. You can help ease his way to confidence by showing interest . i.e. Maintain eye contact, smile at him, talk to him, ask questions about him--his likes and dislikes. Stuff like that. By laughing, you release stress so proceed to laugh a lot.
He took the initiative to send you an e-mail. So he's obviously trying at least a little...GOOD LUCK
2007-08-29 03:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by LadyD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think all guys crave intimacy even the shy ones who may take a while to come around to the intimate physical contact kind of relationship. these kind of shy guys I never know what to expect from them eather there shy because they haven't come out of the closet yet or there shy because thay have some kind of social disorder or there like jeckel and hyde or some kind of serial killer or maybe they are otherwise normal just afraid of beeing rejected. If you go out with him act as a freind coffee date and see if he makes the next move
2007-08-29 03:20:00 · answer #3 · answered by tawala 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm kinda like that
if i know or feel it will be a bad experience then i don't do it cuz i may embarrass you and myself
cuz if you really want to go out with me on a date and after find out that im really shy during the date you
probably wouldn't want to waste time with me again and just ignore me cuz of a waste of time terrible date
and then ill feel really bad and get worst and worst and get more shy and shy with women
plus as a shy person myself i did have some bad experiences cuz i didn't really talk and it turned out really bad and right now I'm really afraid to go on dates with girls because i know i will get just quite too quick and soo fidgety
so its probably cuz he is very shy and does not want to embarrass you or himself
2007-08-29 03:06:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think they tend to be the most respectable guys ever when they're shy cuz they don't know where to start conversations and also they are humans they'd have cravings for women but not like those who are more experience those tend to constantly push you into things you're not quite ready for so stick to that shy guy and you'll gain more respect and maybe he wants to go on that date maybe he's afraid, his instincts telling him smthing else or he's afraid he'll get turn down by girls tk that shyness out of him and show him that glaring sunshine god has set for him! gd luck, and it seems he can b the one for you!! time wasted can never be regain!!
2007-08-29 03:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by mexcisha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shy men crave intimacy as much as any other man. In fact, once you get to know them, they are often better bets as partners as they are less likely to cheat.
2007-08-29 03:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think he wants to, but is incredibly shy. I'm sure he craves intimacy, but anxiety is holding him back. I hope he gets help for this intense problem and I hope you gently continue to pursue him.
2007-08-29 03:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know some very good looking men who faced rejection or divorce or lost a girl friend and they are very reluctant to try again. Being hurt causes them to shy away from such abuse.
Until he meets a kind person willing to be patient he will probably be alone.
Everyone wants someone to love them.
2007-08-29 03:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by Ruth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably does wanna go out with you... give him few days (3-4) to reply back. If he really says who you think he is (extremely shy) then if you like this guy or not; go out with him and have a good time, cause your gonna be the one to change his world forever!
2007-08-29 03:04:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course they desire contact with the opposite sex; why wouldn't they? They're not sub-human, they're just developmentally stunted in one particular area (as are most of us when we're examined closely enough). I think you're probably right about his wanting to say "yes" to your invitation....he's probably somewhere now overthinking the entire situation and paralyzing himself with fear. You can nudge him along a little bit, but these are steps he largely has to learn to take for himself if there's to be any lasting benefit to result. (Oddly enough, the more intelligent he is, the more likely he will be to over-analyze the situation). But maybe a casual telephone call from you might be the impetus he needs to shake himself loose enough to respond proactively.
2007-08-29 03:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by Captain S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋