hi guys, i have a 13 and a half month old daughter and i just found out that im pregnant again. my children will roughly be about 21 months apart. is that too close together?
2007-08-29 01:56:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
No, there have been closer. They seemed to do well. In fact, being close together saves you in some ways, they'll be best friends.
2007-08-29 02:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by rathrhadit 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its only too close together if you will find it hard to cope with 2 small children but otherwise i think not, you find children that don't have too big an age gap grow up to be close and protect 1 another, look at twins they are the perfect example. i really dont thing you have anything to worry about, just get on and enjoy the child you have till the new one arrives.
2007-08-29 02:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by Fiona M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what too close would be. You'll be done with diapers and formula and baby furniture sooner.
If you are asking if they will get along or be too competitive. That will depend entirely on your parenting. My stepdaughters were about that close together and they did fine. They fought like cats sometimes when they were young, but they get along okay now.
My youngest stepdaughter has a daughter about the same age as yours and is also pregnant with her second child. She and her husband are thrilled so I guess its all just a matter of your point of view.
Just love them both as much as you can and don't worry about it!!!!
2007-08-29 02:09:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister is 13 months younger than me and I have another sister who is 18 months younger than her, so no I don't think your kids will be too close together. I have a niece and nephew that are 13 months apart, and my sister says that the first year was hard, but she really likes having them so close in age now that they are older.
2007-08-29 02:47:46 · answer #4 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be a bit rough on mom, mine were 18 months apart, but they were finished with things pretty close to the same time. A good thing. I don't know what its like to have them years apart. Never had the desire to do everything over again. Besides they seem to learn things quicker I think. Getting alone with others and sharing.
2007-08-29 02:18:12 · answer #5 · answered by suze q 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, its not too close together! Remember there are much closer...like 9 or 10 months apart!!! haha Just know it will probably be trying at times because of them being closer together but it will be great for them! Good luck and congrats!
2007-08-29 02:08:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is too close.. experts reccommend waiting at least 2 years before thinking of getting pregnant again ( this allows the first child some more time wiht you and allows you to think if you really want and can afford another)
I was the oldest of 4 kids - sister was 19 months after me... I hate babies now because of that.. I am sure mom was soooo busy with the baby all the time I was pushed aside... "be quiet the baby is sleeping".. "not now.. the baby needs me" and so on.....
I noticed how needy my daughter was of me at that age.. between 2-3 is important developmental stage...
well its too late for you to change what is done is done - but be prepared for problems.. the older one might hate the younger one.. and might hate you if you keep pumping them out...
2007-08-29 03:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by CF_ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not too close. You will enjoy them both being close in age. They will share common experiences which is a good thing, and they will fight like cats and dogs but love each other totally in the end!
Encourage them to develop their own unique skills and talents so people will see them as unique individuals (a common problem is that teachers will call the younger one by the older one's name since they are so close behind in school)
2007-08-29 02:11:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I was that close in age to my brother. We got along better than with my sister who was 4 years older. We had a lot more in common. I think that it may be more difficult on you having to get one after another out of diapers. I think that is the only problem my mom had. Then you just have to deal with 2 little ones running around rather than one. I think that everything will be good for you. Me and my brother still get along better than me and my sister.
2007-08-29 02:08:45 · answer #9 · answered by BumbleBee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is close together, and it will be alot of work, but growing up the close age of your two children will make them close and best friends.
2007-08-29 02:04:44 · answer #10 · answered by Dena D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋