Need some advise?

Question

My boyfriend of 10yrs now, wants to get married next summer. We have 3 kids together a 3month old, 1 yr old and 5 yrs old. As stressful as that is, Ive been trying to pull away from the whole thing. I feel bad tho because I know he really wants it. Seeing so many ppl getting married, Ive seen how stressful it can be. Raising 3 kids is stressful enough. Can you help me with some advise on cheap and less stress wedding

Answer 1

Hi and congratulations! Yes, having 3 little ones is stressful so you are smart to not want to add to it!!!

A wedding needn't be stressful. Have something at your house (the whole shebang....wedding ceremony and reception)....unless your house is too small, then try someone else's house! Call a judge or justice of the peace or wedding officiant and do something simple. Buy a dress off the rack, something simple. Get a good friend to be your maid of honor and have her pick whatever kind of dress she wants (a sundress?) Your groom can be in dress pants and a white shirt. Have a little party with cake, ice cream, cookies, punch, and coffee and that's it!!! If you want to invite more family to the reception fine...but still keep it small. The bigger the wedding.....the bigger the headaches and stress! Good luck!

Answer 2

Have a backyard BBQ wedding with a band or DJ. Do the ceremony at your family church, have the reception in your backyard or that of a relative that can accomodate you and doesn't mind. You can also use a public park if permits allow or if your church has the facilities, do it there. They'll have tables and chairs too so you won't have to rent! Hire a caterer do something easy like a family picnic style BBQ. It's messy so make sure you bring something to change into or buy an inexpensive dress that you look great in but don't care to save if something gets spilled. You could always get a fun picture out of it! So there... you hire entertainment, a caterer, make arrangements at a church, send simple invitations, buy a dress and you're done. Don't forget that you have friends that will help you if there's anything you don't want to do by yourself.

good luck!

Answer 3

Just run off and do it, leave the kids with the grandparents and go away and get married. if u are worried about the stressful day do it quietly then throw a major reception when u get home, u will feel better and he will too and no one will be mad especailly since u are little spooked by plannin g a ceremony. have a good day and hope this works out for u...

Answer 4

My cousin did a "surprise" wedding a few years ago. It was a great idea. She and her now-husband had two kids at the time and didn't want a big deal made out of the wedding. They invited their immediate families over for Thanksgiving dinner. Their church pastor also attended with his wife. Just before dinner, they announced it was really their wedding! They did the ceremony in their backyard and then Thanksgiving dinner was their reception.

They kept it a secret from everyone except for his sister, who lived in another country and they wanted her to be there.

Answer 5

By the time my parents got married, they'd been together for 14 years and had 2 kids. They had a registry wedding (on their anniversary) with family and close friends, and then had the reception at my grandmother's house (who had a massive garden).
By the time you've had this much history together, a big extravaganza is not really necessary, especially if its making you stressed!! Have something small and intimate, and really enjoy celebrating your relationship.

Answer 6

I think what causes stress is orchestrating too many things, people and demands, this also makes it more expensive. If I had a small affair, i would want something similiar to my engagement party. We had it at a restaurant on a mountain w/ 35 guests, a piano player and great views of nyc. The staff did everything, they were so attentive and really willing to fulfill our needs.

Answer 7

-Make it small
-remote to make it hard for people to come and only those who really know you come; is there somewhere special to both of you?
-incorporate the wedding and honeymoon in one
-do alot of stuff yourself instead of hiring
-get friends and family to help!
-dont hire a photographer, collect the best pics from everyone
-ask for money instead of gifts if that does not offend as it will help with the cost
I got married on a small island that was cheap to fly to but only 50 people could fit on. Did the invites myself using the island theme of an invite in a bottle. Family helped heaps.

Answer 8

Well if you really want a cheap wedding, you should just go to the courts and sign the papers and call it a day. You only need the certificate right?

Then at night or day you can have a party and invite all your friends, coworker and families.

sound like a plan? i hope this helps

Answer 9

Vegas. You can get an entire wedding package for one price and all you have to do is show up (sometimes even under $1000 including flowers). The kids will love the sights and sounds and swimming pools.

Answer 10

go to the justice of the peace get married and then have a reception, cuts out all that fuss with the wedding and I'm sure you can't get someone to help you with the reception. Good Luck