my ex bf allways accused me of cheating on him with guys i spoke to on the internet. the gus i speak to are friends from work and people i met on holiday 2 years before i met him. we just chat and say hi to each other on msn its nothing other than casual chat.
we split up nearly 3 weeks ago because he was insecur and made my life hell. he split up with me and told me it was because he didnt trust me. he called me nasty names and was really nasty to me.
since we split i found out he was the 1 who was cheating with his ex gf and he was meeting her when i was staying at my mums in the week. i dont now how long its been going on for because he is still denying it but it was his neighbor who told me when he saw that i was crying when i was waiting for my taxi.
what i am trying to ask is do all people who accuse you of cheating cheat themselvs?
2007-08-29 00:27:46 · 27 answers · asked by Emma L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like your boyfriend is a bum. Good thing you found out now. While some men who cheat do accuse their mate of cheating, this is not always the case. Some men accuse because they are insecure, but they themselves are not cheating. Some men accuse because all of the evidence is there. Think about it this way, if I accuse my neighbor of stealing my lawnmower, does it mean I steal lawn equipment? Every relationship is different. You are FAR better off without him. Don't use this scoundrel as the measuring mark for all men. He is not worthy of it.
2007-08-29 00:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by YahooGuru2u 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience that has been true. Any guy I have been with who seems to think I was cheating- was doing it himself. They want the best of both worlds. A nice secure girlfriend who doesn't know what's going on, and the excitement of sleeping with whoever else they want. It's probably not always the case, but it's a good indicator. It's almost like subliminally blaming the other person for doing your wrongs.
2007-08-29 00:34:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anastasia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is a bit messed up, you're better off away from him.
I don't think that all people who accuse you of cheating cheat themselves, there are some out there who are NOT hypocrites in this regard. I think you just got unlucky that you were involved with someone who had guilt and control issues.
Move on, love. You'll find someone nice eventually.
2007-08-29 00:33:47 · answer #3 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though these posts are as old as they are i find them to be very helpful. now i have a better understanding of what i m up against ..my girl has cheated on me more then once..i forgave her..And now she is accusing me everyday of cheating on her...i know i m not but being accused everyday with no end in site brings me to this page.my girl and i are not kids...she has been married 4 times..and i have no doubt the marrages faild for the same reasons as whats killing our relationship...she seems to get off on the fight...when i try to talk to her about it she leaves...but she always returns to fight with me more and leaves again ? and now that i ve learned about what the problem might be...she has become a real ***** to me and i think she is getting tired of loosing with me and might not come back next time? i love her and wish i could fix us but after 5 years of this i think i m just wasting my time and missing out on happiness if talking about it doesn t work . and reaching out to them does not work then what is left ? maybe just letting them go is the best thing we can do ..?
2015-05-09 12:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by daniel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I cheated on my boyfriend I found myself always accusing him of cheating on me. It makes you think that because you are a filthy rotten cheater that he must be too. You don't have a lot of confidence in yourself and begin to wonder why he is with you. Hope that made sense. Oh and for the record I am with a lovely man now and I would never dream of cheating on him because i did get it done back to me and it hurts.
2007-08-29 00:48:31 · answer #5 · answered by Petal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've just been through the same thing ..... my (soon to be) ex 'wife' constantly accused me of cheating ... I don't know who with because I never actually spoke to people but it happened on a regular basis (I think half of the time she just decided to accuse me of cheating to cause an arguement).
It drained me emotionally and I sometimes thought I was going to have a heart attack when I was trying to defend myself.
Anyway, I found out that she's still in love with her ex anyway! At Christmas she got back with another one of her ex's and telephoned me in the middle of the night to let me hear them 'enjoying' each other's company!!! He'd turned up at her house a couple of times 'out of the blue' when I was there also.
My 'wife' who constantly accused me of cheating (when I wasn't) was at it all along! She sounds very similar to your boyfriend ... she told me she didn't trust me, she was horrible to me and even advertised herself on dating websites twice! (the first time after being married for about a month!!!). They sound like they would make a good couple ... It would be interesting to watch anyway!!!!
2007-08-29 00:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't answer for everyone, with some people that may be the case but some are just insecure, maybe cos they've been cheated on in the past. My ex used to accuse me of cheating on him even though he knew that I'm not that kind of person but then he cheated on me. i ended up taking him back (fool) but his insecurities were even worse cos he was convinced I was going to cheat on him to punish him for cheating on me. You can't win with people like that.
2007-08-29 01:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by linz78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most often they are the one doing the cheating. I was married to my 1st wife who accused me of cheating for over 20 years. I never did. After my divorce, I found out it was her doing the cheating with lots of other guys whom I thought were my friends. Dont walk away from an accusing guy....RUN!!!
2007-08-29 00:46:45 · answer #8 · answered by whatsayyou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a poor excuse just to get rid of you so he can cheat more freely, that does sound really suspicous when someone accuses you of cheating and keep bringing it up as if you didnt get the point, it was just an excuse for him, if i were you, i wouldnt have anything to do with him, let him cheat, thats all hes good at, and calling all those names was uncalled for.
2007-08-29 00:32:19 · answer #9 · answered by 9-pounds-lighter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily, some of them are just very insecure and have a horrible jealous streak. They are worthless too. find a nice guy that is confident and will treat you with respect instead of accusing you of doing unspeakable things.
2007-08-29 00:31:54 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋