My 13 years old sone hates school , even though his 13 but still in forth grad , praimary stage . He faild 2 years , and he never ever study or open a book at home. In my country it is very important for a man to have degree. please some one tell what to do.
2007-08-29 00:13:40 · 17 answers · asked by mouniraanis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
hun, first of all thats actually natural stuff for a 13 year old. Just means they are struggling somewhere dont take him a counselor they dont know crap when comes to reality they have to get a degree for it. All this stuff you can learn from life lessons and reality people thats been with this, to be honest i have been through this when i was growing up but now days im already graduated proudly.
They are struggling with something and a child may not open his book unless there is actual reason why. It maybe because its to hard and he may want something easier because he isnt understanding stuff to easy, just like few years ago before i decided to go to High School instead getting GED because they tought more spanish there then anything else. i quit that, but anyways it could be someone is bulleying them or something but really talk to your son if you cant help him out and if he really does need a tutor THEN ask a counselor to either get him a tutor or lower him down then to more comfortable level. That always works it doesnt always mean he is mentally challenged even missing a day of school could get someone more set back and everyone way ahead of him and he doesnt understand a language. That has happen to me alot, but my last few of my days i didnt go i was out on medical leave after a big bash to my head caused me a concussion if was anything else then YEA WITHOUT A DOUBT I WOULD BE IN SCHOOL REGARDLESS IF I WAS SICK OR NOT! School rules!
2007-08-29 00:42:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs some male bonding. Maybe a really close relative could help him get his head together. If a child isn't doing well in school it's not because they don't want to. Most kids would love to be in the top and have something to brag about. Maybe a different type of school would be the answer. Get the other members of your family involved in this matter soon before it's too late. Good Luck!
2007-08-29 00:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a vicious cycle, he doesn't like school therefore doesn't try but then his grades suffer and he is kept back.
However being an older child with the younger kids can be demoralising as well and equally make the child hate school. Its tricky.
I have a 13 yr old lad I'd start at the beginning talk to his teachers find out what he is like at school. Whether he is disruptive or quiet etc. Then I would work with them to try and plan how to move him forward this will mean as a parent you will have to sit with him and guide him with his work. Its obvious he can't get on with it him self.
My son hates homework as well given the choice he would rather be on his Xbox. But when his work started to suffer we took control and he was only allowed to go on the Xbox when he had done his homework to our satisfaction. I would make time sometimes only 15-20 mins to go through his work. He soon realised who was in control -us a parents not him.
2007-08-29 00:35:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm kick his ***! . no really and truley are you making him study or do homework? you can alwyays send you child aways to bording school and maybe he will realize how good he had it. that is un exceptable that he is in a grade with 9 yr olds. as a parent you need to put your foot down. he has no say so in what he wants to do right now. think about the future. so if he don't finish school he will not be able to get a good job or job period and will be living at your house till the end of time. maybe he doesn't want to go to school because and can't comprehend and is embarrassed. maybe he has to be in a special class. BOTTOM LINE dropping out is out of the question!
2007-08-29 00:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by Spice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to pick up the pace. why has he failed 2 grades? if he's not cracking the books at home, that's one reason.has he got a learning disability? maybe get that checked out and talk to the school about some extra help too. now that he's so far behing is peers, i can kind of understand his unwillingness to go but he has no choice. you have to push him mom.
2007-08-29 00:22:53 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
try to get him a tudor that will motivate him academically. how is he around the house? a tudor will bring up things in him that you couldnt or havent known that he has. maybe he has a learning disability but he definetely needs attention...dont stress your self, take him to the experts...here we have sylvan learning centers or hunnington learning centers look for something special for him also ask him about what he wants to do when or by the time that he turns eighteen...tell him how and why school will get him all of these things...Good Luck!
2007-08-29 00:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by candigurl1023 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he's failing. Maybe there's a school bully. Talk to him. Be more social with your son. For his studies, give him a tutor and after his lesson, pay him or something, to tell him that he's done well.
Hope it all goes well.
2007-08-29 01:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by x3x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your country have alternative school? Does your son have a learning disability? You need to check on those possibilities.
2007-08-29 00:57:45 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im 14 going to 8th hey not everyone likes school but u gotta do it...make him get extra help..a private tutor or home school him..or make sometimes of ur own at home nd read to him..or let him read to you...give him..like homework on the weekends for subjects hes struggling for make him do extra work he might be embarassed to go to school considering he failed but hes got to learn u cnt drop out of school..force him f he dnt listen take away something he likes..or ground him
2007-08-29 00:55:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
For the love of all that is good i hope this is a fake question.
If he is that age in that grade, no wonder he don't want to go to school.. He feels like Goliath. But hey, what kid does want to go to school?
Do you go tot work because you WANT to? heck no.. Put the board of education to his butt, make him go and study and learn, get him tutors if you can .
Turn off the TV and make him read and do his homework. You have obviously failed in a lot of places here, but it is not to late.
Stand up. Be the MOM.
PS you might want to consider some classes yourself , maybe in English or something.
2007-08-29 00:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by bro_tj1 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋