s3x related question... pls, it's important i get your advice! :)?

Question

i've been seeing this guy and i feel it's time i slept with him. i am still virgin, while he's started his sex life for quite a while. i talked to mom and she says i should do it with condom, for protection against STDs, but i want to do it without, because it seems much sexier. what should i do? should i ask him to do his tests before sleeping with him? because it seems pointless to do it for a while with condom and give up using it .

Answer 1

If your really ready like you say you are,and you dont want to use a condom then just tell him that you think your ready to sleep with him and you want to know if he will be willing to get tested.Tell him you think it would be sexier without the condom.And ihope your on a birth control.

Answer 2

Well i'm just coming out of your situation now (like a week/few days ago lol), and although i totally agree that it'll be soo much better without a condom (i really didn't see the point but he asked if i wanted to and i thought why not try it), honestly it doesn't make it less sexier, it doesn't make a difference really, infact it can be just as hot, offer to put it on him etc. I've asked him to get tested for STD's which we'll both be doing soon, just to make sure cos accidents happen right? But even with this i still think it's better using condom's for a while at least, and get yourself on birth control like the pill. This way with you on the pill, both checked (and clean) of STD's the odd slip up without a condom would still be ok. It's just also an added piece of protection for unwanted pregnancies also, people still get pregnant on the pill!!!!

It's just playing it safe to use condoms, not just for STD's but pregnancy also! It doesn't make it any less fun or sexy.

Answer 3

Never, and I mean NEVER, have unprotected sex!!!!! I don't care if it does seem sexier, STDs and AIDs and unplanned pregnancies are definitely NOT sexy. Especially if the partner is sexually active as you said-remember when you have sex with someone, you are having sex with each and every one he has had sex with in the past. You don't know what those people had, why would you think so little of yourself to put yourself in that kind of danger-use protection.

Answer 4

this may sound old fashioned but hey you have the decision to make. If i were you, i won't sleep with him. you need to ask yourself if its absolutely important you sleep with him cos i think not sleeping with him is sexier and will keep him more interested in you. And if you have to do so pls. use a condom there's no sexiness in getting any disease

Answer 5

Your mom told you to go ahead? wow she must be pretty cool.
i think you should listen to her. even if the dude gets tested and the results come back negative it won't stop you from getting pregnant. but if your sure you don't want a condom then make sure you know his status first.

Answer 6

use a condom sweets... its not only about the tests you could also get pregnant and it is advisable to also get him checked... make sure if you are doing it without a condom that you know your menstruation cycle and do it in the safe zones! good luck!

Answer 7

Don't be silly, honey, do it with a condom and learn to make that sexier.

Answer 8

It takes a while to get the test results back. Better safe than sorry. HIV kills, and herpes is incurable. Why would you want to take that chance? Remember that you are sleeping with everyone that he has been with before you.

Answer 9

first time meet a stud have it done...

2nd time onwards use condoms lubricated ones....

Answer 10

damn, you talk about this with your mom and she said go ahead????????????????????/

p/s what is happening to our world..