my partner is throwing a right paddy about our kids?

Question

sleeping overnight at my parents on saturday night my mum rang and said they could sleep sat night coz the kids have been asking recently so i said ok thinking there was no problem but my partner who goes out on saturday night with his friends and is groggy in the mornings and misses half of it anyway is saying no way and if i say yes (which i already have) he will ring my mum telling her no i know he is just trying to be awkward but he says he likes to spend time with kids on a sunday morning coz they go over my parents every other sunday for a few hours anyway how do i work this out i know hes doing it to be awkward and i know the kids will love it and the pratt just txt me to say if i do it he will leave me (stupid or what) what do i do help

im also 30 weeks pregnant with no3 and i said its nice to have a break but he has a answer for everything

Answer 1

tell him to go ahead, he sounds like a prat. he'll get over it.

Answer 2

What an absolute control freak your partner is. If he's that worried about wanting to see the kids on Sunday morning, tell him to go and pick them up early that morning so he gets his time with them. I wouldn't expect that sort of behaviour from a child let alone a grown adult. He should be thankful that he has 'in-laws' that are prepared to have the children regularly. Get your glad-rags out, phone some friends and arrange a night out yourself. I'd also pack his bags and show him the door, give him something real to have a paddy about. Good luck x

Answer 3

I'm afraid I tend to agree with most of what has been said.

I have a thought though, if the children go over to your parents every other Sunday then why not make that in to say once a month the children stay over and you both go and join them for Sunday lunch before bringing the children home, also you could have your parents over for Sunday lunch once in a while that way he gets at least 3 Sundays out of the month to spend time with them and you get one weekend to yourselves, that way he gets to see more of the children and your parents don't miss out.

I hope this helps, good luck.

Answer 4

What a big kid!!! How does he spend time with the kids after being out on the p1ss the night before? I would have thought he'd appreciate the kids staying round Grandma's! If he keeps threatening to leave, make sure you have a bag packed for him and tell him to F*** off and stay with his precious drinking buddies! You don't need the stress of helping him cope with his Sunday hangovers or sulks and tantrums. Your mum was kind, offering to spend some time with her grandkids, who would object to that?
Good luck with babe no.3!

Flame 187: "A right paddy" is a term used to describe an adult temper tantrum!

Answer 5

text him back with the word - Bye!
Then call your mum and tell her he is being a jack *** and that the kids can come over. You are their parent too. Girl stand up for yourself.

If he wants to talk tell him the kids are going to your moms and that if he is so concerned about spending time with them he can pick them up on sunday at 11:00. but they are going and you are going to get rest. And then I would tell him that if he likes to threathen you with leaving dont let the door hit him in the ***.

Answer 6

Sounds like a control thing to me, he wants you stuck in with the kids. Tell him that he can go and pick them up on sunday morning early and take them out for the day if he likes the sunday mornings with them so much, while you go out (and make sure you do).
Or, tell him they are staying at home then just send them anyway and deal with it in the morning.

Answer 7

Someone who would leave his family over something like this (or even threaten to) is more worried about controlling others than what is right. I would go ahead and let the kids go. Try to compromise, though, and tell him you will pick the kids up and have them home by 11 so that he can have his time with them.

Answer 8

if hes groggy on sunday morning how is he going to spend time with them? i would let them go and say they will be back early afternoon by the time he surfaces so he can spend time with them. u need a rest if ur pregnant so let them go to your mums if they want whats the problem? let him leave u if hes this pathetic, ur better off without him, ive lived with a control freak and im far happier just me and the kids.

Answer 9

He sounds like a right t***. Who the hell does he think he is. you can do alot better love i agree with they other girls on here. give the kids to your mum for the night and hit the town and find a new man. He sounds like a right control freak. if you give in to this then he will always threaten to leave ya. i would put a bet on it that he wouldnt leave ya. If he does he ain the right man to be with for the rest of your life. Hope this helps ya chick : ) x

Answer 10

tell him that if he stays in on saturday then you will change the visist to your mum but you woulld prefer that he behaved like an adult not a spoiled little boy. alternatively if going out and getting drunk with his mates is more important to him then you will arrange for the children to come back early on sunday morning (oh and make sure it is before 9 am and send them stright in to leap allover daddy. If neither of these compromises fits this overgrown child I suggest you pack his things for him and send them to the pub and call his bluff.

Answer 11

What an ****, relly come on!! are your parents paedophiles or murderers for god sake, what he is basically trying to do is control you and say that your judgment is not as good as his.

Why not see if your parents can have you stay on sat night too, and sunday and monday etc, he would soon grt the hint. Do you really want an extra child on your hands?