Actually my father said that as i start incoming i have to give my all income to my mother I will get only the transport fare & tiffin cost and some more money for any urgent use.Ultimately the income will be controlled by my father.when I say this to any one father just ignore & say that he said so to rise our family income only and all the money will be kept in my bank account for my future use.He will not spend my money.But to me he said that he will control my income so that I may not do any wrong use of it.The true is he is waiting for my income.
2007-08-28 22:04:56 · 18 answers · asked by bhomba 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you are working and earning the money yourself, then your father has absolutely no legal rights to your income, this applies both to adults and teenagers under 18 with part time jobs.
2007-08-28 22:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have not given the details of you - I mean qualification, age, employment, etc., etc., along with family details. If you are the only son and your parents looked after your studies by spending their whole life earning to bring you up to this level then there is every reason for your father to control your expenditure too.
You got the employment now only. What were you till attaining level - you think of this seriously before reaching to a conclusion that your father is only interested in your income. You are too young to take a hasty decision because it will be hot headed one.
Doesn't matter even a certain portion of your income they enjoy for some time since they were spending for you leaving behind their life's earning.
Better your father put a control on your spending which will be helpful in your later part of life when you become a father.
UNDERSTAND AND OBEY HIM
2007-08-30 04:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by BLOWHOT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not exactly aware the situation under which your father has told you this. After all your parents have brought you up and your father may be right in telling you that your hard earned money should not go to waste because the normal tendency will be to spend lavishly in the initial stages of your earning. In general a mother is always is an understanding woman. Confide in her and explain to her your views.
My suggestion is you give some amount from your earning for supporting your father in running the family, the remaining amount you put in an account and give the pass book to your mothwer and you can always withdraw some amount from that whenever you need it because a mother is always compassionate.
2007-08-30 15:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by Bala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although you are living in your fathers’ house, this arrangement isn´t fair, as it reduces you to a slave. I believe, that it’s fair to pay a certain amount of money to your parents, as you live there and pay no rent and have food free of charge.
But, it’s absolutely unacceptable that your father demands your whole income. He might think, that he is doing it for your best, but there is no way to private an adult working person of his earned wage.
He might be waiting for your income, but that doesn’t mean, that you have to give it 100% to him, give him a part of your income and that’s it.
If he gets angry, he gets angry... he will also calm down again. Tell him to be less greedy and point out, that you are responsible and that you know to take care for your future and on what you want to spend your money.
Don’t act like a child, act like an adult!
2007-08-29 08:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are an adult, living at home, your father could ask you to pay rent and help with the bills that you help to make., But he cannot take your money. I suggest you get a bank account and learn to spend your money so you pay your way, but also save so you can get your own place. I hope every thing works out well for you.
2007-08-29 05:47:23 · answer #5 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
legally, if you are over 18, the income is yours. but you may not be able to fully win the battle with your father until/unless you are 25, when you are not dependent on him for anything anymore, including insurance. then you can truly say hey, I am an independent adult... I have my own job, career, and money. if you have the means to do so, try to move out and get an apartment of your own if you're working full-time... that way you can really assert your independence.
2007-08-29 13:58:53 · answer #6 · answered by oceano 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are being used by your father. That is a bad situation to be in. I'm assuming you are living at home, and if that is the case you are probably being controlled in other ways as well. Get moved out on your own and assert your independence. You can respect your family and still be independent from them.
2007-08-29 09:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by I39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently, he is not waiting for your incoming. In an orthodox form of family it is quite natural for the father to control (manage would be better) the income of his children. Take it in a positive stride. Things will be better. He is your father. Definitely, he will not wrong you.
2007-08-29 06:26:51 · answer #8 · answered by mythili m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are adult cant think father is liable to do so
talk to your father that you are very pleased with his approach towards securing your future convince him that you will not use your money for crap
and suggest to deposit some share of money in your account from your income hope this stuff work
good luck
2007-08-29 07:45:29 · answer #9 · answered by bunty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father doesnt have such rights. But he would have said that becoz may be (to him) you are not very responsible, or you may spend all the money lavishly.. so he wanted to do something good for you..
You tell him, that you would some money in fixed deposit or another account in your name... Which is just for savings and you would take money from it... its for the future
Give some money for family expenses.
2007-08-29 12:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by lifesucksme 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋