my sis's bf always when sis is not around tried to flirt with me
today morning when i woke up and saw my sister's bf in the bed with me it was his house i dont remember anything what happened then i left the house i picked up my cloths and left then one of my friends was outside she asked me if i was ok then i asked what do u mean she said that yesterday me and my friends went to a club and i got drunk i dont remember anything my best friend told me that i was really drunk i think i drank very much that night and when we were going home she said that my sis's bf told her that hell leave me home so she left me with him then she went home herself what do i do my sister's bf slept with me when i was drunk what do i do im afriad to face my sis she wont belive me if i told the turth she always think's he the telling turth HELPPPP
2007-08-28 19:23:50 · 12 answers · asked by THE_NICE_ONE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh darling,
What a mess!
Now, you need to tell your sister what happened.
You need to go to your doctor and say that you were drunk, and woke up next to a man not remembering anything of what happened. He may want to make you do some test so that you know if you were drugged or rape.At this stage you wouldn't need to give any names.
If you haven't been drugged, you may still have been raped, and if you haven't, it doesn't mean that you gave your consent for sex with your sister's boyfriend.
For now, the way it looks like, is that he took advantage of your vulnerability to do what he wanted to for ages.
Any way you look at it, he is guilty: for cheating on your sister, with you among all people, for taking advantage of you when as your sister's boyfriend he should be looking out for you.
So, when it doesn't excuse the fact that you were drunk to the point of not being able to see that you were not going home, it doesn't justify what he did.
And again, who knows, you might have been drugged, so a blood test should be able to give you some peace of mind one way or the other.
So, maybe do go to your doctor right now, but don't wait any longer to tell your sister what you just told us.
She may want to lie to you by saying it was your fault, but she will not be able to lie to herself knowing that her boyfriend is an animal she can't even trust to keep away of her own sister!!!
So, don't you worry about that. She's bound to be hurt, and angry at you, but she should be angrier at him for what he did to YOU and to HER.
Good luck darling.xxx Ps: also check for STD and have a pregnancy test. Sorry.xxx
2007-08-28 22:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by Kc 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The real person comes out when we drink. How do you blame her boyfriend for this? You are just as much to blame. How could you do this to your sister? Do you secretly hate her or something? Also it sounds like you and your friends have a drinking problem. Thank God you guys didn't kill someone when you were driving around drunk.
Get yourself into a rehab program and consoling to see why you did this to your sister. If you are not willing to do that then you really don't feel sorry.
People it is not RAPE if 2 drunk people had sex and one regrets it the next day. By all accounts they were all drunk, no one was making wise choices that night. If he had been sober you might have a point but both them were blotto. Is she guilty of raping him because he was to drunk to make a coherent decision? Dont insult women who have really been raped against their will by equating this to rape.
2007-08-28 19:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by gadfly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister what happened and get a rape test done. The authorities will prevent him from harming you again. If your sister leaves you, don't worry about it. There's no point in being in a relationship with someone who doesn't respect you enough to take your opinion into account. Idk if he is abusive towards her and she is vulnerable to him because of that but she will come to her senses.
You were probably irresponsible but please don't think you did anything to deserve this. No woman on this earth should ever be abused by a man.
DON'T BE AFRAID TO TRY AND REPORT THIS!!
2013-12-06 13:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by cranken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't remember any thing and if your sister's b/f also confirms then nothing serious has happened.Talk openly to your sister and clear the matter once for all.
2007-08-28 19:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by brkshandilya 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Twinkle toes.... she didn't get raped. Don't try to play that card, you will look like a bigger @$$ in the end. Like your sister isn't going to be mad enough, but let's say he raped you. You're a piece of work.
2007-08-28 19:31:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a man,and be a woman and stand for yourself.And drinking will get you in big trouble,
2007-08-28 19:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by Snowy.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your still drunk and you need to tell her cause shell find out sooner or later and your part of the problem so you need to become part of the solution
2007-08-28 19:30:13 · answer #7 · answered by heller 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you still have to tell her....i think even if she doesn't believe you, you have to try your best....after that, it's her decision and her choice....and let this be a lesson learnt...never put yourself in a situation where you can be taken advantage of again...rape is not the worst of things people can do to you when you drink.
2007-08-28 19:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
it IS RAPE. if a woman is not coherent enough to make a decision for myself then a man has no right to do so. you say he is always flirting with you so he probably saw the opportunity to take advantage of you and get his sick pleasure. you do need to tell the police and of course your sister
2007-08-28 19:38:16 · answer #9 · answered by tracy p 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋
You should report it to the cops this is called rape.
2007-08-28 21:47:10 · answer #10 · answered by Arron27 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋