I feel very guilty in need of spritual guidance?

Question

tired to join an organization not too long ago, an organization I had longed to be a part of,and got accepted, but didn't go on to fully become a member :( I know bummer.Well anyways, so a few months go by and I meet this guy, I mean he's handome, smart, a prominent leader, but he was three years younger than I plus he happened to be the brother and best friend of one of the members of the the organiztion I almost joined. We started talking, and there was some chemistry, but not enough to feel like I wanted to be in a relationship with him,(if you catch my drift)so he starts calling me late hours of the night, he invited me over, we got drunk, and had sex, I felt some guilt but we talked it over and he assured me that there was nothing to feel guilty about, he wasn't involved with anyone in the organization and everything between us would be only between us, so a few months go by, and we really didn't talk that much but we hooked up again, and I called him, he called me afterwards

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3 minutes ago
(sorry for the long details) but yeah we were talking and I told him that I didn't want anyone to know about our sexual realtionship, I told him this because I didn't want people to think that I was a **** and put me in that category, and plus I told him that I might want to one day try to rejoin again, and he was like well, we do have a relationship, and in the midst of everything he was accusing me of playing on his phone, and all this stuff, but yet we got intimate, and we talked that night and he told me he thought I try to hard, and he started playing footsies, but then a few weeks goes by and I call to see if I left something at his house and he gets upset and tells me to never call him again and he'll tell everyone about our relationship, so now when I run into him, he doesn't speak, and the members sort of shun me as well,my question did I do anything wrong in your opinion and should I rejoin even though I might run into the same people, and why do you think he acted the way?

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58 minutes ago
What was really crazy...is the fact that after he threatened me and told me not too call him anymore, his best friend calls me out the clear blue asking me to come to one of his events..and I'm thinking oh yeah" somthing is up

Answer 1

Well, yes, you were wrong. You wouldn't be feeling guilty if you were not wrong.

But, that guilt was designed to inspire you to greater things. Take the gift of guilt and work with it. For a short while, analyze why you feel guilty. What actions did you take that are making you feel this way?

Did you know before you did the actions that they were wrong? Most of us do. Make note of your inner thoughts that happened before you made the decision to go ahead anyway. Make note also of the other circumstances involved in your decision making. You stated that alcohol was involved. Perhaps you need to limit your consumption enough so your decision making process does not get clouded.

Now, armed with this knowledge, you have more power over future times when the circumstances may be similar. You will remember your current discomfort, and this will inspire you to make different choices.

That is how Godly guit works.

If your guilt is making you feel dirty and worthless, it is not coming from God. Satan has the power to tweak your emotions; he uses that to isolate you, and bring you down from the greatness of your human potential.

Satan also uses people to help you along into isolation and depression.

My recommendation is to pray to God on your situation. Ask for forgiveness. Be sincere, and repent. Repent means to turn away from the sin, and stop doing it.

Once this is done, God does not remember your sin any more. Neither should you. People who try to remind you of it are doing Satan's work (some don't even realize that's what they are doing). You may feel free to ignore them.

Answer 2

Well, it's a complicated story and we are only hearing one side, but I would say you made a mistake and you need to close that door and move on.
Don't let yourself anywhere near him or back into that situation.
Some things are better left alone.

In the future, date a long time before even kissing and keep the rest in check until marriage. It is a sin. God will forgive if you turn away and don't sin in that area again. Sin aside, there are far too many diseases out there, and too many careless people spreading them.

You are worth everything to your creator. God bless.

EDIT:WhyteAngel, I don't think she meant he was a prominent leader in that same organization, but maybe I read it incorreclty???

Answer 3

Because he is a "prominent leader" I would find another church. He took advantage of your weakness that you shared with him, to keep it between you and him. If you are worried about what other people think and say, find new friends as it does not seem like they are yours. If you are strong and do not care what others think and believe you do have some friends in that organization, don't let him stop you from doing something you really want to. Being in his position, who knows he may be taking advantage of other women, sexually and mentally. It is your call if it is worth it.

Answer 4

You seem more concerned with what people think, about you being wrong or not, shouldn't you worry more about what God thinks about this? I don't know what organisation you are talking about joining, but the Bible shows what God's view of sexual imorality is(1Corinthians5:9) tells Christians not to even associate with sexually imoral people. (Hebrews13:4)says:"Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.You might also like to read (Hebrews12:16 ; 1Timothy1:10 ; (Ephesians5:5)shows the category that sexualy imoral people are viewed by God to be in. but that does not mean that if you sincerely repent, that God will not forgive you hew will if you truly are sorry and show this by changing your course in life to an acceptable course in God's eyes, he then will forgive you especially if you begin to learn about God and his son Jesus (John17:3)and change your ways according toyour new found knowledge(from the Bible)

Answer 5

If it is Christian organization they must act according to the Gospel. Certainly you did the wrong thing having sex beyond wedlock, but it initiated this handsome guy and afterwards he acted so disrespectably. Handsome is as handsome does. Situation is very difficult. I pray to God so He gave you all enough wisdom to forgive one another. No one can say that God can not forgive you. If you will be not accepted in this organization, find another, but you need to get over it not losing the faith in the Lord. Don't repeat your mistakes.

Answer 6

I don't want to offend you, but if you're old enough to be having sex you're old enough to know you're making some really bad decisions in choosing who you have sex with.

Answer 7

I would just stay away altogether. Sounds nothing but trouble. You shouldn't never had sex with this guy.

Answer 8

I'd say to avoid this guy--and his group--and move on.

Next time, hold out for somebody who you know will love and respect you.

Answer 9

Didn't anyone ever teach you that if you play with matches near gasoline that you will get burned?

Answer 10

He sounds very immature and not repectful of you in general. I would stay away from his drama.