I say i hate you to my parents, is that normal?

Question

Sometimes when i get really mad at my parents..i say i hate them and they get really sad and stuff...Sometimes i just really do hate them!!! Is it normal???

Answer 1

i say i hate u to my parents sometimes but then i go and apoligize and say i love them after i have calmed down and came bak to my senses
hope this helped

Answer 2

You shouldn't tell anyone you hate them. You better have a damn good reason to hate anyone at all. You'd feel like a real piece of s h i t if anything happened to either one of your parents and you didn't get a chance to apologize for telling them that you hate them. You're probably just mad at them because they aren't letting you stay out late or some other teenage dilema. It isn't worth it to get that mad about. One day you'll be old enough to be able to do whatever the hell you want and you'll realize how immature and thoughtless you were when you were younger. I hate to say this, but you never know when people are going to die. It's better to just walk away from the situation and let yourself cool down instead of saying something that you may regret in the future. I hope this helps. Please don't put your parents through this. Teenagers often don't realize the constant stress of adult problems. It's not your fault, it's just that teenage problems and adult problems are so different. Sorry this is so long but it's important to have a good relationship with your folks. Good luck.

Answer 3

Why do you get mad? Is it because they dont give you what you want? Always remember that parents loves their children and will do what is best for them. Just the fact that they become sad when you say you hate them means they really love you. Deep inside them, they probably wishing they could make you understand their decisions. Saying i hate you to your parents is being cruel, selfish and thoughtless. You probably dont have an idea how hurtful or painful it is to be told i hate you by someone you love so much.

Answer 4

You know the saying "don't say anything you can't take back" or "if you can't say nothing nice don't say anything at all?" Stop and think before you say anything...I lost my mom 2 yrs ago and my dad 18 yrs ago. I would just once more wish I could hold them and say I love you both so much. One day your parents won't be around either and you won't want to live with the guilt of hate words. Tell them you love them everytime they even go out the door, you just never know. What if they said they hated you too. Hate is such a strong word, be careful with it. Because they love you...

Answer 5

Hate is a very strong word and you should only say that about someone you dont love or care about. Its harsh and sounds lik it really hurts them, its hard sometimes but your parents will always be there for you no matter what is said or done. That is what my parents did and now I have a great relationship. I also said the "H" word and worse. Good Luck

Answer 6

i don't think you hate your parents, i think you simply over react... and there are ways to control yourself... it might be a wise idea to start NOW before it becomes a bad habit.

i am fully aware that it's upsetting when we don't get our way and when our parents say "no"; however, it's time to learn that we don't always get what we want while we are growing up.

as an adult, we don't always get our way either... believe me, i can attest to this, i'm an adult... there are so many things i'd like to do and things i want to have, but i can't... sometimes for financial reasons, other times because i have responsibilities which come first.

and even when we work after growing up, our bosses aren't always loving and agreeable... NO is something you will hear from your boss from time to time..... and more often than not, we have to do things we don't really want to do at work... and we have to do them because we need to work to survive.. no sense having an attitude or telling our boss we hate them....

your parents surely love you and they are sad because their feelings are probably hurt.. instead of saying "i hate you" all the time, STOP, count to 20 in your head before you say something mean or nasty.

truly, as you get older do you really want to continue this behavior? no man would like it or put up with it... you can't treat a friend or boyfriend this way and expect them to like it, or tolerate it, either.

perhaps practicing stopping and thinking before you are mean to others, would be a good idea.

take care.

Answer 7

It is very normal, espeacially if your parents are divorced and you have to deal with steps. Try to remeber that they really do want whats best for you even if it doesn't seem like it right now. When i was in my teens I often said the same things to mother as well as others I am 26 now and deeply regret the hurtful things I said and did. In recent years I have realised how right she was and wish I had listened but that can really only come after you have grown older and gained perspective.

Answer 8

Its normal. If u still feel like that after u have calmed down, then there is a problem but u probably will hate them for maybe an hour or two and then get over it....its typical....but its better to avoid saying it out loud!!!

Answer 9

That's normal. Everyone says bad things when they're totally angry. But what YOU have to do is:

1. Either find other less hurting words to say when you're mad at them.
2. Or attack what they DO that makes you mad and not WHO they are.

Don't say "I hate you" but you can say "I hate YOUR constant nagging!

Oh and don't forget to apologize when the heat cools down. Good luck!

Answer 10

Many times when it is said to them, It is really meant for the person saying it. Especially if your a kid and living at home. Now if your beaten, starved, molested, then you can hate. But then that should be reported to the authorities. You did not state the reason for your hate....

Answer 11

if you are a teenager, that is normal, however let me warn you... you may regret it some day. I always tell my family and friends I love them before I leave or hang up the phone because you never know when that will be the last time you get to talk to them....