I think my dad tried to kill himself -- I guess because of me?

Question

He was supposed to catch a flight this morning at 10.He wanted to drop me off at school today & have breakfast together.I didnt want to go cuz he embarasses me. My friends all think my dad looks exactly like Jack on Will & Grace!Which I dont have a prob with except my dad acts a little feminine sometimes. So I said I was gonna get a ride w/a friend instead. My mom said I should want to spend time with him before he left. I told her to mind her own business--then my dad was on my case & I ended up telling him to drop dead among other stuff. Then I called a friend who picked me up.
I got a call at school today from my uncle that my dad was in the ER, so I guess he didnt make it to the airport. My mom found him slumped in the bathroom unconscious. When I got to the hospital he was still unconscious.My mom was trying to get me to touch him & talk to him.I couldnt do it so I left & still havnt been back. I still dont know what happened & noone will call me from hospital. What should I do?

I called my mom's cell phone about 15 minutes ago. I was so mad at her for not calling me. She told me it was my choice to leave earlier and that if I cared anything about my dad at all I would get back to the hospital immediately!
Then she told me what happened and it was not a suicide attempt. It was a aneurism in his brain. My dad is in perfect shape and his blood pressure was perfect! So how did this happen?

Answer 1

you should never have to think that something that someone else did was your fault. you should try and talk to him or a counselor, because if u keep everything bottled in, then you might even try hurting yourself even when there is no reason for it.

Answer 2

Are you really asking us what to do? GO TO THE HOSPITAL AND BE THERE FOR YOUR FATHER!

Even the smallest words can hurt worse than a knife when they come from those we love. Take this as a learning experience and start thinking before you speak.

While you were horribly wrong to say what you said, if your father did try to kill himself you are not to blame. A person wouldn't try to end a life because of one situation . . . There are probably numerous other things going on with him that you do not even know about.

No one is calling you probably because they think you don't care. Get off the computer, go to the hospital, and tell your dad that you love him! Now!

Answer 3

What should you do?....your mom said it. If you truly care about your dad, you go there. It is not time to ask on yahoo answer. Till when are you going to wait?

1 person over 15 can get aneurism. It bleeding in the brain and it can cause stroke or death. It has nothing to do with good health or pressure. If you don't wanna regret this, go look for him right away, and stay by his saide as long as you can. When he will open his eyes, apologize.

Answer 4

Okay, first of all I'm not sure about the part where he tried to kill himself because you are just saying he was slumped over unconscious - it could be any number of things if that's the only thing you know. If he was trying to commit suicide - it sounds like he was planning it before you ever said a word to him this morning - him wanting to spend all the extra time with you might have been his way of telling you one last time that he loves you. What happened is NOT your fault. It just fell together at the wrong time. Go back and be with your father - he loves you and he needs you - he needs to know you love him and in the event that something worse happens - this may be your only chance to appologize and tell him you really do love him. Whatever happens, you have to remember this is not your fault or you will be living with the guilt of it all your life and he certainly wouldn't want that.

Answer 5

Anuerism happen to healthy people all the time. When I was a sophmore in high school a friend of mine in the same class we were about 16 died of a brain anuerism there is nothing you could have done to prevent it and there is nothing you could have done that would have caused it. I understand that it is difficult to handle that kind of thing espeacially if it is someone close to you. You cann't blame yourself, it would have happened regardless of what you said or didn't say. You may feel guilty for what happened before his accident but you have to understand that you cannot help what you feel. And I imagine it isn't easy trying to connect with someone you don't see that often, my parents are divorced though my father didn't live out of state he wasn't very interested in me or my brother in fact the only time we ever heard from him was/is if he wants something. And I just started talking to him again after 5 years. In a lot of ways it just gets dealing with your parents after you get older.

Answer 6

Honestly, I feel you should suck it up, put your feelings in check and be there for your family. Especially your dad. It doesn't matter what people say or think, it's the character you poses that matters.
I'm sure that you were just angry, and acted out. However, throwing hurtful things around to those you should love shows a lack of comapssion. You see, you have no idea what inner, personal things are affecting your dad. Try reaching out and asking forgiveness for your hateful spirit and let the air clear and just be there. It's only too late, if he doesn't pull through.

Answer 7

I dont understand wy u think your dad look like a character on tv shuld mak u think that he is a diff. person and wy u told him to drop dead. my son told me the other day wheh he was mad at that he hated me. I think that your mom should say to your dad that HE needs to spend more time with you, not the other way around. dont get yourself down. Us parents are trying our best to raise the best most confident people to go out into this world and we are scrared too. Hang in there and be as yourself and dont let anyone tell who or what to be, that is totaly up to u. I have faith in u and will pray for u also.

Answer 8

Man up ! Get your *** in there and talk to your Dad. All kids say bad things to their parents at times. Maybe it was not something you said. I'm sure it would take more than that to push someone over the edge, but just in case, Man up and get your *** in there. What do you have to loose ?
Guilt for the rest of your life?????
Stephanie

Answer 9

Maybe they are just trying to scare the living crap out of you.

Your dad probably went to the airport on his trip like planned.

If you dad did die of a heart attack or something, right after you told him to drop dead, I guarantee you are going to have one miserable life.

Who do you think you are telling people to drop dead?

Answer 10

get back to the hospital!
No word spoken can be unspoken...but sorry or forgive me can!
A simple I love you could make him have the will to pull through.
Your Dad must have been in a state of depression and no one realized it.
You aren't responsible for his selfish actions but to give yourself the relief of not being "blamed" go now to him.
Please do yourself and your parents a favor by showing respect and not telling them to drop dead...life is so short..and never be ashamed of who they are or the way they look or act.
Everyone is an individual.
The reason no one is calling is because no one thinks you care...you do or you wouldn't be wanting answers.
Go now........and may God be with you and your father........

Answer 11

Your father is an adult-
and obviously deeply troubled
about something-
but whatever that something might be-
has absolutely nothing to do with you.

All you need to know right now
is whether you really love your Dad,
and I am certain you will figure
out the right thing to do when
you see him.

God Bless!