My ex-boyfriend wants to go out with me again and I kind of want to too, but...?

Question

My ex and I really good friends and we talk all the time, but it seems like when we date, we can't talk anymore. I really like him and I like to kiss him, but I don't know if I can handle not being able to talk to him properly without it being awkward, what should I do?

Answer 1

Get away from the old ideal that ether love is something completely on or completely off. That traditonal ideal of romantic love destories real lover relationships everyday. What you and most people fail to realize that all realtionships are as individual as the indivdiuals that make them, so forcing a certain way of doing things on anyone relationship will stunt its growth. So just continue to be honest, heartfelt, and do your best to love each other unconditionally, by its very nature romantic love ISN'T unconditional. Theres nothing wrong with seeking other people and being with each other at the sametime, as long as you take respect to them, by not just find ANYONE, they better be someone great and someone deserving of you or else you failed him and yourself, get? Also its the nature of love and relationships that the more time you spend together feeling good with each other, the stronger that bond will get, so just don't try and make it some traditional I well marry you someday bs. Make it I well love you forever no matter who you marry (just don't marry a dumbbutt or else I'm not going to help you thru that) type relationship. Were the love has no bond, and neither does the honesty. That I'll tell you is more intense, easier to handle, and more direction ordinated then any dating relationship. Just understand the traiditonal way of doing a relaitonship leds to a 75% divorce rate, so somthing has to give, or else were stuck doing the same dumb stuff our parents did. And I'll be frank I love my parents, but they didn't have clue to what they were doing, I'm not doing the same thing to mine, good luck! Ooo and besides if you do it this way theres a better chance that yea you will marry becasue finding someone who relaties to you honestly like a friend but makes YOU there purpose in life like a lover, is so impossible to find these days....