Ive been dating my bf, for more than a month. within the first couple weeks he had already cheated. Ive given him another chance and its been going fine. until lately. hes been acting strange. he talked to his ex for an hour last night on the phone. when he barely talks to me for 15 minutes on the phone..when we do talk. He says there's nothing between them...well..He has a lot of 'friends' that are girls..and i joke..but now i wonder. There are just alot of signs. He is stand off-ish lately. and i feel like hes going to break up with me. His reply to this was that he just was tired and cranky..and that hes never felt like breaking up with me.ever. and said that he wouldn't for a while. He always says that he's been brutely honest with me(when he told me he cheated)
so why would he stop now?
I dont know what to do. my insticts say that hes distancing himself and that he will break up with me soon. but then when i talk to him..its all smooth talkin and i start to beleive him.
2007-08-28 17:08:06 · 12 answers · asked by mranda34 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well Miss Insecure Miranda I think first you must trust your boyfriend and stop being so frickin insecure about him cheating and for Christ sake what do you think it means when he talks to you for 15 minutes and his EX GIRLFRIEND for a hour. And I'm guessing you added an extra 5 minutes to the original 10 minutes you guys talk! If you keep being the insecure little toddler your being right now and giving him probable cause then cheating on you won't seem like such a bad idea. Now put your scrubs on and get back to work Turk!
2007-08-28 17:16:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no, the dreaded cheater. Some people believe in second chances, and that's fine. But just make sure that you're willing to deal with the consequences if he makes the same mistake again. And it is a possibility too. If your boyfriend has stopped calling you and always seems distant, then chances are that he may not have feelings for you anymore. He may just be readying himself to break up. Trust me, guys know all the right things to say and they know all the right lines. He says that he's always been honest with you...but how do you know that for sure? And if he truly cared about you then he would've NEVER cheated on you. I would just talk to him one last time. Just ask him straight up. Ask him if he wants to break up because things with you two aren't the same anymore. And if breaking up is the case...then screw him. Someone who's a cheater isn't worth it anyway. (I would know because my ex-boyfriend cheated on me for 2 months. He had another girlfriend. Pretty sweet huh?)
2007-09-05 19:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by Cute&Sweet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guy says that he will answer this on for you; "Based on the events that you have told us, even in your own words, it is not a question of IF he would break up with you but when. If he has the gall to tell you that he is not breaking up with you 'anytime soon', well heck, that means he is NOT staying, no matter what! Lose him! The best way to show a person that they don't run anything but their mouth is to stick your foot in it! You need to pull the trigger frst. Since you are the only one in a postion to do it, you are obligated by the code o sisterhood to take this jerk down a notch or two. How? BREAK UP WITH HIM FIRST. You don't have to be mean, but you hav to be firm.Tell him that you are done with him, and that you will no longer be open to his "Relationship time table". Best of Luck....
2007-09-05 18:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by jmizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no point sticking to this relationship since there is no trust. Stay cool and relax and watch the world goes round everyday and slowly look for a better b/f.
Good luck.
2007-08-29 00:11:37 · answer #4 · answered by aUDREy TTT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart if your gut is telling you that he is going to break up with you trust your gut. When my gut feels something it ALWAYS happens. I had a guy doing the same thing he is doing and he was cheating on me so yea I broke up with him. Trust you gut it will never steer you wrong
2007-09-05 22:15:31 · answer #5 · answered by Cash H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should break up with him i mea nwhats the point of this relationship if you even want to call it that... his obviously cheating he doesnt care about u... get over it get over him the sooner the better. hes a dumbass for wasting his time but your being ignorant for believing what u want to believe ur better off with out him
2007-09-05 23:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by ~*~Jess~*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your fed up of being with him, then there's no point of staying there, you're just putting yourself into an unhappy situation, why donn't you ask him directly and straight to the oint if there's still meaning between your relationship
2007-09-06 00:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by honey_106 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u keep on looking for some1 better
and i m sure today or tmr he will ditch u
so dont be upset and better u break off n let him suffer
2007-08-29 00:14:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure hope you are too young to be thinking about marriage. Because i sure would like to see you with enough time to see for yourself you are dealing with a jerk.
2007-08-29 00:12:58 · answer #9 · answered by MS Williams 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has his cake and is eating it too. You're there when he wants you and he can get it elsewhere too. once a cheat always a cheat. he doesnt respect u and never will.
2007-08-29 00:24:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋