Who can I ask to walk me down the aisle (Dad died)?

Question

I have 3 brothers and an uncle, I don't know who to ask

Answer 1

My dad passed away two years before our wedding. I asked my mom, but she didn't want to do it. I didn't want either my older or younger brother to do it. I didn't want to walk alone - so my husband and I walked in together, with our attendants walking in couples before us - it was very beautiful.
So you have lots of options - good luck.

Answer 2

Well, you can have your Uncle do it to save you from having to pick a brother, and have each brother light a candle in memory of your dad. You could have your mom take a group of 6 candles that symbolize her, your dad and you and your brothers down the aisle as she is seated and put them on a special table that has your dads picture on it. have each brother go down and light two fo them before they sit down. Have your Officiator (Pastor, Rabbi whoever is marrying you) mention what it is and what it means. That way they will be involved and your Uncle will give you away and all of them are involved in soemthing that is special. OR you can Give yourself away (Amy Carter did this!), or have your mother do it! Two modern women in the world! Or, I had an idea if you have a long isle that your brothers and uncle could each walk you part of the way and have them take over for each other until the last one is up there with you. Kind of like handing off the baton at a relay. You would be the baton! Or you could have your Oldest brother give you away, since in the Olden days in some countries you would have been your older brother's property if your dad died before you were married! I am getting silly, but there can be a lot of different things that you do to both honor your dad, and let your male relatives give you away. They can all have a special dance with you at the reception as well, saluting your father at that timeas well. Your mom can be a great source of ideas too if you ask her what she thinks. Good luck and I hope you figure out something kewl!

Answer 3

The whole thing of having a "dad" walk you down the isle is the idea of someone who cares for you giving you away as it were. It should be a man that you trust. One where he has given his blessing and really approves of the man you're marrying. It doesn't matter if it's a friend or a friend's dad or a pastor or the milkman - as long as it' the man in your life who truly loves and cares for you the most - like a father does. If you don't have such a man in your life - I wouldn't have a brother or an uncle unless they are very close. If the men in your life are not good men - walk yourself down the isle.

Answer 4

My grandfather walked me down the aisle. After my father died, my grandfather took me in and raised me. It was a natural choice.

Sounds like a tough decision.

Are you close to your uncle? If so, ask him.

Are you having trouble choosing between your brothers? Maybe all three of them can accompany you.

You'll know exactly how to make your special day perfect!

Take Care and Congratulations.

Answer 5

Have your mother walk you down the aisle! She is your surviving parent and should be offered the honor of "giving you away".

If she isn't comfortable taking that role then ask your uncle - you only have one, it sounds like, and your brothers won't have their feelings hurt that you picked one over another.

I'm so sorry to hear that your dad passed away...

Good luck

Answer 6

If your close to your Uncle then ask him, this way your won't hurt any of your brothers. If you choose one of your brothers then the other two are going to feel left out. You could also have your Uncle give you away and have your brothers walk down in back of you. Then you will have everyone that means something to you.

Answer 7

May I ask why must you have someone walk you down the aisle? It is a very seccular, sexiest, old-fashioned idea that a woman is owned by the males of her family as "property" to be given away to her husband.

You can:

a) Walk down by yourself
b) Have your fiance walk with you or meet you half way
c) walk with you mother AND/or any family members you want.
d) Enter as one procession with your entire bridal party.


I am doing the last one with my entire bridal party, the families, groom, etc. as per traditional Catholic rules. We process in after the priest. To me, walking down the aisle with my fiance signifies unity and equal partnership.

Congrats and best wishes whatever you choose! I'm sure your father will be there in spirit watching.

If you were close with your dad, and really would have wanted him to walk you, I would walk alone rather than try and "replace" him with someone else, in my *personal* opinion. You could perhaps carry a memento of his instead as you walk, such as a Rosary. Mention this in the program.

Answer 8

If the uncle was your dads brother I would ask him,save,s any arguments with your brothers.But if the uncle is on your mothers side,then I would ask the oldest brother.Maybe you could include the other two somehow,just so they dont feel left out.

Answer 9

I had my uncle walk me down the aisle since my father passed away. It just seemed right. I had no brothers though.

Answer 10

I am sorry for your loss. If you are close to your Mother then you can ask her to walk you down. If not your mother then whichever Brother you are closest to. Or the Oldest Brother. If you Uncle is from your Father's side of the family you could ask him. Whom ever you choose is the right one.

Answer 11

I would ask my uncle to walk me down the aisle and have my brothers be ushers so all can be in the wedding party.