I'm too nice to people. I never argued with anyone because I don't know how to defend myself. Whenever someone says mean things to me, I just ignore it.
That's why I don't have no more friends. Whenever they say mean things, I just ignore them and never talk to them again.
Is there a counselor that would help me defend myself? Or is there a book that have a guide on how to defend youself with words?
2007-08-28 16:14:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
just let yaself go!!!
im a really introvert person.... shy..... keep to myself..... dont talk much to others... but dang... that got SOOOOOOOOOO boring.
be a goof.... have a laugh.... talk.... get out a bit.
ya will eventually some out of yer shell.
and yup... counselling can help alot. or ya can go to groups... to help build yer self-esteem and confidence. it takes time... but sooo worth it in the end!!!
oh... and forgive and forget :)
2007-08-28 19:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-05 17:26:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think the reason you don't have friends anymore is because you ignore them and never talk to them again. It's OK to ignore them when they are saying something stupid but when you just never talking to them ever again shows that you are mad at them. That is passive aggressiveness which you are finding another way to argue with your friend when you can't find the words to fight back with. It's kind of worst then talking back at them when you aren't even going to communicate with them. That's how you disconnected with your friends when you don't communicate with them. You can still overlook that if you overlook on the fact that your friends can say stupid things that are probably meaningless unless what they said is really offensive then think why is it offensive and tell them about it. but overall most people can say stupid, mean and meaningless things which shouldn't effect you only because it's just stupid. Just overlook them and try not to avoid your friends just because of that. If this isn't really the case then forget about what I said.
2007-09-03 20:14:40 · answer #3 · answered by LALA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lack of assertiveness probably comes from low self esteem. Any counselor should be able to help you work through these issues and help you learn to stand up for yourself when needed. I know how rough it is feeling like a doormat, I put up with so much as a result. Now, I don't. I've been through counseling and a lot of hell in my life and am changed because of it. I am still a very nice caring person, but I don't' let others treat me badly.
2007-08-28 16:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by kiki 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I really wouldn't worry about the friends who say mean things to you. They are not the friends you presume them to be or, they would not say a lot of the things they do.
There are others who feel the same way as you do. Why should you have to be put in a position of defending yourself anyway?
Look for those who are friendly.. they are out there.
2007-09-03 19:26:18 · answer #5 · answered by mrcricket1932 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi- I feel for you! There ARE councelors out there that can help you out. Sounds like ur self-esteem is a bit low. You can't change the way people act, you can only change the way you react to them. I learned that in counseling. There are definetely outlets out there. Here are a few sites below that may help you out. Good Luck, Take Care, and Hang in There!
2007-09-05 14:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually, and many won't agree with me, but you have a very humble, and meek personality, and one that 'turns the other cheek' when faced with mean and nasty people...you have the attitude, that Christians are supposed to have, and don't even know it...it isn't some kind of mental illness, and remember something that the "meek' will inherit the earth....The Bible, might be the book you need to read, and you will find comfort, in knowing, that you have been pleasing the Lord, all along
2007-09-05 01:51:40 · answer #7 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure there is.. I wouldn't know their title/specialty. I would talk to your doctor or a mental health professional at a hospital for their advice on who to talk to. I have the same problem! I just don't stand up for myself...
2007-08-28 16:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by Lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just like you and now I am can be to mean but let me know and I think I can help you
2007-08-28 16:24:29 · answer #9 · answered by shelle4392 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oooh. I think there is a book about good comebacks and stuff like that. Let me get back to you in a couple of days.
2007-08-28 16:18:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋