Do you think I should have sex with my boyfriend or wait??

Question

Well me and my boyfriend have been together for about 8 mths. and I really love him, and we have talked about sex alot, and we both are only 14.....but I am still a virgin and he's not, and he has been talking about how he wants to have a baby by me, so do you think that I should wait or wat??

Answer 1

MARRIAGE

Answer 2

U should wait!!!!!!!!!! Especially since ur so young, and especially since he's talking about knocking u up! IT's not as romantic as it sounds. THe cold reality will set in once it's too late. HE'll give u a baBy, then he'll bail. But ur still stuck with a kid, and the responsibility of taking care of it. Ur parents will have more of a burden then too. Plus, adoption and abortion are things u'll have to think about. Plus, what kind of a father would ur man be at fourteen? UR not sure about this at all, so I woulld wait. U'll never get ur virginity back, and most girls ur age end up regretting their first times anyway, because they'll end up with someone they really love and wished they'd waited for them, or someone they really loved.

HE's just saying this to u becaUse he wants sex from u. Boys don't have much to loose, and once u start having sex, it's hard to stop anyhow, so when temptation is there, people usually take it. Being teens, u don't think of the consequences, but if u get an STD, or pregnant, ur life will take a drastic turn, and it'll be put on hold...all because of one night. Girls do get stuff after one time of haVing sex. Then there are the emotional consequences u'll go through. Adult females aren't even ready to face the things i"m describing to u, so I really don't think u or ur boy is ready for this. IF u don't believe any of the answers ppl, look around ur school, and neighborhood. I'm sure there are unwed parents around. HOw many are single teen moms? How many had to drop out of school, or stay in school to raise a kid? HOw many grew up way too fast because sex felt good?

These are all things u need to consider, because sex affects the rest of ur life...and life changing decisions shouldn't be taken lightly. Protection is only 99.9% effective. And everyone remembers their firsts. So make it a good memory, and all good memories take time and planning, so...wait. Good luck.

Answer 3

i really think you should wait, your not ready yet. even though you may think so your only 14, and well in my opinion you are not ready for sex or a baby. how would you even support it, think about it, it takes alot of responsibility, more than a 14 year old can handle to raise a baby. and for the sex part of the question, how do you know he doesn't have stds...if in the end you do decide to have sex, (which im recommending you don't) make him use a condom; being a mom or dad seems fun, but in reality when your not ready and prepared it's not. tell him your not ready for sex or the idea of having a baby, and if he pressures you or gets upset then he isn't worth your time, because he would respect you if he really loved you. good luck.

Answer 4

WAIT WAIT WAIT you are way to young first off to be having sex and secondly he is lying to you just to have sex with you. You are to young to be having a baby and if he were to get you pregnant he will not help you at all. You need to stop talking to this boy he sounds no good. You dont even understand how hard it is to have a baby, they cost alot of money and your life will change, you cant just get up and go and do whatever you want, a baby totallly depends on you, you almost become there slave, I am 26 and when I had my daughter i thought it was so hard i did not sleep for 2 months because she would sleep all day and be up all night crying, I was so tired and it was just hard and I am alot older than you. This guy sounds like he will say anything just to get you to sleep with him and you do not have to sleep with someone like that and if he loved you he would not try to pressure you or tell you he wants to have a baby with you, because he will be ruining your life by getting you pregnant. your main concern right now should be going to school and then college and becoming something, you have all the time in the world to have a baby or have sex. dont do it please I am giving you the best advice, you will regret it and like i said if he loves you he will wait and if he doesnt then you dont want to be with him anyways.
be smart dont do it

Answer 5

wait, you hear all over the place men abandoing women with their child, and he is just trying to get you to do it with him by saying he wants a kid by you! your still a teen there is no way you want to tie down your life to a child yet. and me n my bf have been dating 4 almost 10 months and we are both virgins i am 15 and he is 16. wait n c wat life has to offer. if he is pressuring you than leave him or put your foot down, he prolly told the other chick that he had sex with that he wanted her to have his baby as well, he is desperate to get some. dont do wait till you are older and you are 100% sure you are marrying the guy. i am personally waiting till i get married, sex isnt my life and i dont NEED it, i want to stay in skool go to college become a vet and then think about kids, not you, not now! your only 14 and he is only 14 im only 15 and my bf is only 16, we are all too young, dont be another teenage pregnancy statistic, b/c you are just another point on his score card with the ladies if you do it w/ him. wait it out, and my friends that are 17 and 16 were dating for 4 months and they did it and now they arent even together they didnt even last a month after the fact! DONT DO IT AND BE SMART!!!!!
i hope i saved you n your bf!
goodluck
**hugz**

Answer 6

Definitely wait. In fact, you are too young to be in a serious relationship where you're thinking or talking about having babies with a boyfriend. Most likely he is saying those things just to get you to have sex with him anyway. Too many teens have had an abrupt end to their teen years by becoming pregnant at an early age, and ruining their opportunities to achieve, attend college, and become something.

Make other friends, hang out with girlfriends, socialize, take up hobbies or sports. There will be plenty of time to settle down with the right person later.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Having a baby at 14... For the love of God wait. That would scare me away from sex with someone. You're 14 years old. Having sex is one thing, and I'm not going to comment on that, but having a BABY!!! What is this guy thinking??? Don't have sex with someone that... just plain stupid.

Answer 8

WAIT!!! Are you kidding me your only 14 and he wants you to have a baby..girl get out of that relationship while you can...first of all you should be proud of your virginity don't just give it away cuz you think you really love some guy..and honestly how do you know your actually in love and its not just lust?? In the end its you that has to decide if your mature enough to handle sex..its not all romance and fireworks like its cracked up to be..and wouldn't it mean more to you if you waited till you were a little bit older and truely in love..I'm not saying wait till your married but don't just give it away because you think your in love..at 14 you still have 4 yrs of school left..and how do you think you could handle a baby and go to school and if you do finish high school how are you going to go to college and make something of yourself so you can support you and your kid?..you should think about the long term effects of what having a kid means..yeah all babies are cute and sweet at first but those kids grow up and every kid has needs..your only 14 where are you going to get a job? or do you think your parents are just going to support you and your baby..or even have the state support you..as a tax payer i don't want to support a kid that has a kid just because she thought she was in love and couldn't wait till she was mature enough to handle sex and all that it involves..and if your boyfriend says he'll support your "family" how's he going to get a job at 14 by the time your old enough to work your kid will be 2..I know it sounds kinda rude but sometimes the truth hurts...like i said in the end its up to you but just remember if he won't respect you enough to wait or use a condom at 14 he doesn't deserve you!

Answer 9

as much as u love eachother, you are too young to have sex. a baby would Majorly conmlicate both of your lives. you are still a kid. when u r 16 you could think about getting on birth control and if you 2 r still together, could have sex. (i warn you tho, it will HURT the first and second times, no matter what anyone tells u!). 16 is still young, but you are much more mature at that age then 14 and can handle the emotions that come with sex much better.
no, in my opinion, you should not have sex yet. but if you do, PLEASE use protection(condoms, birth control). you will regret it if you dont. and you are much too young to be having a baby at 14. please wait untill you are 18 at least. you will be happy you did

Answer 10

Let's look at this logically because you will do what you want to do anyway. You can only lose your virginity once. If you choose to have sex with your boyfriend and you break up, will you regret it? You could get pregnant, but at 14, how would either of you take care of it? You can get part-time jobs, sure, but at your age, the number of hours you can work is seriously limited. What would you do about school?

And to top it off, do you really think you're ready to have sex if you're asking on here if you should?

In my opinion, if you're basing your decision on what people tell you here, you're certainly not ready. Take your time. You're only young once. And your virginity is a precious gift that you can only give once. You need to be sure you're ready before you do.

Answer 11

someone on the internet should not make this decision for you. I am MARRIED 30 and have 2 kids of course im going to say wait. for one if you even have a little dault that is your inner self trying to protect you. Here is my life experence take it for what you will. I had sex at 16 I told myself I would not regret it because I was having fun. we'll years latter I do regret it. all thoese guys were out for one thing. they didnt care if my feelings were hurt if I got pregnant or if I died the next day. I have never heard of anyone staying with someone they met at 14. believe it or not 8 months is not a long time. hold off virgininty is a one time shot are you sure you want to lose it to him.