I take my husbands husky outside about every 2 hours and or anytime he comes up to me to go out. I normally let him play side for 30 minutes. For the past month he won't stop peeing on my bed. We took him to the vet to rule out any medical reasons and he was given a clean bill of health but he won't stop peeing on my bed. I bleach all our bed stuff bc it freaks me out sleeping in dog pee. My husband doesn't care at all. He doesn't take his dog out and or even pick up after him. Im tired of being the one taking care of his dog. I have birds and a cat that are mine plus 2 kids. He was the one wanting the dog but he won't take care of it. What should I do.
2007-08-28 14:59:04 · 15 answers · asked by crazy_cat_lady 4 in Pets ➔ Dogs
I do like the dog, I just hate the fact that I have to take care of him. I never ask my husband to change the litter box or even make dinner for the kids. All I ever ask is he take the trash out and he won't even do that half the time. Our yard is fenced, but he cries after 30 minures wanting in. He is a husky and I think he gets to hot being out there. He is already crate trained, that is where he is at right now. Why should I sleep on the bed? Shouldn't my husband. All my husband will do is pull the covers and everything off the bed. He doesn't use sheets or anything anyways. So it wouldn't affect him at all.
2007-08-28 15:24:37 · update #1
Also my husband knows how I feel but he ignores me... The thing that bugs me is a dog, any animal is for life. You don't just give the dog to somebody and say its your problem now.
2007-08-28 15:26:40 · update #2
I do have to admit I forgot to say my husband will take his dog on a walk about every other day, and when he doesn't I do. I also wear him out by playing ball and all that good stuff. The dog is very spoiled. I spent like 100 on dog toys last month for him. My 2 year adores him. I just get tired of always being the care taker and then as a thank you hes pees on my bed.
2007-08-28 15:52:07 · update #3
Fixing the dog I'm afraid would be much easier then fixing your husband. You are right that a animal should be for the life of the pet....however if the animal simply "exists" and nothing more it's not much of a life & might do better with someone who's able to care for it better. I don't mean to imply either of you don't care for you dog, but Huskies are an ACTIVE breed. He would benefit from romps along the bike twice a day. This breed was originally bred to go over rough terrain in horrid weather conditions and go for MILES pulling a sled. The dog still has this drive and yet its expected to be happy in a house or kennel or yard. Behavioral problems are the end result.
Some helpful hints....the dog is not whining because he is "hot". The siberian's coat acts as an insulator from hot & cold. He's whining to get his way and nothing more, or he as seperation anxiety which is only made worse each time you "obey" him and open that door when he whines.
He's "marking" your bed, a dominant behavior. You might try misting the bed with white viniger, or close the door to the bedroom when he's unsupervised in the house (tho he may just start somewhere else) Try to keep him in the same area you are, and when you can't he goes in the crate or outdoors.
Your husband is very lazy. It's shameful that he dumps this responsibility on you. However I would think a marriage is worth more then a dog. It's a tough problem you have. And I simply don't have any good advice for you about your hubby as it sounds like you've already tried everything......well....except for maybe going on strike? :)
2007-08-28 15:45:55 · answer #1 · answered by Onyx Ninja 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd sit him down and ask if he still wants the dog because you're not enjoying doing 100% of the care and want to adopt it to another home.
If he wants it, he needs to show that through the care and feeding. If he slacks off, then the dog goes out for adoption.
I'd not want to sleep in dog pee either (you DO have plastic sheets on the bed under the sheets to protect the mattress don't you?). A shower curtain laid across the bed may help save the covers a bit too.
But nobody needs to live in dog pee, so it's ultimatum time. And don't back down.
2007-08-28 22:06:47 · answer #2 · answered by Elaine M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to the pet store and get a spray belt, that will stop the urinating in the house. Are you just recently married, the dog could be seeing you as a threat and is trying to assert his dominance. If it is too much for you, you should consider finding the dog a new home. It isn't fair to either of you to have to be together when you clearly don't like each other.
2007-08-28 22:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by Jinny E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to see a dog behaviorist and a marriage counselor.
I admire you for going to so much work for the dog. It's also great that you've taken him to the vet to rule out medical problems. I certainly understand your frustration, though. You don't say much about your husband's role, but it seems like he needs to take a more active interest in your concerns and his dog.
In the meantime, shut your bedroom door! I've known or heard of more than one dog who pees on the bed. This is a dominance issue, I think. Shutting the door is one surefire way to avoid pee on the bed.
2007-08-28 22:02:28 · answer #4 · answered by Cleoppa 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
well for the first thing -my dog used to pee on my bed, on the floor, poop in the BATHTUB (!!!) and poop and pee on ouyr beds and the floor, well that stopped one our yard got fenced in, i have a question for you is your yard fenced in? if so maybe you could let the doggy outside for a few hours a day (thats wat i do at least) as for your husband not taking care of the dog, i think that you should have a chat with him one-on-one tell him how you feel and if he really wanted the dog that HE would take care of it not you, and that you are getting sick of taking care of a dog that you didnt even want (ok maybe you did want him i dont know :0 ) anyway hope this works!
2007-08-28 22:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by Lily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow..........i'd hazard a guess if ya took to the couch and let HIM sleep in the dog peed bed yer point would be made. The dog probably need daily positive attention from your husband. Can he be an outside dog? He has a thick coat and may be warm enough although Huskies are real pack dogs and he mightn't be happy. Good luck at any rate..
Well you've added more info. Maybe keep the door shut and more obedience training from you, it could be the dominance issue someone else mentioned.
I mean good luck, you sound stressed and our pets ought to help relieve it.
2007-08-28 22:07:15 · answer #6 · answered by ponokadawg 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he's not going to spend time with the dog and your the whole care taker. Maybe you need to find a new owner for the dog. Or tie him outside . or close the bed room door.
2007-08-28 22:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep the dog outside!
do you and your husband sleep together? if so then leave the pee on the bed the next morning and you sleep on the couch or somethin. he'll eventually want a dry bed.
2007-08-28 22:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what you have said here, and that he must either take responsibility for the dog, or he must find it a new home. If he can't respect you enough to hear that, then just start the divorce papers now, cause he's not going to respect you any time soon.
2007-08-28 22:04:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
id would say if you still want the dog take care of it.if not give it away or put it up for adoption.or spray the dog with a water bottle everytime you catch them pee ing
2007-08-28 22:02:58 · answer #10 · answered by dcrc93 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋