Calling all Parents, would you ever tell your kids that you smoked pot, even if it corners you later on?

Question

I saw this on the msn home page and wondered how may parents would actually tell their kids. I am not a parent yet, but all you parents out there, what would you like to say?

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Answer 1

yes, i would as long as it was in the proper context. parents are human too, but i think they often forget that kids will trust them more if they're themselves instead of holier than thou. besides, kids are perceptive. they know a lot more than we think they do. i would tell my kids that i got high once, and that's why i never did drugs again. i hated the feeling.

Answer 2

I never smoked pot (or anything else for that matter), however I think whether or not a parent should tell their kids this depends on how old the kids are and whether or not they are likely to make the decision to do it "because mom did." Kids are all so different, it's hard to say what would be best for everyone.

Answer 3

I have never smoked pot for this very reason (sort of)...I am the youngest of 5 kids...so I've been an aunt since I was 11.

I'm REALLY close with my nieces and nephews and they've always come to me....I wanted to be able to tell them I never have and have it be the truth.

My husband has and we plan to tell our children when they are old enough (middle school) to understand. My husband is a recovering alcoholic (22 years sober) and I think it is important that they hear the truth from us (seeing as his family ALWAYS feels the need to discuss how horrible he was and they'll hear it) and so they understand how bad it was for him and that he almost had no life as a result.

Also, our children need to know we aren't perfect so they will come to us. They also need to know they have addictive genes and to stay away from substances.

Answer 4

that's a hard one. i quit smoking pot the day my pregnancy test said positive, and my husband finally quit when my daughter was 3 1/2 months old.honestly, the only reason i don't want us to smoke, is because of the negative influence it could have on our daughter, and the trouble we could get into. and it would kill me if i lost my daughter over something that foolish. but besides that, i have nothing against smoking pot. as long as my daughter never does it. that's kind of two faced, but i would never want my little girl to do a lot of things i did before i got married and had a baby. so no, i don't think i would ever tell her.

Answer 5

I never smoked pot. I had a roommate who did and, man, was he Boring (with a capital B)...so I tell my daughter's that boys who do drugs are no fun and I tell them some of the stupid things that he used to do*.

So far, they haven't brought anyone home that reeks of reefer.

* example: I was a bass player and this guy would sit in front of my guitar and twang the strings for hours on end. I would hear Twang and Whooaa....It got old after awhile. I don't think I enjoyed playing bass as much as he did!

Answer 6

I am not a parent yet, but when I have kids, and they ask me about it I will tell them that yes, I smoked pot, and it was expensive and boring... and to many of the people I started smoking with went on to smoke it everyday and be pot heads!

Answer 7

this is a good question, one many of us parents never thought of when we were young thinking we knew everything and everyone else, esp. our parents- were wrong!

i am a parent of 4 great sons. i have abused drugs and alcohol during different times in their lives. i don't believe for a second that our children don't know something is different about us when we drink or drug, even at young ages.

my children know of my history and i am thankful today, because it has opened some lines of communication that i don't feel would be available if i decided to hide the TRUTH.

we are just human and we all make mistakes, difference is when we learn from them. i learnt from mine and if there ever comes a time when one of my children needs advice or help, I'll be right there to support them.

Answer 8

I never smoked pot. But if I did, I think it would depend on the age and maturity of my kid. If he was mature enough to understand that it was something I regretted, and see it as a learning experience, I would tell him. If he was the type of kid who would be likely to throw it in my face every time he got mad, then no. Either way, I think I would tell eventually - even if I had to wait until the kid was grown.

Answer 9

Yep i would!
I wouldnt condone it either, i started on pot at 12 and then went onto the heavy stuff by the time i was 14.
Thanks to my hubby now and falling pregnant with my son.
I stopped!
God knows where i would be or my son for that matter if i didnt! My children will be knowing about drugs and sex as soon as i think they are old enough to understand!

Answer 10

I am not a mom yet either, but I have never smoked pot or anything else, so yes I would tell my kids that I never have. I think it is very important to be honest with your children, and in this case, I have nothing to hide, so why not?!

Answer 11

I'd tell her I tried it, which I have. I'll also tell her that it's a terrible drug and can be habit forming (just look at her aunties and uncles and what losers they are). My mom has had a pot habit for AT LEAST the past 30 years and probably smoked during her pregnancies. It's really heartbreaking that she'd choose her drugs over her children, but she has.